Everything that occurs comes from Him, and He is only good.
But if you and your world are not open to receiving such good from beyond, it may manifest itself as apparent bad—much as heavy rains upon untilled soil bring floods in the place of abundant produce.
How do you soften the soil and open yourself to divine goodness?
By opening your heart and opening your eyes to see the love and the beauty that surrounds you
—and then the good will sprout forth from the very earth where it was concealed.

Don’t harden your heart because of the hurt you’ve suffered from life in general or specifically from your parents, or maybe from your spouse or a best friend. Open the gates to your heart and allow love to come back in, then your heart will become soft and pliable again so Hashem can mold it to his likening. That’s his gift to all of us, our right to choose good or bad. Just because we made a mistake or allowed anger and hatred to enter our lives doesn’t mean we always have to live with all of those horrible attributes. Yes, there’s despair and hardship, but there’s also happiness and prosperity. We just have to learn to open our senses and observe all the beauty that surrounds each and everyone of us. Hashem gave us that beauty to outweigh all the ugliness, that really does lurk around the corners of our lives and enjoy each and everyday that we’re still alive.
one should anyhow be able and take a distance from the toxic context or circumstance, which may be possible or not (otherwise it becomes difficult to soften one's Heart, while being under attack); Blessings to everyone