Digging Wells – A Matter of Trust
Each of our forefathers is known for a particular occupation or activity: Abraham fed wayfarers, Isaac dug wells and Jacob herded sheep. Which would you rather do? A host is in a position to help others and make them happy. A well-digger provides access to water. A shepherd cares for G‑d’s creatures. If you could choose, which would be your favorite?
I can tell you that my favorite is well-digging. There is With just a little more effort, you will reach it nothing like searching, digging till you drop, seeing little in the way of evidence, and still trusting that the spring is there. With just a little more effort, you will reach it. One more shovel full, then another, and, voilà, you hit water.
There is nothing more gratifying than placing your trust in something you cannot see, and then having that trust validated. But here is the deeper part. There is nothing more liberating than placing your trust in something higher than yourself. Knowing that you don’t need to create the water—you just need to trust that it is there and keep digging till you find it—takes all the pressure off you and places it where it belongs. While Abraham and Jacob also lived with trust, their primary focus was on providing for others. Isaacs focus was on searching for something that was already there; he was free to trust. (Surely there were shades of each in each, these were just the primary thrusts of their respective approaches.)
Isaac didn’t work any less; if anything he worked harder. But he was free of worry. The primary paralysis that grips our spirit is the paralysis of fear. Fear for the future. We are rarely worried about the present. In almost every situation, we can handle the present. We are alive, breathing and surviving. The question is always about tomorrow. If things remain the same, how will I survive tomorrow?
Well, guess what? I am surviving today even though I had no idea yesterday how I would get to today. And so, I have good reason to place my trust in the power that brought me to today. That power is certainly able to bring me to tomorrow. Knowing that lifts the burden of fear. Now I am free to put the pedal to the metal and move forward.
You want to know why water, the elixir of life, is discovered by digging through the surface, where the spring isn’t visible? The future, like the spring, is a closed book. The fear can be overwhelming. Every mishap or obstacle can throw me off my feet. But the ability to trust in a higher power is the source of all life. Without that, there is only me, here and now. Trust in G‑d is the elixir of life.
Every Night I Trust
Every night before going to bed, we entrust our souls to G‑d. Throughout the world, billions lay themselves to sleep with nary a worry about waking up in the morning. Every morning, thousands of people across the world fail to wake up. Some die from heart disease, others from aneurysms and others from sleep apnea. Then there are the unexplained deaths. The perfectly healthy people who expect to wake up like everyone else, like they did every day of their lives, and yet they die. Despite this very true fact, almost no one worries about waking up in the morning. Why? Because we trust.
Yes, we trust that we will awaken in the morning as we did every day until now. We trust that the sun will rise, and that the house won’tWe trust that the sun will rise and that the house won't burn down while we sleep burn down in our sleep. Yes, we engage in many dangerous activities daily, not the least of which is crossing the street. We eat in restaurants with no way of knowing what went into our food. We buy meat from the market with no way of knowing if it is contaminated. We board airplanes with no way of knowing if a terrorist has boarded, or if a bird will fly into the engines.
Of course we take precautions. Food and health associations rate restaurants and close down the major offenders. The Federal Aviation Authority screens passengers to weed out danger. Still, we know how porous our safety systems are, and yet we trust. But somehow, when it comes to trusting that tomorrow will work itself out, and that everything will be okay, we find it difficult to trust.
The Mind Won’t Trust
The culprit is the mind. We are intelligent beings, and our intelligence seeks concrete proof. It asks questions and isn’t satisfied until it has answers. It is the way we are built. When we board the train or cross the street, our minds are lulled into numbness by the repetition. When it comes to finding solutions to today’s problems, and worrying about surviving tomorrow, the mind is fully alert. Vibrant and robust, it asks and probes, not satisfied until the answers are concrete.
There are answers that satisfy the mind, we just need to learn them. The simplest answer is to look at the past for reassurance. We do this every day when we perform all the activities that make little sense when we consider the statistics. We rely on the overwhelming majority that get through these activities safely and trust that we will too.
The same can apply to our worries about tomorrow. Tomorrow won’t be the first tomorrow of your life. You have had tomorrows every day since birth. You made it through every one of them. Of course, tomorrow might be that one pivotal exception, but the numbers are on your side. Go to sleep and, rest assured, you are in good hands—the hands that delivered you safely into every morrow since the beginning.
To Really Trust
Just before going to sleep, we say a prayer that communicates our trust in G‑d. B’yadcha afkid ruchi, “In Your hand I entrust my spirit.” I know that thousands won’t wake up tomorrow, yet I place my trust in G‑d. My body will go into sleep mode with its systems barely surviving. My soul/consciousness will go wherever souls go while bodies sleep. I am not afraid. “I trust you.”
Let’s take a close look at these Hebrew words, specifically the first letter of each word. The first three letters are bet, alef , resh (ב, א, ר). If you know Hebrew, you will recognize that those letters spell, “be’er,” (ב א ר) which means “well.” Isaac dug wells. Well-digging requires trust. Well-digging strengthens trust.
G‑d Trusts In You
A rabbi in South America was walking to synagogue one day when a teenager stopped him to inquire about the tallit he was wearing. The rabbi explained that he was on his way to synagogue to prayG‑d's existance doesn't hang on our faith to G‑d. The boy said that he doesn’t believe in G‑d. To which the rabbi replied, “G‑d believes in you.”
I often say that G‑d’s existence doesn’t hang on our faith. If we choose not to believe, He won’t suddenly disappear. If we choose to believe, He won’t be summoned back into existence. He is here whether we believe in Him or not. The question is, will we make the best use of life by living with faith in Him?
G‑d believes we will or He wouldn’t have awakened us today. He woke us because He had a task for us, and He trusts us to fulfill it. That we go to sleep shows our trust in G‑d. That we wake up shows G‑d’s trust in us.1
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