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Day Five: Hod of Chesed

Day Five: Hod of Chesed

5th Day of the Omer


You can often get locked in love and be unable to forgive your beloved or to bend or compromise your position. Hod introduces the aspect of humility in love; the ability to rise above yourself and forgive or give in to the one you love just for the sake of love even if you're convinced that you're right. Arrogant love is not love.

Does love humble me? Am I arrogant notwithstanding - or sometimes, because I have the capacity to love? Do I realize that the ability to love comes from a greater, higher place; from G‑d? And knowing that shouldn't I enter into any love with total humility, recognizing the great privilege of being able to love. Do I realize that through love I receive more than I give? Do I appreciate the one I love for this?

Exercise for the day: Swallow your pride and reconcile with a loved one you have quarreled with.

From A Spiritual Guide to the Omer by Simon Jacobson
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Anonymous ST. PAUL April 16, 2017

I am thankful for the message, as I certainly needed to hear it. Reply

Lamont Myers Hallendale Fl. April 27, 2016

Humility of love We've been married for four decades. It could not have lasted without the humility of love. Love doesn't abide with unforgivness. One will prevail, like a city with two kings at war. Reply

Anonymous USA April 8, 2015

Love Omer Such a beautiful teaching for the next time there is love to be loved. Forgiveness is so needed and after one forgives one must move on from a relationship of abuse. The Holy One Blessed be HE requires forgiveness through love forgiveness is for my benefit then for the other person. Now I move on learning to be free to love. Thank you. Reply

Casey R. Phoenix April 8, 2015

One can only express love and forgiveness if the other party is willing ready and wants to accept it.
This isn't the case in abusive relationships or situations where fear, control, and a lack of respect occurs from the other party.

Love is a healthy emotion. But easily used to control abuse, cause need, fear. And hurt. One must love themselves before they are able to love another.

Seek G ds guidance for this. know G d will show us the way when we put him first. Listen and hear him first. And when he shows us who to love, where to be and who to help. Don't ask why.just do it.. we are blessed. Reply

AL ARENA HAMPTON April 8, 2015

That was amazing about "LOVE". Reply

Casey April 11, 2012

on love and forgiveness Its easy to forgive when its real Love, Ive been here for over 40 yrs and I appricate hs love and guidence everyday. I learn love acceptance, joy,humiliation and patience each day.. and love grows when were together even whe.n were miles apart, we never see eye to eye, but we talk it out text it out, then its grsat again Reply

Anonymous Boise, ID/USA April 25, 2011

Hope The victim has become the oppressor and Goliath struts around the world stage as David. Yom Haatzmaut should come to remind us of the real story, of God’s grace unto us in a dismal century, of Jewish heroism and purpose and of triumph against all odds and powerful enemies.
It should also remind the world that even though it is popular and oh so politically correct and progressively noble to damn Israel, in the long run it is very counterproductive to do so. Just ask the Soviet Union! So let us take these days to heart and stand tall for our God and land.
Shabbat shalom. Reply

lynn kohain tucson, az April 24, 2011

Hod of Chesed Where does humility through lovingkindness to another meet respect for your own self and living your truth? Reply

nana jermyn, PA April 5, 2010

love Exercise for the day: Swallow your pride and reconcile with a loved one you have quarreled with. to give this love and reconcile when the person does not want to hear your words...and shuts you out completely?
In a are left standing there..with love, words and actions...but no one to take/receive? in silence..apart. This is a problem. Reply

Anonymous April 15, 2017
in response to nana:

Yes, that can happen. Still, continue to love. Love from afar if necessary. Love without waiting for love in return.The goal seems to be to love unconditionally. Love the way we want G-d to love us - the way we want to be loved. If the ones we love do not wish to receive our love, let us give them what they want. Let us go away and leave them alone.Tell your words to G-d in the privacy of your room. Maybe G-d will work with their hearts. But there is no way to force someone to love or even to receive affection. If you are still on the site, I hope by now your love issue is resolved as it sounds painful and frustrating...and lonely. Reply

Anonymous Parlin, New Jersey April 4, 2010

Love and Humility I love the daily spiritual guide to counting the Omer! It's so full of wisdom and inspiration. Thank you. This is my frst year coutning the Omer.
How can one know and reconcile the differance between a love that has humility and one that goes on lonely, weary and defeated from spouse that is abusive, one that I have forgiven over and over again only to have history repeat itself? I think I have shown much humility over the years by yielding to him and aplogizing for whatever it was that made him angry even when I didn't think I'd done anything wrong. He criticized me and berated me, condescended me in front of child and was cold and abusive. Was I wrong to end the marriage? I must have peace in my home for myself and my child? Reply

anne agoura April 4, 2010

humility a humble person will do exactly what one needs to do for love in a self-less manner.
i was married to someone who could not understand this concept; so i experienced first hand his ego and arrogance. even if one is "right", that is not the issue between loved ones. it is humility that allows a couple to forgive and truely open up to loving one another. Reply

Rivkah Scherr Alpharetta, GA April 18, 2006

Hod of Chesed Thank you for such a wonderful commentary on Hod of Chesed. My wonderful Jewish soul mate and I had been arguing, but after having read your article, I told him that I was sorry for not having enough humility in my love for him. He was touched and there is peace between us again. It really made me think when you said to "give in to a loved one just for the sake of love even if you're convinced that you are right." Thank you again for a wonderful article. Reply

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