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Day Six of Week 2: Yesod of Gevurah

Day Six of Week 2: Yesod of Gevurah

13th Day of the Omer


For discipline to be effective it must be coupled with commitment and bonding. Both in disciplining yourself and others there has to be a sense that the discipline is important for developing a stronger bond. Not that I discipline you, but that we are doing it together for our mutual benefit.

Exercise for the day: Demonstrate to your child or student how your bonding with each other is an essential ingredient in discipline and growth.

From A Spiritual Guide to the Omer by Simon Jacobson
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Anonymous Mi May 5, 2016

Thank you for your perspective Reply

Anonymous New York City April 8, 2013

Discipline of Mutual Benefit To Anonymous in New York City, USA
You took the words right out of my brain and put them in writing as I couldn't. All of what you said was floating around in my head when I read the "daily" and I wanted to write a comment put I just couldn't put it together.
Thank you so much for clarifying my thoughts.
I know exactly what you mean. It's a tough realization to come to and accept. Especially in a world that convinces you that there is such a thing as a soul mate as in the intense relationship you refer to.
Letting go and letting G-d is the only choice.....that is for sure! Reply

Jana Oklahoma April 7, 2013

Thank you! Reply

Anonymous New York City, USA April 19, 2012

Discipline for Mutual Benefit Now there's the fly in the ointment....."...doing it together for mutual benefit."
It is not often possible to find people who are on the "same page" as you or who are playing with the same ground rules. Oftentimes I find
myself "in it" alone. It becomes very frustrating and, indeed, discouraging and disheartening to see so clearly how things could improve if only there was a sense of mutual agreement. Getting others to "sign on" even in the most intense of relationships is just not possible. Even when it is so obvious that things are not working as they should the other party doesn't want to put in the effort or make the changes necessary to improve the situation. The realization of that can be truly devastating and takes much time to recover from. Then comes the need to accept that you're in it alone, that you really can never change anyone but yourself, that you need to continue to strive for continued spiritual growth, and then just let go and let G-d! Reply

Anonymous Malta May 1, 2011

Committment and bonding In other words participation..
Very true indeed. Reply

Chaya Bluma April 22, 2009

Discipline for Mutual Benefit This is a tough one.

My teenage daughter regularly wants to stay up later than her bedtime. On the one hand, I want her to learn responsibility for making her own choices. On the other hand, we both know that we function much better if we've gotten enough sleep.

Though it's a struggle, when we are disciplined, we put aside momentary enjoyment in favor of more long-terms goals.

G-d created us as physical beings & wants us to love ourselves enough to take care of ourselves properly. Reply

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