Text of the Get

What if a husband has not fulfilled his obligations as a husband during the marriage, I.e. he has engaged in the physical and verbal abuse of his wife and children instead of protecting and caring for them? If a woman accepts a get from such a man, ‘discharging her as his wife,’ there is the assumption that he has the right to discharge her—the right of a husband. But if he has not acted as a husband, and has instead engaged in ongoing verbal and physical abuse, how can he be granted the rights of one to ‘discharge his wife?’ It seems to me in such cases there should be the legal opportunity to simply annul the marriage—to legally classify it as if it never existed—rather than to give such a ‘husband’ the privilege of even being considered a husband. He should not be allowed to ‘discharge his wife’ since he did he did not respect, honor and treat her as a wife. In such cases, there should be way to classify the marriage as never having existed. Reply

Once the woman receives the Get, is their any receipt or paper evidence that is given to the gentleman? Or do you just go on merit that the gentleman gave his ex-wife a Get? Reply

How the GET can be done if the wife lives now in Israel and the husband in America ? (We did go through the divorce in court but not the Jewish one yet) Reply

Dear Elishuva
Thank you. Reply

Elishuva, please see the great joy and celebrate the statement in the Get that "you are permitted and have authority over yourself to go and marry any man you desire. No person may object against you from this day onward, and you are permitted to every man." Reply

Dear Elishuva,

Thank G-d you have a Get and don't have to go through the torture of being an agunah. Join the Facebook group "Unchain my Sister" to find out how fortunate you are compared to the women whose husband left them or had to run away from their husband's abuse and her husband refuses to give her a Get.

David, thanks so much for your willingness to give your wife a Get unlike the monster husbands who desert their wives or abuse them until they have to run away and then refuse to give her a Get, preventing her from marrying or developing a relationship with another man. Nowadays we need to express our appreciation for husbands who are enough of a mensch to give their ex-wife a Get. Reply

Dear Elishuva,
I fell across what you wrote on here. I am so sad that you would put yourself through all of this. You have the gift of life. Just because it did not work with one man on this planet is no reason to keep being sad and keep only unto yourself. If you want me to contact you, please give me a way to contact you. There are many ways to overcome sadness.

Please don't let your soul die! Live again and enjoy the days you have on this earth. I have no idea why you feel you have to be alone. This just is not true. Grab onto happiness and never let it go! Reply

Dear Elishuva,

I understand completely... I've been separated for about 2 years now and the time has come for a GET. I too thought I would never be happy again, but Torah and Prayer has helped me find the happiness within myself and has taught me to love again, especially myself. This inner peace and love has helped me forgive many people and myself for the troubles in my family. I am closer to my daughters and friendlier with my wife now.

I hope you too find happiness again... Good luck.

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I am Divorced I hated getting divorced it broke my heart in many pieces. That was back in 1993.I never remarried ,he re-married now he has two grown girl, he and I have 2 grown boys. I have never found happiness again. Divorce kills part of your being, I know G-D loves me and I believe He wants me to not be alone the rest of my life. I just don't know how to heal from this great loss. The greatest thing is I forgive both of us for our divorce,and we do get a long good both he and his wife,we have grand children together and sons, they didn't cause our divorce. Reply