How important is tradition in Judaism? I don't just mean for the Fiddler on the Roof — I mean for me, you, and all the rest of us. How strong is the need for tradition in the spiritual consciousness of Jews today?
Despite the effects of secularism, I would venture to suggest that there is still a need inside us to feel connected to our roots, our heritage, and our sense of belonging to the Jewish people.
But for vast numbers of our people, tradition alone has not been enough. And that applies not only to the rebellious among us who may have cast aside their traditions with impunity, but also for many ordinary, thinking people who feel that to do something just because "that's the way it has always been done" is simply not good enough.
So what if my grandfather did it? My grandfather rode around in a horse and buggy! Must I give up my car for a horse just because Zayde rode a horse? And if my Bobba never got a university degree, that means that I shouldn't? So, just because my grandparents practiced certain Jewish traditions, why must I? Perhaps those traditions are as obsolete as the horse and buggy?
There are many Jews who think this way, and who will not be convinced to behave Jewishly just because their grandparents did.
We need to tell them why their grandparents did it. They need to understand that their grandparents' traditions were not done just for tradition's sake, but there were very good reasons why their forebears practiced those traditions. And that those very same reasons and rationales still hold good today.
Too many young people were put off tradition because some cheder or Talmud Torah teacher didn't take their questions seriously. They were silenced with a wave of the hand, a pinch of the ear, the classic When you get older, you'll understand, or the infamously classic Just do as you're told.
There are answers. There have always been answers. We may not have logical explanations for tsunamis and other tzoris, but all our traditions are founded on substance and have intelligible, credible underpinnings. If we seek answers we will find them in abundance, including layers and layers of meaning, from the simple to the symbolic to the philosophical and even mystical.
This week's Parshah features the Song of the Sea, sung by Moses and the Jewish people following the splitting of the sea and their miraculous deliverance from the Egyptian armies. In its opening lines we find the verse,1 This is my G‑d, and I will glorify Him; the G‑d of my fathers, and I will exalt Him.
The sequence is significant. First comes my G‑d, and only thereafter the G‑d of my fathers. In the Amidah, the silent devotion which is the apex of our daily prayers, we begin addressing the Almighty as Our G‑d and the G‑d of our fathers... Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Again, our G‑d comes first. So it is clear that while the G‑d of our fathers — i.e. "tradition" — most definitely plays a very important role in Judaism, still, an indispensable prerequisite is that we must make G‑d ours, personally. Every Jew must develop a personal relationship with G‑d. We need to understand the reasons and the significance of our traditions, lest they be seen as empty ritual to be discarded by the next generation.
Authentic Judaism has never shied away from questions. Questions have always been encouraged and formed a part of our academic heritage. Every page of the Talmud is filled with questions — and answers. You don't have to wait for the Passover Seder to ask a question.
When we think, ask, and find answers to our faith, then the traditions of our grandparents become alive, and we understand fully why we should make them ours. Once a tradition has become ours, then the fact that this very same practice has been observed uninterruptedly by our ancestors throughout the generations becomes a powerful force that can inspire us and our children for all time.
That YOU believe and say that there are good reasons for traditional practices is not sufficient. My grandparents practiced traditional Judaism because their grandparents practiced traditional Judaism, and so on. To not do so would have ostracized them from their family or community. The Judaism they practiced DID, however, maintain social cohesion in a community that was bounded by threats on all sides. Once those threats were eliminated or lessened by coming to the United States, they gave it all up. So clearly, they did not understand how traditional Jewish practice enriched their lives. One practices traditional Judaism because one believes it's the Law - commanded - or one practices because there are tangible benefits from doing so.To find those benefits requires positive experiences and instruction in a language that makes sense and without judgement. And at least SOME of those benefits need to be real and embodied, with some kind of positive feelings. To find that is rare.
Dear Alan, I am not here to condemn people who practiced Judaism in the 'old country' and gave it up in America. I didn't face the challenges of new immigrants who couldn't find work if they didn't come in on Saturday, for example. I will say that it is for this precise reason that a good Jewish education is so important for our children. They must understand our values and why we live by them so they can live authentic Jewish lives under all circumstances.