Dear Friend,

My daughter is three, the age when Jewish education officially begins. She lights her own Shabbat candle every Friday evening, has learned the correct blessing to say for every food she eats, and participates fully in every mitzvah that comes her way. But, above all, she watches me like a hawk. The smallest details of my conduct are noted and emulated, often to my chagrin.

I couldn’t help thinking of my daughter as I read Rabbi Jonathan Sacks’s fascinating article, The Danger of Suspicion. Whether or not we have children, the Torah asks each of us to be a role model. In stark contrast to the who-cares-what-people-think attitude that sometimes prevails, Judaism requires that we behave in a way that will inspire others to follow our example. It’s a heavy responsibility, but it is also a privilege.

The Torah sources Rabbi Sacks cited gave me a new perspective on my daughter’s scrutiny. Someone is always watching (in my case, that’s impossible to forget). I’ve resolved to shape up my example, and this is the right time to do it. May the power of our collective good deeds turn the mourning of these three weeks into joy.

Sarah Ogince,
on behalf of the Chabad.org Editorial Team