In order for to live in harmony with someone, it’s not enough that you can tolerate that person's faults.
It’s not enough that you leave room for another person to live as they are.
It’s not even enough that you give all you have to the other.
You need to be able to receive from this other person.
To adopt something enriching of this person into yourself.
To the point that wherever you go, you will carry a precious piece of the other’s soul.
המשך תער״ב ע׳ תקצז
Marriage can be a blessed G dly union or a cursed nightmare! It’s up to the man an woman joining their hands in Holy Matrimony. These two people must learn how to give and receive everyday of their lives; it sounds easy enough but in all actuality it’s more difficult then getting a degree from a university. Especially when one of the two just wants to receive and never give back. His/her cup is always overflowing and the other one is left with an empty cup. That leads to big problems insurmountable problems that sometimes can’t be fixed. Unless, G d is asked to intervene to tear the entire union down and start rebuilding. Sometimes the union is beyond repair then separation occurs bringing about divorce all because two people who thought they loved each other so very much ended up hating each other in the end. It’s even worst when G d is blamed for not coming down from his heavenly home in the sky and not sprinkling magic dust on the marriage he ordained.