You murmured in your tents, saying, '"Because G‑d hates us, He took us out of the land of Egypt to deliver us into the hands of the Amorites to exterminate us." (Deuteronomy 1:27)
Really, He loves you, but you despised Him. As the common saying goes, “Whatever is in your heart towards your friend, you imagine he feels towards you.” (Rashi)
Often we justify our own feelings by projecting them on others, twisting the entire relationship backward and upside-down.
We can’t get our way, so we say, “I’m doing everything to accommodate them, and they’re being so stubborn.”
And they say, “But it’s just the opposite! You won't give an inch!”
We don’t want to be around people, so we feel, “I’m trying to be nice to them, but they don’t want me around.”
And they say, “We would love to have you around, but you don’t seem to want to be here with us.”
In just the same way, we project our own feelings on the One who made us, attempting to twist truth inside-out.
We become absorbed with our own little world and can’t find room for G‑d within it, so we feel, “All I am to G‑d is just an ugly little cockroach messing up His universe.”
How does G‑d feel?
There, with G‑d, is the true reality.
That He gives you life and all things He knows are good for you and awaits the time you will recognize how good it all is.
That He showers you with love, and awaits the time that you will return that love to Him.
That He eagerly awaits every word of your prayers, treasures every mitzvah you might do, kisses every word of Torah that comes from your lips—but you have no idea how precious you are to Him.
You may push back. You may run away. But just one small turn, and He’s there waiting.
Run from your delusions. Embrace reality. Reality is love.
The phenomena described here is called in Psychology "projection." It is the easiest way not to deal with our own feelings. Yet, it is also true that we can gauge people by their behavior, and truly not want to be part of them. The fragment is talking about action and reactions in human society. The true fact is that humans are imperfect, and some do misbehave, and in that case who wants to be with them? This reality is not the same when we describe the relationship with H'. That is not an equal interaction, and while we can project feelings about H' we will be on the wrong path- starting from the point of uniqueness an perfection! How can I project my feelings of annoyance to H' when it is life that hit me not H'. Anyone projecting feeling about H' is incorrect since we are his creation and "Vahavta et H" bechol nafshecha U b'cho meodecha, ( and you should love H' with all your soul and with all you being). We owe it to the Creator not to project something only human!.