“A parent brings a child into this world; a child can bring a parent into the world to come.”
As a soul leaves this world and begins its journey upward, its children can help it along its way. When a child brings more light and holiness into this world, the parent’s soul climbs higher. Reciting kaddish is one such powerful tool of light, bequeathed to the sons of the deceased.
The kaddish is really just a frame around the central words, recited by the entire congregation, “May His great name be blessed forever and ever.” When the mourner recites the kaddish and the congregation responds, bursting out in those words in unison, a flash of light breaks into all the worlds, and the soul of the deceased soars upward.
Who?
Sons say kaddish for their fathers and mothers daily for eleven months after their passing, and annually on the anniversary of their passing (according to the Jewish calendar).
If there is no son—or if there is, but he can’t make it to prayer services—ideally another male relative (who himself has a deceased parent) should say kaddish. Or, someone else should be asked to do it in their stead. Many yeshivahs provide this service in return for a donation.
When?
We pray three times a day: morning, afternoon and night. The mourner’s kaddish is said at least once during the course of each of these prayers.
Click here for the text of kaddish, an interactive kaddish trainer, stories, insights, meditations and more.
Looking for a place to say the kaddish? Locate the closest Chabad synagogue. Before you turn up, it’s a good idea to speak with the rabbi. Find out the times for prayers. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for some help while you get used to the synagogue.
I am not of your faith. However, being LDS, I see so much beauty and common ground in our ongoing
familial relationships. I especially love the belief in the responsibility we have to our kindred dead. I know that the family is intended to last for eternity.
The other part that impressed me was in the prayer you have called kidush or kadish. I loved it being called G-d's signature. It being a declaration of our faith in Him, His will and His devine plan. We have our own practices that do the same for and in behalf of our loved one that are without the body on the other side of the veil.
May God bless you. And may we grow together in love and respect for oneanother.
PS my deepest sorrow for the horrible state of things in your homeland. May He bring peace and safety to all of Israel.
Thank you