Attention grandparents, parents, and anyone who has memories to share: Please write your memoir. Please tell us your story.
Once upon a time, when the world used to change in slow-motion, memoirs didn't play the role they must today. Children identified with the world their parents grew up in—for the most part, it was the same world.
Today the world is evolving at such a rapid pace. Children are educating their moms and dads, teaching them how to maneuver in the book-less, mail-less, cord-less (respect-less?) era we live in. The children are the teachers; their parents are the under-average students ("Um, how do I use this gadget, son?"). A topsy-turvy society.
Amidst all this, we need stability. We need tradition. We need roots. We need parents, who, although they can't beat us in computer games (don't even try), can teach us how to be human and how to be Jewish. They are our link in the chain starting with Abraham and stretching through four millennia, from the Fertile Crescent to the Modern World.
There is nothing that builds a relationship between parent and child more than an open conversation in which the parent opens up to his or her child, bringing the human dimension to the often un-sentimentality of the home environment. Sitting on Papa's or Grandma's lap eating cookies and sipping milk while listening to stories of a world bygone is the glue that cements the link of generations.
And one more thing: Please write down your stories as well. Your kids don't care about the broken English, the lack of prose, or the choppy sentences; they want your life in your words. Let your life not die in the recesses of your mind; keep it alive by transcribing it for your offspring. They will be grateful forever.
My own grandparents, who unfortunately passed away too early for me to get to know them as much as I'd wish, fortunately left me with their detailed memoirs, they left me a piece of themselves. I know them through their pen and I feel connected.
The fifth book of the Torah is a memoir. For the last 37 days of Moses' life he spoke and wrote down the collective memoir of the Jews in the desert and the tumultuous relationship he had with his flock throughout the forty-year journey. It's an exciting read.
Why the memoir? Why the need to repeat the story and derive its lessons?
Hence the fifth book of the Torah. It's name is Devarim, "words." The power of words.
Tell your story. Your children will thank you… and know you.
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