By the Grace of G‑d
23rd of Sivan, 5718
[June 11, 1958]
Brooklyn, N.Y.

Greeting and Blessing:

I received your letter, in which you write your ideas about your son’s future, and you ask me to use my influence with him to urge him to go to college.

I am sure you will agree with me that in the case of everyone without exception, the first basic condition for happiness in life is peace of mind and the least amount of inner conflict. This has always been a fundamental principle, and it is even more so in our present generation, with its world-shattering events, confusions, conflicting ideas and ideologies. Nothing speaks more forcefully about the existing state of mind of present-day youth than the unheard-of rebellion against society in the form of juvenile delinquency and demoralization of character, all of which is a symptom of our confused age.

Therefore, the first and best thing one can do to help one’s child is to endeavor to spare him the inner conflicts and to help him cultivate good religious and moral principles, so that he would not fall prey to human influences. This is especially important at the critical age of youth, when one’s character and world outlook are being formed and stabilized.

With this brief introduction, I return to what you consider such a problem, namely your attempt to persuade your son to go to college and his reluctance to do so. I am sure his motives are of his purest nature, desiring to dedicate a certain period of time to the exclusive study of the Torah. At his age, to try to force him give up something which he rightly considers in his best interests, something that is good and holy which he desires very much, would certainly upset him and inevitably endanger his peace of mind. Even if he should not show outward signs of resentment, he might well develop such a feeling subconsciously, which is sometimes even worse. It is also doubtful whether such attempts to make him change his mind would be successful.

But would his attendance in college be in his best interests? You think that a college education would give him a greater security economically. Actually, only a small percentage of college graduates directly derive their incomes from their college degree. In the final analysis, however, one cannot make calculations and plans about the future without taking G‑d into account. For after all, G‑d is not only the Creator of the world, Whose direct Providence extends to every individual and detail, and success or failure is from Him; but He is also the Giver of the Torah, and it would be obviously illogical and impossible that when a Jewish boy dedicates a few years to the exclusive study of G‑d’s Torah, it would lessen his chance for happiness in life.

If, as we have said, the material benefits of a college degree are doubtful, there can be no doubt, however, as to the obvious dangers when a Yeshiva boy is subjected several times during the week to such radical changes of atmosphere and ideology as exist between the Yeshiva and the college, where the majority of students are gentiles, and the majority of the Jewish students are unfortunately not religious, etc. It is impossible for a student to avoid contact with fellow students and professors. Hence, even if your son would have liked to go to college, it would have been highly problematical as to the advisability of it, as it is impossible to foresee what conflicts and dangers it would entail. But now that you are fortunate that your son does not want to do it but rather devote his time to the Yeshiva and to remain in its healthy and conflict-free atmosphere, surely he should be encouraged in his wise determination.

I am aware, of course, that there are boys who together with their Yeshiva education attend college. I have occasion to meet with them, and I can assure you that very few come out unscathed from the tremendous conflicts involved. Even those who on the surface appear to be wholesome have no peace of mind, and very, very few indeed of those who mixed Yeshiva with college have remained completely wholesome inwardly as well as outwardly.

I trust that the above few lines will suffice to help you realize how happy you should feel that your son has dedicated himself to avoid pitfalls and to remain in the exclusive and wholesome atmosphere of the Yeshivah. You should encourage him in this, so that he may learn with complete serenity, and you will be assured of real Nachas from him, and not only spiritually but also materially, when the time will come.

With blessing,