Someone wrote that in his administrative duties, he had taken an action that fiercely angered one of his associates and turned him against him.
The Rebbe replied:
Bring into your heart a deep love for this man,
and his anger will spontaneously disappear.
loving the person who detests you practically tell me how to bring a deep love of this person into your heart. I have not been able to do this and struggle even though it is really what I want Reply
High notes & low tones are a part of an Overture of love
If an arrow misses the mark it's called a: sin in archery. If any would put someone to correction/exact on a matter they would have 2B heard & regarded. What would happen if an entire community refused to smell the smoke, wouldn't all be unable to see? If a serious danger was unseen by neglect over time wouldn't societies be living in a false sense of security? Many times mechanically performed procedures have a tendency to dull minds. If impliments to safeguard from this are not in place (many would forget) to: stand "Steadfast". For many reasons than a few intelligence are in charge of security, those who regard all people as a whole.
Are we in place able to step up or not? Can the unvetted, man security gates? There is a time & a place to catch a problem before an *outlier. When soundness abandons watchfulness & its caught: an emergency & a change is inevitable. Individuals need to be confident to measure one another enough to network differences to know what it is to aid & extend.
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Spontaneous Disappearance This morning, reading the Psalms for Fridays, noticed, Psalm 109, where King David of blessed memory, asks Hashem, blessed be He, for the destruction of his enemies. Meditating on this regard, said to G-d: "please help me to deal with those who hate me." There are many Psalms where King David, asks for the destruction of his enemies. It would be hypocrisy to not feel some pain for the hurts others inflict on us. I do not feel hatred for anyone, G-d forbid. And for fear of the L-rd try not to maintain a grudge on those who hate me. But, we must ask G-d for deliverance from this violent, and hateful beings, and run from them. There are those out there who feed on hatred, anger, and control. They want to have power and dominion over others at any cost. We need to pray for their heart to change, but, I belief, we need to also ask G-d for protection against their claws. Good and evil is everywhere, but choices are ours too. There are those who chose evil, and control. Lets face it. B''H Reply
Changing the Illusionary World Difficult as it is for us to grasp, the Kabbalists tell us that everything is really happpening INSIDE of you. You actually project your attitude and feelings through your egoistic senses into your world view. Change your attitude altruisically and you will reflect a whole new picture of your world! Reply
Mother bites her nose off I was just talking to my sister and I personally took this advise for Spontaneous - by bringing into my heart my mother who, although she is deceased, I see her tyrannical in my mind's eye all the time, and the only way I can surface and get some air is to do that and have a deep love for her. And yes have the anger disappear...and I was explaining this to my sister who actually hates her - I told her a great great Rabbi helped me with this - she didn't budge yet-not yet-but I love her and I have the faith that she will see this. We share a history together...secrets...and I believe she will learn to have love for mother. Thank you for reading this. Reply
Spontaneous Wonderful advice! - but how does one do it? Overtly? Covertly? Reply
spontaneous but not practical I am afraid it is not so practical, because maybe only a tsadik could "bring" a deep love into his heart towards a disturbing fellow. Reply
The Power of Love Love is a very powerful feeling to feel that I am -or so it seems-just begining to realize about-and I feel I knew very little about it before I read "Spontaneous"...Feeling deep love for a person who is supremely angry alllll the time and I mean constantly angry-is a hard hard thing to do and is the single most hardest thing one will do with ones life....is...to love a person who is incredably angry at the world and love that person with all your heart and soul-with G-ds blessing of course Reply
G-d loves everyone equally, because each seemingly disparate soul develops individually as intended.
So there are many ways we interact with varying results. I made some enemies here and there, due to various disagreements at work, but I didn’t intend them to be personal (my job was Quality management) yet others did. (There is a lot more to the story of me.) So I didn’t have to develop love in my heart, as far as I know. I just let them be themselves and prayed. Letting yourself love the person will prevent more problems from your side.
If we think we control our bodies and others theirs, there will always be conflict. In that case we disconnect from our real Self, and that will force G-d to work at getting our attention and connecting rather than allowing Him to take care of our higher needs.