In order for two to be married together, it’s not enough that they can be tolerant of each other’s faults.
It’s not enough that they leave room for one another.
It’s not even enough that they give to each other.
They need to be able to receive from one another,
and to learn from one another something they each would never have on their own,
to the point that each one will carry a precious piece of the other’s soul wherever he or she goes.
המשך תער״ב ע׳ תקצז
Marriage can be a blessed G dly union or a cursed nightmare! It’s up to the man an woman joining their hands in Holy Matrimony. These two people must learn how to give and receive everyday of their lives; it sounds easy enough but in all actuality it’s more difficult then getting a degree from a university. Especially when one of the two just wants to receive and never give back. His/her cup is always overflowing and the other one is left with an empty cup. That leads to big problems insurmountable problems that sometimes can’t be fixed. Unless, G d is asked to intervene to tear the entire union down and start rebuilding. Sometimes the union is beyond repair then separation occurs bringing about divorce all because two people who thought they loved each other so very much ended up hating each other in the end. It’s even worst when G d is blamed for not coming down from his heavenly home in the sky and not sprinkling magic dust on the marriage he ordained.