1It is forbidden to enter into privacy with any of the woman forbidden as arayot,1 even if she is elderly or a young girl,2 for this leads to forbidden relations. The only exceptions are a woman and her son, a father and his daughter, and a husband with his wife who is in the niddah state.3 When a bridegroom’s wife menstruates before he engages in relations with her, it is forbidden for him to enter into privacy with her.4 Instead, she should sleep among other women and he should sleep among other men.5 If they engaged in relations once and afterwards, she became impure, he is permitted to enter into privacy with her.אאָסוּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִם עֶרְוָה מִן הָעֲרָיוֹת, בֵּין זְקֵנָה בֵּין יַלְדָה - שֶׁדָּבָר זֶה גּוֹרֵם לְגַלּוֹת עֶרְוָה. חוּץ מֵהָאֵם עִם בְּנָהּ, וְהָאָב עִם בִּתּוֹ, וְהַבַּעַל עִם אִשְׁתּוֹ נִדָּה. וְחָתָן שֶׁפֵּרְסָה אִשְׁתּוֹ נִדָּה קֹדֶם שֶׁיִּבְעֹל - אָסוּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ, אֶלָא הוּא יָשֵׁן בֵּין הָאֲנָשִׁים, וְהִיא יְשֵׁנָה בֵּין הַנָּשִׁים. וְאִם בָּא עָלֶיהָ בִּיאָה רִאשׁוֹנָה, וְאַחַר כָּךְ נִטְמֵאת - מֻתָּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ.
2Jewish men were not suspected of engaging in relations with men or with animals. Hence, there is no prohibition against entering into privacy with them.6 If, however, a person distances himself from entering into privacy even with a male or an animal, it is praiseworthy. Sages of great stature would distance themselves from animals so that they would not be alone with them.7 The prohibition against entering into privacy with woman forbidden as arayot has been transmitted by the Oral Tradition. 8בלֹא נֶחְשְׁדוּ יִשְׂרָאֵל עַל מִשְׁכַּב זָכָר, וְעַל הַבְּהֵמָה. לְפִיכָךְ אֵין אִסּוּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהֶן. וְאִם נִתְרַחֵק אַפִלּוּ מִיִחוּד זָכָר וּבְהֵמָה, הֲרֵי זֶה מְשֻׁבָּח. וּגְדוֹלֵי הַחֲכָמִים הָיוּ מַרְחִיקִין הַבְּהֵמָה, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא יִתְיַחֲדוּ עִמָּהּ. וְאִסּוּר יִחוּד עֲרָיוֹת מִפִּי הַקַּבָּלָה.
3When the incident concerning Amnon and Tamar occurred,9 David and his court decreed a prohibition against entering into privacy with an unmarried woman. Although an unmarried woman is not an ervah, such an act is considered as entering into privacy with an ervah. Shammai and Hillel decreed a prohibition against entering into privacy with gentiles.10 Thus when anyone enters into privacy with a woman, whether Jew or gentile, with whom such an act is forbidden, both the man and the woman are given stripes for rebellious conduct and an announcement is made concerning them.11 An exception is made with regard to a married woman. Although it is forbidden to enter into privacy with her, if one does enter into privacy with her, corporal punishment is not administered12 lest a rumor be initiated that she committed adultery. Thus a rumor might spread that her children are mamzerim.גכְּשֶׁאֵרַע מַעֲשֵׂה אַמְנוֹן וְתָמָר, גָּזַר דָּוִיד וּבֵית דִּינוֹ עַל יִחוּד פְּנוּיָה, וְאַף עַל פִּי שֶׁאֵינָהּ עֶרְוָה, בִּכְלַל יִחוּד עֲרָיוֹת. וְשַׁמַּאי וְהִלֵּל גָּזְרוּ עַל יִחוּד גּוֹיִים. נִמְצָא כָּל הַמִּתְיַחֵד עִם אִשָּׁה שֶׁאָסוּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ, בֵּין יִשְׂרְאֵלִית בֵּין גּוֹיָה - מַכִּין אֶת שְׁנֵיהֶן מַכַּת מַרְדּוּת, הָאִישׁ וְהָאִשָּׁה, וּמַכְרִיזִין עֲלֵיהֶן. חוּץ מֵאֵשֶׁת אִישׁ - שֶׁאַף עַל פִּי שֶׁאָסוּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ, אִם נִתְיַחֵד אֵין לוֹקִין, שֶׁלֹּא לְהוֹצִיא לַעַז עָלֶיהָ שֶׁזִנְּתָה, וְנִמְצְאוּ מוֹצִיאִין לַעַז עַל הַבָּנִים שֶׁהֵן מַמְזֵרִים.
4Whenever a man is forbidden to enter into privacy with a woman, this act is permitted if he is accompanied by his wife, for his wife will guard him against transgression.דכָּל אִשָּׁה שֶׁאָסוּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ, אִם הָיְתָה אִשְׁתּוֹ עִמּוֹ - הֲרֵי זֶה מֻתָּר לְהִתְיַחֵד, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁאִשְׁתּוֹ מְשַׁמְּרַתּוֹ.
A Jewish woman should not enter into privacy with a gentile man even if his wife is with him. For a gentile’s wife will not guard him against transgression and they have no shame.13 אֲבָל לֹא תִתְיַחֵד יִשְׂרְאֵלִית עִם הַגּוֹי, אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁאִשְׁתּוֹ עִמּוֹ - שֶׁאֵין אִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁל גּוֹי מְשַׁמְּרַתּוֹ, וְאֵין לָהֶן בּוּשָׁה.

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5Similarly, a Jewish child should not be entrusted to a gentile with the intent that he teach him to read or teach him a craft, for all gentiles are suspect to engage in homosexual relations.הוְכֵן אֵין מוֹסְרִין תִּינוֹק יִשְׂרָאֵל לַגּוֹי לְלַמְּדוֹ סֵפֶר וּלְלַמְּדוֹ אֻמָּנוּת, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁכֻּלָּן חֲשׁוּדִין עַל מִשְׁכַּב זָכָר.
Similarly, we do not house an animal in an inn belonging to gentiles, not even a male in an inn with males and a female in an inn with females.14 וְאֵין מַעְמִידִין בְּהֵמָה בְּפֻנְדְּקָאוֹת שֶׁל גּוֹיִים, וְאַפִלּוּ זְכָרִים אֵצֶל זְכָרִים וּנְקֵבוֹת אֵצֶל נְקֵבוֹת.
6We do not entrust an animal, beast, or fowl to a gentile shepherd, not even a male animal to a male shepherd and a female animal to a female shepherd, because they are all suspect to sodomize animals.ווְאֵין מוֹסְרִין בְּהֵמָה חַיָּה וָעוֹף לְרוֹעֶה גּוֹי, אַפִלּוּ זְכָרִים לְגוֹי וּנְקֵבוֹת לְגוֹיָה - מִפְּנֵי שֶׁכֻּלָּן חֲשׁוּדִין עַל הַרְבָּעַת בְּהֵמָה.
We have already explained15 that gentiles are forbidden to engage in homosexuality or sodomy. And Leviticus 19:14 states: “Do not place a stumbling block before the blind.”16 וּכְבָר בֵּאַרְנוּ שֶׁהֵן אֲסוּרִין בְּזָכָר וּבְהֵמָה, וְנֶאֱמַר "וְלִפְנֵי עִוֵּר לֹא תִתֵּן מִכְשֹׁל" (ויקרא יט, יד).
7Why do we not entrust a female animal to a female gentile? For all gentiles are assumed to be promiscuous and when a gentile man will come to sleep with this gentile woman, it is possible that he will not find her and instead, sodomize the animal. Or even if he does find her, he may sodomize the animal.זוּמִפְּנֵי מַה אֵין מוֹסְרִין בְּהֵמָה נְקֵבָה לְגוֹיָה? מִפְּנֵי שֶׁכֻּלָּן בְּחֶזְקַת נוֹאֲפִים, וּכְשֶׁיָּבוֹא הַנּוֹאֵף לִשְׁכַּב עִם גּוֹיָה זוֹ, אֶפְשָׁר שֶׁלֹּא יִמְצְאֶנָּה וְיִשְׁכַּב עִם הַבְּהֵמָה; אוֹ אַפִלּוּ יִמְצְאֶנָּה, יִשְׁכַּב עִם הַבְּהֵמָה.
8One woman should not enter into privacy even with many men17 unless the wife of one of them is present.18 Similarly, one man should not enter into privacy even with many women,19 But when there are many women together with many men, we do not show concern for the prohibition against entering into privacy.20חלֹא תִתְיַחֵד אִשָּׁה אַחַת, אַפִלּוּ עִם אֲנָשִׁים הַרְבֵּה - עַד שֶׁתִּהְיֶה שָׁם אִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁל אֶחָד מֵהֶם. וְכֵן לֹא יִתְיַחֵד אִישׁ אֶחָד, אַפִלּוּ עִם נָשִׁים הַרְבֵּה. וְנָשִׁים הַרְבֵּה עִם אֲנָשִׁים הַרְבֵּה, אֵין חוֹשְׁשִׁין לְיִחוּד.
If the men were outside and the women were inside or if the men were inside and the women were outside, and one woman - or one man - separated themselves and joined the group of the other gender, the prohibition against entering into privacy applies.הָיוּ הָאֲנָשִׁים מִבַּחוּץ וְהַנָּשִׁים מִבִּפְנִים, אוֹ הָאֲנָשִׁים מִבִּפְנִים וְהַנָּשִׁים מִבַּחוּץ, וּפֵרְשָׁה אִשָּׁה לְבֵין הָאֲנָשִׁים, אוֹ אִישׁ לְבֵין הַנָּשִׁים - אֲסוּרִין מִשּׁוּם יִחוּד.
Even a man whose business and profession brings him into contact with women21 is forbidden to enter into privacy with them. What should he do? He should involve himself with them while accompanied by his wife or turn to another profession.אַפִלּוּ אִישׁ שֶׁעֲסָקוֹ וּמְלַאכְתּוֹ עִם הַנָּשִׁים, אָסוּר לוֹ לְהִתְיַחֵד עִם הַנָּשִׁים. כֵּיצַד יַעֲשֶׂה? יִתְעַסֵּק עִמָּהֶן וְאִשְׁתּוֹ עִמּוֹ, אוֹ יִפָּנֶה לִמְלָאכָה אַחֶרֶת.
9It is permitted to enter into privacy with two yevamot, two wives of the same man, a woman and her mother-in-law, or a woman and her husband’s daughter, a woman and her husband’s daughter, or a woman and her mother-in-law’s daughter. The rationale is that these women hate each other and will not conceal the other’s misdeeds.22טמֻתָּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִם שְׁתֵּי יְבָמוֹת, אוֹ עִם שְׁתֵּי צָרוֹת, אוֹ עִם אִשָּׁה וַחֲמוֹתָהּ, אוֹ עִם אִשָּׁה וּבַת בַּעְלָהּ, אוֹ עִם אִשָּׁה וּבַת חֲמוֹתָהּ - מִפְּנֵי שֶׁשּׂוֹנְאוֹת זוֹ אֶת זוֹ, אֵין מְחַפּוֹת זוֹ עַל זוֹ.
Similarly, it is permitted to enter into privacy with a woman who is accompanied by a young child old enough to understand what sexual relations are, but who would not engage in relations herself. The rationale is that the woman would not act promiscuously in the presence of this child, for she will reveal her secret.וְכֵן מֻתָּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִם אִשָּׁה שֶׁיֵּשׁ עִמָּהּ תִּינֹקֶת קְטַנָּה שֶׁיּוֹדַעַת טַעַם בִּיאָה, וְאֵינָהּ מוֹסֶרֶת עַצְמָהּ לְבִיאָה - שֶׁאֵינָהּ מְזַנָּה בְּפָנֶיהָ, שֶׁהֲרֵי זוֹ מְגַלָּה אֶת סוֹדָהּ.
10It is permitted to enter into privacy with a female child less than three years old and a male child less than nine years old. For our Sages only issued decrees concerning entering into privacy with a woman fit to engage in relations and a male fit to engage in relations.23יתִּינֹקֶת מִבַּת שָׁלוֹשׁ שָׁנִים וּלְמַטָּה, וְתִינוֹק מִבֶּן תֵּשַׁע שָׁנִים וּלְמַטָּה - מֻתָּר לְהִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהֶן; שֶׁלֹּא גָזְרוּ אֶלָא עַל יִחוּד אִשָּׁה הָרְאוּיָה לְבִיאָה, וְאִישׁ הָרָאוּי לְבִיאָה.
11An androgynus24 may not enter into privacy with women.25 If he does, he is not given physical punishment, because his status is doubtful. A man may enter into privacy with an androgynus or a tumtum.26 יאאַנְדְּרֹגִּינוֹס אֵינוֹ מִתְיַחֵד עִם הַנָּשִׁים. וְאִם נִתְיַחֵד - אֵין מַכִּין אוֹתוֹ, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהוּא סָפֵק. אֲבָל הָאִישׁ מִתְיַחֵד עִם הָאַנְדְּרֹגִּינוֹס וְהַטֻמְטוּם.
12When a married woman’s husband is in the same city, she need not be concerned about the prohibition against entering into privacy with another man, because she will be impressed by the fear of her husband.27 If a man is overly familiar with her, e.g., they grew up together or she is his relative, she should not enter into privacy with him even if her husband is in the same city.28 Whenever a man enters into a room with a woman, but there is a door29 open to the public thoroughfare, we are not concerned about the prohibition against entering into privacy.30 יבאֵשֶׁת אִישׁ שֶׁהָיָה בַּעְלָהּ בָּעִיר - אֵינָהּ חוֹשֶׁשֶׁת לְיִחוּד, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁאֵימַת בַּעְלָהּ עָלֶיהָ. וְאִם הָיָה זֶה גַּס בָּהּ כְּגוֹן שֶׁגָּדְלָה עִמּוֹ, אוֹ שֶׁהָיְתָה קְרוֹבָתוֹ - לֹא יִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ, וְאַף עַל פִּי שֶׁבַּעְלָהּ בָּעִיר. וְכֵן כָּל הַמִּתְיַחֵד עִם אִשָּׁה, וְהָיָה הַפֶּתַח פָּתוּחַ לִרְשׁוּת הָרַבִּים - אֵין חוֹשְׁשִׁין מִשּׁוּם יִחוּד.
13An unmarried man should not teach young children, because the mothers come to the school because of their sons and thus he will be tempted by women.31 Similarly, a woman32 should not teach young boys, because their fathers come because of their sons and thus they will enter into privacy with her. A teacher does not have to have his wife together with him in school,33 It is sufficient that she be at home, while he teaches in his place.34 יגמִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ אִשָּׁה, לֹא יְלַמֵּד תִּינוֹקוֹת, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁאִמּוֹת הַבָּנִים בָּאוֹת לְבֵית הַסֵּפֶר לִבְנֵיהֶם, וְנִמְצָא מִתְגָּרֶה בַּנָּשִׁים. וְכֵן אִשָּׁה, לֹא תְלַמֵּד קְטַנִּים, מִפְּנֵי אֲבוֹתֵיהֶן שֶׁהֵן בָּאִין בִּגְלַל בְּנֵיהֶם, וְנִמְצְאוּ מִתְיַחֲדִים עִמָּהּ. וְאֵין הַמְּלַמֵּד צָרִיךְ שֶׁתִּהְיֶה אִשְׁתּוֹ שְׁרוּיָה עִמּוֹ בְּבֵית הַסֵּפֶר, אֶלָא הִיא בְּבֵיתָהּ וְהוּא מְלַמֵּד בִּמְקוֹמוֹ.
14Our Sages ordained that women speak to each other while in a lavatory,35 so that a man will not enter there and thus be alone with them.ידתִּקְּנוּ חֲכָמִים שֶׁיִּהְיוּ הַנָּשִׁים מְסַפְּרוֹת זוֹ עִם זוֹ בְּבֵית הַכִּסֵּא, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא יִכָּנֵס אִישׁ - מִשּׁוּם יִחוּד.
15We do not appoint even a faithful and observant person to be a guard of a courtyard where women live. This applies even if he stands outside, for there is no guardian against promiscuity.36 It is forbidden for a person to appoint a supervisor over his home so that he does not lead his wife to sin.37טואֵין מְמַנִּין אָדָם נֶאֱמָן וְכָשֵׁר לִהְיוֹת שׁוֹמֵר חָצֵר שֶׁיֵּשׁ בָּהּ נָשִׁים, אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁהוּא עוֹמֵד בַּחוּץ - שֶׁאֵין אַפְטְרוּפוֹס לָעֲרָיוֹת. וְאָסוּר לָאָדָם לְמַנּוֹת אַפְטְרוּפוֹס עַל בֵּיתוֹ, שֶׁלֹּא יַנְהִיג אִשְׁתּוֹ לִדְבַר עֲבֵרָה.
16It is forbidden for a Torah scholar to dwell in a courtyard where a widow lives, even though he does not enter into privacy with her, lest suspicions arise,38 unless his wife is with him. Similarly, a widow should not raise a dog because of the suspicions that might arise. Nor should a woman purchase male servants - even minors - because of the suspicions that may arise.39 טזאָסוּר לְתַלְמִיד חֲכָמִים לִשְׁכֹּן בֶּחָצֵר שֶׁיֵּשׁ בָּהּ אַלְמָנָה, אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁאֵינוֹ מִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ, אֶלָא אִם כֵּן הָיְתָה אִשְׁתּוֹ עִמּוֹ - מִפְּנֵי הַחֲשָׁד. וְכֵן אַלְמָנָה אֲסוּרָה לְגַדֵּל כֶּלֶב, מִפְּנֵי הַחֲשָׁד. וְלֹא תִקְנֶה אִשָּׁה עֲבָדִים זְכָרִים, אַפִלּוּ קְטַנִּים - מִפְּנֵי הַחֲשָׁד.
17We do not relate the hidden matters40 concerning forbidden sexual conduct to three students. The rationale is that one will be absorbed in questioning the teacher, the other two will be debating the matter back and forth and will not be free to listen. Since a person’s mind is aroused by sexual matters,41 if a doubt arises concerning something he heard, he may in error rule leniently. Therefore, we teach only to two. In this manner, the one listening will focus his attention and recall what he will hear from the teacher.יזאֵין דּוֹרְשִׁין בְּסִתְרֵי עֲרָיוֹת בִּשְׁלוֹשָׁה - מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהָאֶחָד טָרוּד בִּשְׁאֵלַת הָרָב, וְהַשְּׁנַיִם נוֹשְׂאִין וְנוֹתְנִין זֶה עִם זֶה וְאֵין דַּעְתָּם פְּנוּיָה לִשְׁמֹעַ, וּלְפִי שֶׁדַּעְתּוֹ שֶׁל אָדָם קְרוֹבָה אֵצֶל עֲרָיוֹת, אִם נִסְתַּפֵּק לוֹ דָּבָר שֶׁשָּׁמַע מוֹרֶה לְהָקֵל. לְפִיכָךְ אֵין דּוֹרְשִׁין אֶלָא לִשְׁנַיִם, כְּדֵי שֶׁיִּהְיֶה הָאֶחָד הַשּׁוֹמֵעַ מְפַנֶּה לִבּוֹ וְיוֹדֵעַ מַה שֶׁיִּשְׁמַע מִן הָרָב.
18There is nothing in the entire Torah that is more difficult for the majority of people to separate themselves from than sexual misconduct and forbidden relationships. Our Sages said:42 When the Jews were commanded regarding forbidden sexual relations, they wept and accepted this mitzvah with complaints and moaning, as implied by the phrase: “Crying among their families,” which is interpreted as meaning: “Crying about family matters.”יחאֵין לְךָ דָּבָר בְּכָל הַתּוֹרָה כֻּלָּהּ שֶׁהוּא קָשֶׁה לְרֹב הָעָם אֶלָא לִפְרֹשׁ מִן הָעֲרָיוֹת וְהַבִּיאוֹת הָאֲסוּרוֹת. אָמְרוּ חֲכָמִים: בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁנִּצְטַוּוּ יִשְׂרָאֵל עַל הָעֲרָיוֹת, בָּכוּ וְקִבְּלוּ מִצְוָה זוֹ בְּתַרְעֹמֶת וּבִבְכִיָּה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר "בֹּכֶה לְמִשְׁפְּחֹתָיו" (במדבר יא, י) - עַל עִסְקֵי מִשְׁפְּחוֹת.
19Our Sages said:43 A person’s soul desires and craves theft and forbidden sexual relations. You will never find a community that does not have some people who are promiscuous regarding forbidden relationships and prohibited sexual conduct. Moreover, our Sages said:44 Most people trespass with regard to theft; a minority with regard to forbidden sexual conduct, and all with regard to the shade of undesirable gossip.45 יטוְאָמְרוּ חֲכָמִים: גָּזֵל וַעֲרָיוֹת, נַפְשׁוֹ שֶׁל אָדָם מִתְאַוָּה לָהֶן וּמְחַמַּדְתָּן. וְאֵין אַתָּה מוֹצֵא קָהָל בְּכָל זְּמַן וּזְּמַן שֶׁאֵין בָּהֶן פְּרוּצִין בָּעֲרָיוֹת וּבְבִיאוֹת אֲסוּרוֹת. וְאָמְרוּ חֲכָמִים: רֹב בַּגָּזֵל, מִעוּט בָּעֲרָיוֹת, וְהַכֹּל בַּאֲבַק לְשׁוֹן הָרָע.
20Therefore it is proper for a person to subjugate his natural inclination with regard to this matter and train himself in extra holiness, pure thought, and proper character traits so that he will be guarded against them. He should be very careful with regard to entering into privacy with a woman, for this is a great cause of transgression. Our great Sages would tell their students:46 “Watch me because of my daughter,” “Watch me because of my daughter-in-law,” so that they would teach their students not to be embarrassed about such matters and distance themselves from entering into privacy with women.כלְפִיכָךְ רָאוּי לוֹ לָאָדָם לָכֹף יִצְרוֹ בְּדָבָר זֶה, וּלְהַרְגִּיל עַצְמוֹ בִּקְדֻשָּׁה יְתֵרָה וּבְמַחֲשָׁבָה טְהוֹרָה וּבְדַעַת נְכוֹנָה כְּדֵי לְהִנָּצֵל מֵהֶן. וְיִזָּהֵר מִן הַיִחוּד, שֶׁהוּא הַגּוֹרֵם הַגָּדוֹל. גְּדוֹלֵי הַחֲכָמִים הָיוּ אוֹמְרִים לְתַלְמִידֵיהֶם 'הִזָּהֲרוּ בִּי מִפְּנֵי בִּתִּי', 'הִזָּהֲרוּ בִּי מִפְּנֵי כַּלָּתִי' - כְּדֵי לְלַמֵּד לְתַלְמִידִים שֶׁלֹּא יִתְבַּיְּשׁוּ מִדָּבָר זֶה, וְיִתְרַחֲקוּ מִן הַיִחוּד.
21Similarly, a person should distance himself from levity, intoxication, and flirtation,47 for they are great precipitators and steps leading to forbidden relations. A man should not live without a wife, for this practice leads to great purity.48כאוְכֵן יִנְהֹג לְהִתְרַחֵק מִן הַשְּׂחוֹק, וּמִן הַשִּׁכְרוּת, וּמִדִּבְרֵי עֲגָבִים - שֶׁאֵלּוּ גּוֹרְמִין גְּדוֹלִים הֵם, וְהֵם מַעֲלוֹת שֶׁל עֲרָיוֹת. וְלֹא יֵשֵׁב בְּלֹא אִשָּׁה, שֶׁמִּנְהָג זֶה גּוֹרֵם לְטָהֳרָה גְּדוֹלָה.
And our Sages gave even greater advice, saying:49 “A person should always turn himself and his thoughts to the words of the Torah and expand his knowledge in wisdom, for the thoughts of forbidden relations grow strong solely in a heart which is empty of wisdom.” And in Solomon’s words of wisdom Proverbs 5:19, it is written: “It50 is a beloved hind, arousing favor. Her breasts will satisfy you at all times. You shall be obsessed with her love.”יְתֵרָה מִכָּל זֹאת אָמְרוּ: יַפְנֶה עַצְמוֹ וּמַחֲשַׁבְתּוֹ לְדִבְרֵי תּוֹרָה, וְיַרְחִיב דַּעְתּוֹ בַּחָכְמָה - שֶׁאֵין מַחְשֶׁבֶת עֲרָיוֹת מִתְגַּבֶּרֶת אֶלָא בְּלֵב פָּנוּי מִן הַחָכְמָה, וּבַחָכְמָה הוּא אוֹמֵר "אַיֶּלֶת אֲהָבִים וְיַעֲלַת חֵן, דַּדֶּיהָ יְרַוֻּךָ בְכָל עֵת, בְּאַהֲבָתָהּ תִּשְׁגֶּה תָמִיד" (משלי ה, יט).
Blessed be God who grants assistance.בְּרִיך רַחַמָנָא דְסַיַיעָן