Examine the discipline of your bonding. Bonding must be done with discretion and careful consideration with whom and with what you bond. Even the healthiest and closest bonding needs "time out", a respect for each individual's space.
Do I overbond? Am I too dependent on the one I bond with? Is he too dependent on me? Do I bond out of desperation? Do I bond with healthy, wholesome people?
Exercise for the day: Review the discipline in your bonding experiences to see if it needs adjustment.
Highly needed. Toda Reply
Thank you for this wonderful gift I can honestly say that I have pondered each day on how I can rectify a feeling or thought daily. I can’t say I have mastered each but at least I am able to acknowledge each feeling/thought daily and how I can be a better person, This is first time I am counting the Omer. This is truly a blessing Reply
Thank you for reminding me every day, making it easy to do this mitsva. Thank you for the introductory meditation too. Reply
I also know that while I can have a healthy bonding, I need to be careful of "attachments" whether they be people, places, or things. My attachment needs to be in G-d's love and G-d's will for me. Reply
Well put! Thanks for posting this! Reply
Beautiful!!! Wow!!! I am so dealing with this right now in my relationship with my fiancée. Perfect timing Hashem! Reply
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Our temptation is to think of this spiritual advice mostly in the context of our relationships with other individuals. We should also think of it when we make decisions that bond ourselves to organizations, activities, or pursuits.
Are we disciplined in the commitments of time, spirit, and resources that we make, even to "causes" within the Jewish community? Are the causes we commit ourselves to true to the expectations of HaShem, or are there other values - political, ideological, financial, or social - that guide them?
By being sure that it is the former rather than the latter, we follow Gevurah of Yesod.
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bonding I know I need help in bonding. My whole life has been a series of acquaintances and maybe one real friend in the military. Two marriages and I am not even sure I bonded that close with either wife. Hopefully this is the season that will be corrected. Reply
Thanking and thinking of you for sharing
It was simple and yet it brought a new awareness, comprehension, good light and good vein/vain/vane school of thought, honestly.
I definitely will brings these words to the place where I go and reflect with the tug of a string and touch of a chord. Thank you my loves, you really keep me grounded especially when I want to flake away. L'Chaim
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Been in Israel two times. There, it was exactly on this day that I had a physical problem (in physical yesod). Never had that problem before. First time, I went under surgery for my first time in life, there. Second, it just disapeared for itself on Shabath. Don't know what it means.