By the Grace of G‑d
7th of Tammuz, 5721 [June 21, 1961]
Brooklyn, N.Y

Greeting and Blessing:

I received your letter of the 23rd of Sivan, in which you write about the various plans as to where the wedding should take place, etc.

First of all, it is obvious that the wedding must be in accordance with the Shulchan Aruch. Therefore, the plan which would not be in accordance with it obviously cannot be considered.

Another point I wish to emphasize is that there is some misconception that a wedding must entail burdensome expenses, etc. For, although our Sages stated that it is a great Mitzvah to participate in a wedding and to add to the joy of the bride and bridegroom, they certainly did not mean to say that it is necessary to spend excessive amounts of money, but only that the Simcha itself should be a happy and hearty one.

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A further point to bear in mind is that if it is the general principle of the Torah that all things should be done in a manner of friendliness and peace, it is certainly true in such a matter as a wedding. And as long as the problems are resolved in accordance with the Shulchan Aruch, all other details should be carried out in a spirit of mutual conciliation.

May G‑d, Whose benevolent Providence extends to everyone individually, grant that all details be worked out in the best possible way,

With blessing,