Shidduch: Jewish Dating
Inspired by millennia of tradition and guided by the eternal teachings of the Torah, Jewish communities have developed a unique pattern of courtship and dating. The process is goal-oriented, beautiful and respectful. Read more . . .
The Shidduch: How Jewish Dating Works The process whereby a man and woman meet, become acquainted with each other and decide whether they are suitable for each other, is not only common sense – it is actually mandated by Jewish law.
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Chabad should make a dating site to help people find their soul mate.
I am a divorced single woman x3, 68 years old and I am ready to get married again ...at last, forever. I want to love and be loved. I am Shomer Shabbos.
How do I get in contact with you?. I am divorced sngle man 68 years old
I am 69, but look like I am in my late 30s due to Organic living.
I'm new here
Anyone suggest jewish matchmakers?
What is the minimum age for a girl??
Can we make it simple, Jewish gentleman seeks eligible nice Jewish girl.
How old are you?
Such Wisdom Spoken from Learned Rabbi's! Thank You for reminding All of us What the True Purpose of Dating is! Todah Rabah!
Really good text I loved that part of the Sage's counselling.
To Anonymous, Age varies depending on community customs, it is common to start the process anywhere from eighteen and up.
Can you recommend a good jewish matchmaker?
Please
What is the marriage age for girls?
(Continued from above.) Last point: In addition to daily prayer--at home and praying with the congregtion at shul (Orthodox synagogue)-- it is a mitzvah (we Jews are commanded) to study Torah regularly. Chabad will be the best resource (Trust me, I've tried every stream within Judaism and every movement within streams!) In addition to prayer and Torah study, we are commanded to give tzedaka, a Biblically mandated 10% mimimum of our resources. Tzedaka, while often translated as "charity," actually means "justice." As Chabad teaches from the Kabbalah, our spiritual work is to repair our world, "elevate the sparks." Moshiach (the Messiah) tarries until we perform these acts of justice. So get tzedak box at a Judaica website and as the Chabad rebbe taught us drop a few coins in daily. This activates the downflow of blessibgs into one's life. Wishing everyone the best! Just roadtest what I've set forth here for 21 days and see what happens! (It takes 3 weeks to form new habits.)
(Comment continued) After meditating, pick up the prayerbook (I daven from the Art Scroll Transliterated siddur which, along with providing an English translation,helps you learn Hebrew. Start with the Modeh Ani prayer first thing each day, praying fervently through the Shmonei Esrei if possble.) This practice is of supreme value because it serves to both guide your search (guide your daily path in general) but also bulletproofs you against erroneous thought patterns, misperceptions, bad judgment, you get the picture. Furthermore, it sends out the signal to the rest of the world to send you the person you need, the beschert Hashem intended. Finally, resolve to approach life in general the way King David did: "Shviti Hashem l'negdi tamid" ("I place the Lord ever before me.") Then, having cultivated the virtue of patience (it grows out of the daily prayer regimen), wait upon Hashem in full confidence that your wish will be fulfilled in His perfect time. Hang out at Chabad!
This is the most beautiful, wisest, holiest, most inspiring and most practical article I have ever read on the subject of marriage! I am specifically writing for those who have not yet found their beschert. Do not, under any circumstance, ever even think about giving up!
I've been in your shoes--it took me 68 years to meet my intended!! Some years back, when I was ready to throw in the towel, a relative of mine told me about the improbable engagement of an acquaintance who found her spouse finally at age 85 in a retirement center!! It was then that I knew I had it in me to hold onto my dream of marriage for as long as Hashem required.
Here is an absolutely foundational habit for anyone to acquire, but especially for singles do while in search mode: learn a method of meditating that is compatible with Judaism. (The Talmud tells us that the Sages sometimes required up to an hour to get finetuned to pray with proper kavanna (intention, mindfulness). (Comment continues.)
This is all inspiring
Kneeling There is no standard Jewish way of proposing, and Jews have an aversion to kneeling, since that is the not Jewish way of worship. However, you will find that many fine Jewish people have indeed proposed on one knee, even if it is not a Jewish practice
How does a Jew propose to his girlfriend? Is bending down on one knee appropriate?
As a Jewish man in my late 30's and having seldom been in an area with an abundance of Jewish women, I find it unfortunate that geography has keep us apart. It has always been my goal to meet and marry a Jewish woman who as stubborn as myself won't give up on our future together.
I am a Jewish woman by birth and wish to embrace my faith after failing 2 marriages to goyim. Happily Hashem has redeemed me and my spark is shining, so I ask The Holy One to find me my berchet. So we can grow older and. Wiser together.
It takes 3 With this beautiful article, words and so much wisdom, and truly is the most perfect plan in life, if all three were in sync with this plan... I am ... G-d is ... but it does not seem to include the third... I was married in this beautiful plan, for 23 years, no children born of this union the first 10 years, the last 13, no touching, no intimacy, no anything for the third was not present with G-d and I...how do I trust marrying anyone again, although my soul continues to yearn for my mate, in all ways. It is hard to think waiting before marriage is necessary any more, when doing the right way caused more loneliness for years. May G-d bring me, show me, complete me in His way as well as all of us who seek and desire such beauty in marriage as intended.
How do we tell parents to appreciate the shaddchan who may have devoted many hours with their singles. Often a mere "thank you" is not enough