The sixth difference: A person who relies on G‑d is beloved by all types of people, and they feel at ease with him, because they feel secure that he will not harm them, and their hearts are at peace because of him. They are not afraid of his taking their wives or their money.
וְהַשִּׁשִּׁי, כִּי הַבּוֹטֵחַ בֵּאלֹהִים הוּא אָהוּב לְכָל כִּתּוֹת בְּנֵי אָדָם וְדַעְתָּם נוֹחָה עָלָיו, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהֵם בְּטוּחִים מֵהַזָּקָתוֹ וְלִבָּם שָׁלֵם מֵחֲמָתוֹ, וְלֹא יִפְחֲדוּ מִמֶּנּוּ עַל נְשֵׁיהֶם וְעַל מָמוֹנָם.
He too feels secure with them, because he knows that his benefit or harm are not in the hands of any creation, nor is it in their power to do either good or bad to him. Therefore, he is not afraid of their harming him, just as he does not expect to benefit from them.
וְהוּא גַם כֵּן בָּטוּחַ מֵהֶם, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁיּוֹדֵעַ שֶׁתּוֹעַלְתּוֹ וְנִזְקוֹ אֵינָם בְּיַד נִבְרָא וְלֹא בִּיכָלְתּוֹ, וְעַל כֵּן אֵינֶנּוּ מְפַחֵד מֵהַזָּקָתָם, כַּאֲשֶׁר אֵינֶנּוּ מְקַוֶּה הֲנָאָתָם.
Since he feels secure with them and they feel secure with him, he will love them and they will love him, as it is written (Psalms 32:10): And the one who trusts in the L-rd, kindness will encompass him.
וּכְשֶׁהוּא בָּטוּחַ מֵהֶם וְהֵם בְּטוּחִים מִמֶּנּוּ, יֹאהֲבֵם וְיֹאהֲבוּהוּ, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב (תהלים לב, י) "וְהַבּוֹטֵחַ בַּה' חֶסֶד יְסוֹבְבֶנּוּ."
Conversely, a person who does not rely on G‑d has no friends, because he always covets what others have and is jealous of them. He considers any good that comes to them to have been removed from him; he believes that their livelihood was taken from his livelihood, and that all desires that have been denied from him is because of them, or that, at the very least, it is in their hands to help him attain his desires.
וּמִי שֶׁאֵינֶנּוּ בּוֹטֵחַ בֵּאלֹהִים אֵין לוֹ אוֹהֵב, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהוּא בְּכָל עֵת חוֹמֵד אוֹתָם וּמְקַנֵּא בָּם, וְחוֹשֵׁב כָּל טוֹבָה שֶׁתַּגִּיעַ אֲלֵיהֶם סָרָה מִמֶּנּוּ, וְשֶׁטַּרְפֵיהֶם לְקוּחִים מִטַּרְפּוֹ, וְכָל מַה שֶּׁנִּמְנָע מִמֶּנּוּ מִתַּאֲווֹתָיו הוּא בַּעֲבוּרָם, וּבְיָדָם לְהַגִּיעוֹ אֶל תַּאֲווֹתָיו.
If a bad thing happens to him or he has trouble with his money or with his children, he will think that it is because of them, or that, at the very least, it is in their hands to rid him of the harm and to push away the bad from him.
וְאִם תְּבוֹאֵהוּ רָעָה אוֹ פֶּגַע בְּמָמוֹנוֹ וּבָנָיו, יַחְשׁוֹב כִּי הוּא מֵאִתָּם, וְשֶׁבְּיָדָם לְהַעֲבִיר הַנֶּזֶק וְלִדְחוֹת הָרָעָה מֵעָלָיו.
Since these principles have been fixed in his mind, he will come to despise other people as a result of this, and to denigrate them, to curse them, and to hate them. Such a person is loathed in both worlds and is disgraced in both residences— this world and the World to Come.
וְכֵיוָן שֶׁקָּדְמוּ אֵלֶּה הַהַקְדָּמוֹת בְּנַפְשׁוֹ, יָבוֹא בַּעֲבוּר זֶה לִמְאוֹס אוֹתָם, וּלְדַבֵּר בָּהֶם וּלְקַלְלָם וְלִשְׂנוֹא אוֹתָם. וְהוּא הַנִּמְאָס בִּשְׁנֵי הָעוֹלָמִים וְהַמְגֻנֶּה בִּשְׁנֵי הַמְּעוֹנִים,
As the verse states (Proverbs 17:20): He who is of a perverse heart will find no good. This means that he will not find good both in this world and in the World to Come.
כְּמוֹ שֶׁאָמַר הַכָּתוּב (משלי יז, כ) "עִקֵּשׁ לֵב לֹא יִמְצָא טוֹב."
His benefit or harm are not in the hands of any creation, nor is it in their power. The Lubavitcher Rebbe writes: “Regarding what you write that you are anxious because it appears to you that another businessman can limit your orders and lessen your income, G‑d forbid, and you ask for my opinion.…
“At any rate, like all Jews, who are ‘believers, the descendants of believers,’ you should rest assured that ‘a person’s livelihood is allocated for him from Rosh Hashanah to Yom Kippur’ ( Beitzah 16a). The income that G‑d has fixed for you, which I am sure is generous, no one can lessen, G‑d forbid, and certainly no one can take it away.
“A person must be firm in his trust and do so joyfully. For it is taught in the Zohar (II 184b) that this ‘lower’ world in which we live receives its entire flow (of energy and sustenance) from Above, and if down here the person acts with joy, then he is reciprocated in kind from the world Above, with light and with joy.
“Furthermore, it is written that we must serve Gd with joy (Psalms 100:2). Therefore, if a Jew is joyful, this joyfulness here on earth elicits upon him a (corresponding) joy from Above” ( Igrot Kodesh of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, vol. 5, p. 204).