“A home,” wrote Solomon the Wise, “is built with wisdom.”

And not with a hammer.

With a hammer, you can nail together disparate parts and force them to hold together. You can build a house, but not a home.

But wisdom is the glue of beauty. Wisdom, meaning the ability to step back and see all of the picture, the past and, most important, the future to which all this leads. To see the truth inside each person and each event in that person’s life.

And then to find the oneness of all those truths, so that they can all be in harmony with one another, to feel accepted and secure at home.

Without wisdom, there are only fragments. With wisdom, there is a whole. And there is peace between all the parts of that whole.

Sefer Hasichot 5704, page 100.