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My Baby Died on the Operating Table

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My Baby Died on the Operating Table

After experiencing searing loss, Elissa Felder found comfort in caring for the departed. When her grandchild died decades later, she needed to do the unimaginable.
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Jodi Nicastro Stony Brook June 10, 2026

What an incredible woman. To find blessings in death and be able to comfort others. Amazing! Reply

Susan Dworin May 10, 2026

I watched and listened to it again. Amazing interview. I think what made it special was how open she was about how and why things affected her. And yes what she learned and we learned with her. I learned so much. I was often brought to tears. I think she said something like, “we teach what we are learning...” (bringing us into the process). It all touched me deeply.

I am grateful to Chabad for this opportunity to meet these wonderful people. Chana, you always ask the right questions it seems. Thank you. Reply

Dina May 7, 2026

Thank you for this interview with Elissa Felder🙏 Reply

Chana Rivka Schoenberg Ramat bet Shemesh May 6, 2026


As a mosaic artist rearranging shattered pieces into something whole is my own Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold powder, so the cracks become part of the beauty rather than something hidden.
The idea behind it is very meaningful: brokenness and repair are part of an object’s history and can make it more beautiful.
Losing my husband a few years ago l was and remain broken and that's ok . When he passed a part of me passed with him.trying to mend and create my own kintsugi expression . However ,Its not either brokenness or inspiration . The 2 can exist simultaneously. In all due respect l dont agree with Ms. Felder when she says l am not broken but inspired. Reply

Starr D. California May 6, 2026

Chana, these talks are so helpful to those of us who've gone through really hard losses. I thank both Elisa and you for making this talk happen & sharing it with us. Comforting & insightful. Reply

Susan G. Dworin May 6, 2026

Thank you for this. It was so positive and real. Very meaningful to me, a gentle knowing…beautiful! Reply

Keishelle Achong Columbia May 5, 2026

I truly appreciate this interview. I have lost two sons and would love to you to bring her back on for another interview. I really needed to hear this. I would love to have a course on what she does for others. Bless the both of you. Please someone reach out to me. Reply

Eden Daniella Lazar Plantation May 5, 2026

My mom passed away yesterday. This interview was a soothing balm for my grief. I was wondering what happens during tahara, and how important it is, and I got my answers. And some beautiful insight on how to cope with everything. Thank you so much! Reply

Anonymous May 5, 2026

Wow! What a Magnificent interview ! So much internalise and learn from! What a Special, Brilliant woman!!! Reply

Anonymous May 5, 2026

Thank you! Really enjoyed this deap lesson packed conversation.
In general I love all these interviews from Chana and enjoy them so much. They are always so amazing!!
Thank you so much! Reply

SuzyQ Queens NYC May 4, 2026

Great conversation.
Deep and articulate.
Struck several chords.
Very positive!

Thank you both! Reply

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