How could it be that a prayer goes unanswered?
Some will tell you that every prayer is answered, but sometimes the answer is, “no”.
Those who say this do not understand the secret of prayer. For prayer is when a human being below burns down the walls of his or her own ego, bringing delight to the One Above. And when delight is brought Above, it must return below.
So some will tell you that, yes, the prayer is always answered, but perhaps only in a spiritual realm. Not always can a prayer affect the coarseness of our material world.
But this cannot be, for the human being below did not pray for a spiritual blessing, but for a material one. To the place from which the prayer came, to there the blessing must return.
Rather, it must be that every prayer is answered, in our world, now, for the one who prayed and for that which he prayed.
The problem is only in the packaging—that it is wrapped up in the messy business of our coarse and dark world, so that at times we cannot see through the wrappings to discover the answer to our prayer.
But there will be a time when all of us will return to the One Above with all our hearts, and then all the concealment of this world will be shattered. The wrappings will fall away and we will see how each prayer was answered in its time. And we will hold all the blessings of all those millennia in our hands.
Learning to pray with Ana BeKoach - the 42 letter name is helpful. This honors Shekinah and Ha Kodesh Baruchu in unity.
“ There is no division of unity. It remains the same as crown or as lower Shekinah from beginning to the end. How are the heavens stretched? Consider your thoughts that awaken after they have been first brought forth. Each moment opportunities for connection occur expanding the original thought focusing it more and more, distilling it. As this happens thoughts fill the consciousness like stars in the heavens. These thoughts are arranged and expanded upon. She is above She is below. Learn how to see her everywhere. She exalts from above and sustains from below like the vowels do in terms of the letters they color.”
Tikkunei Zohar