Bonding needs to be not only loving but also compassionate, feeling your friend's pain and empathizing with him. Is my bonding conditional? Do I withdraw when I am uncomfortable with my friend's troubles?
Exercise for the day: Offer help and support in dealing with an ordeal of someone you have bonded with.
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Tiferet as harmony, balance Is my relationship beautifully rounded? Am I supported and nurtured to the same extent as I nurture and support my loved one, or am I being taken advantage of, endlessly giving and forever deprived? Am I working to know myself deeply and to establish inner balance, so that my soul and intellect may flourish? A harmonious and compassionate relationship with myself is important to strive for growth. It is not always about the other. It is right to also give to myself freely, to be happy, to persue my own dreams, and to receive love, support, and understanding from others. Reply
Thank you for sharing. For you, which comes first? Once you feel you have taken care of yourself, then you can bond, and selflessly take care of another? Or is it the converse? That is, by first taking care of another’s concerns, then your self becomes satisfied, and self-loved? This may be a good ponderance for us all. Reply
I am empathetic and very sensitive to others' pain. I withdraw when I feel overwhelmed or I don't know what I should do. Being An Aspergers person, bonding can be a challenge, yet when I do bond it is committed.