Criticizing another person is not out of the question. Just attend to a few conditions before you start:
First, make sure this person is your close friend. Those are the only people worth criticizing—not just because they may actually listen, but also because you run a lower risk of making them into your sworn enemies.
If this person is not yet your close friend, you’ll need to spend some time together, going out of your way to do a favor whenever possible, until a real friendship develops. That will also put things in context, since you’ll discover everything that’s good about this person.
Also, you’ll need to ensure that this person has the same knowledge, understanding and perspective of right and wrong as you do before you can attack his decisions. If that’s not so, you’ll need to spend some time learning and discussing together until you see each other’s point of view.
Once the two of you are in the same headspace, and you’re both good friends to boot, then it’s okay to criticize—if necessary. And if you can remember what there was to criticize.
I think to listen to another about anyone is not kosher, G-d is the way to go , what if your wrong and jumping to conclusions about a person, or you miss a opportunity to teach a person who wasnt raised as you? Family or not. I think it best to avoid criticizing and I agree with author , instead make friends and find out who they are rather than looking at what you think you know or were told about them. Sad , but true we give up on people to quickly and judge without knowing thier story 😔 sad !!! I don't think this is what G-d intended we can always find things we don't like. Let us learn to do and be better ... love , Joy , peace to Israel and Jerusalem , Shalom
In agreement! Lashon Harah for the sake of it is forbidden. However, H' gave us free will and the ability to live in this world to the best of our ability. Situations arise in which is best not to say a thing.! Yet, in others we should say something- so that the situation doesn't aggravate itself. Criticism is possible: it is how of what you say, more than the what because the latter is the issue of the discussion. Incidents between humans should be resolved. We were given speech so as to talk and resolve issues. Yes., I am my brother's keeper but not to the point of abasing myself . Derech eretz on both sides is definitely call for. We don't know what H' intended when humans with emotions were created.