We had a baby boy, and we are very excited. But we are still undecided about the brit. I have issues with it. I am aware of the spiritual significance of circumcision, but I have much more practical concerns:

  1. Is it not barbaric to put my baby through the pain of a medically unnecessary operation?
  2. He was born uncircumcised. Why should I mess with his natural state?
  3. My son has no say in this, and can never reverse it. Shouldn’t I let him choose later on in life if he wants this done to him?

Do you have any rational answers?


Imagine the following scenario. Your baby is born healthy and well. But there’s something unusual. He has six fingers on each hand. An extra little growth protrudes right next to each pinkie.

Can you think of anything more barbaric than chopping someone’s fingers off?What would you do about it? Have the extra fingers surgically removed? Or leave them? After all, he was born that way. And he can live with twelve fingers. Maybe the child should be allowed to choose whether or not he wants his extra fingers later in life. Can you think of anything more barbaric than chopping someone’s fingers off?

And yet, I suspect you would do what most parents have done in such circumstances. Better remove the extra fingers now, when it is relatively painless and quick to heal, than subject the child to feeling like an anomaly in his future life. He has no use for them anyway, and would later resent the fact that his parents didn’t remove them for him.

And so, kind and loving parents will unflinchingly put their babies under the surgeon’s knife. The short-term pain is worth it to avoid the long-term discomfort. All other concerns would quickly dissolve. What is called “barbaric” in one context is quite humane in another.

If this logic works for removing extra fingers, a purely cosmetic operation, how much more should it work in favor of the infinitely more meaningful act of circumcision. I am not suggesting that being uncircumcised is the same as being twelve-fingered. But for a Jewish child, there are several similarities.

An uncircumcised Jew often feels like an outsider among his own people. He will always be a Jew, but may come to feel ambivalent about it, knowing that to actively embrace his Jewishness entails undergoing an operation—one that is minor at eight days old, but quite a bit more daunting in adulthood. I have attended adult circumcisions, and it is inspiring when someone makes that choice. The actual operation is not such a big deal. But the decision to do it is. You are, in fact, limiting his choices by not circumcising him.

Diamonds must be cut and polished to reveal their inner beautyMany things in our world were created unfinished, and need our input to be complete. Wheat must be ground into flour and kneaded into dough; diamonds must be cut and polished to reveal their inner beauty. This is the nature of the human experience.

So, putting all spiritual considerations aside, from a practical perspective, here’s the equation: Leave your son uncircumcised, and you leave him with a psychological barrier to exploring his own identity. Give your son a brit, and he loses nothing more than a bit of skin, but he gains immediate entry into the four-thousand-year-old covenant of Abraham. That is a gift you will not regret giving.