Here's a great tip:
Enter your email address and we'll send you our weekly magazine by email with fresh, exciting and thoughtful content that will enrich your inbox and your life, week after week. And it's free.
Oh, and don't forget to like our facebook page too!
Contact Us

Day Three of Week 3: Tiferet of Tiferet

Day Three of Week 3: Tiferet of Tiferet

17th Day of the Omer


Examine the compassion of compassion. The expression of compassion and its intensity. True compassion is limitless. It is not an extension of your needs and defined by your limited perspective. Compassion for another is achieved by having a selfless attitude, rising above yourself and placing yourself in the other person's situation and experience. Am I prepared and able to do that? If not, why? Do I express and actualize the compassion and empathy in my heart? What blocks me from expressing it? Am I locked in any way? Is my compassion compassionate or self-serving? Is it compassion that comes out of guilt rather than genuine empathy? How does that affect and distort my compassion? Test yourself by seeing if you express compassion even when you don't feel guilty. Does my compassion come from a sense of duty or is it frivolous? On the other hand: Is my compassion alive; does it resound with vitality, or is it expressed only out of obligation? Is my compassion only a result of being a creature of habit who feels badly when another suffers, or do I actually apply myself to examine and refine my compassion, observing it's limitations and forms of expression? How do I express compassion? Is my compassion beautiful? Is it well rounded? Does it contain the other six elements of tiferet, without which my full compassion remains unrealized.

Exercise for the day: Express your compassion in a new way that goes beyond your previous limitations: express it towards someone to whom you have been callous.

From A Spiritual Guide to the Omer by Simon Jacobson
Republished with the permission of If you wish to republish this article in a periodical, book, or website, please email
© Copyright, all rights reserved. If you enjoyed this article, we encourage you to distribute it further, provided that you comply with's copyright policy.
Join the discussion
1000 characters remaining
Email me when new comments are posted.
Sort By:
Discussion (11)
May 9, 2016
Thank you for your perspective
April 20, 2015
Todah, thanks so much for this teaching of wisdom and awakening to my soul.
May 3, 2014
The Natural mind
The natural mind cannot comprehend true compassion it must come from a heart filled with the love of G-D. This type of compassion must come from the Spirit of G-D ruling and reigning in your heart. G-D is love and fill with compassion. He is long suffering toward us.
April 28, 2014
Very Nice
Thank you for the re-working. Your refinement makes a lovely reflection even lovelier.
BA Kress
April 11, 2013
Tiferet, Chesed, Compassion, and Guilt
Loving kindness, compassion and guilt are a complex "pretzel"of emotions which require careful analysis of feelings and relationships. This is what this sefirah time is all about. Thank you for opening this discussion and awakening the depth of the issues involved for our improvement.
Brooklyn, NY
April 24, 2012
There are so many lovely ideas expressed here. But I think the author gets a bit careless.

Compassion cannot and should not be limitless. It it were, it could be destructive either of the receiver or the giver, or both.

Indeed, among other things, doesn't tiferet balance between chesed and gevurah?
BA Kress
Austin, Texas
May 7, 2011
Compassion and empathy
It is important not to confuse compassion with empathy. They are not the same. Can we ever put ourselves in the shoes of another? It may be arrogant to presume that we know how anyone else feels, thinks. Can we put ourselves in the mind of another? Compassion on the other hand is unconditional love, loving kindness.
Barbara Radzevicius
Sydney, Australia
May 5, 2011
tiferet of tiferet
toda toda/Thank you thank you.
blaine, wa
April 18, 2010
THank you -- perhaps we can touch on why the emphasis on relationships in this explanation of Tiferet -- what happened to Beauty? Perhaps Compassion is Beauty in peoplle's conduct to one another?
Bristol , UK
April 18, 2010
There is a subtle difference between them:

Chesed is a pure kindness - one that does not take into consideration the details of receiving end. Try thinking of it as a powerful love that conceals all faults. The issue of whether or not the other person is worthy doesn't even begin. The Chesed just flows.

From the perspective of Tiferet, faults are seen. "Do they really deserve it?" is a question that is asked. Nonetheless, the conclusion is that despite whatever faults exist, the kindness will still be given out of mercy.

Put differently, Chesed is something that comes purely from the giver. Tiferet requires the giver to connect with the receiver and see life from the that perspective.
Yisroel Cotlar for
Cary, NC
Related Topics
This page in other languages