Keep your trust in G‑d for yourself.

When things don’t go so well, tell yourself it is all really for the good, and rejoice in however G‑d treats you.

But when others come with their troubles, telling them they should rejoice in their afflictions can be callous and even cruel.

Cry with them, pray for them, do everything you can for them—and then you can tell them to trust in G‑d.