Yaakov Lieder

"I don't care what you think about me, as long as you don't tell me." Is this what your child, spouse or co-worker really wants?

Johnny was hungry, so he ate a roll. He ate a second roll and a third, but he was still hungry. So he ate a bagel. Finally sated, he said to himself: "Stupid me! Next time I'll eat the bagel right away!"

Real change can only happen if we are prepared to give up our old set of beliefs about the other person

We would never tell a two-year-old, "Why, that's not how that word is pronounced at all! And what a way to walk! Oh, you'll never walk or talk properly." So why do we do that with our children's dreams?

Why can't I just skip the "listening part" and go straight to solving the problem?

It is possible for two people to see and hear the same event and yet each has a totally different experience of what actually took place...

"I get porridge for breakfast," complained the yeshivah student, "porridge for lunch and porridge for dinner." To which his friend student responded: "I get excuses. From porridge one can live; from excuses a body can die!"

One of the ironies of life is that we do the same things over and over again, but expect different results...

Our job as parents is to sell our children to themselves. The first point of reference for a child's self-esteem -- or lack thereof -- comes from what the child believes the parents think about him or her

Going through life with a spouse we love is one of the greatest satisfactions in life. A small percentage of us have a natural gift for it—the rest of us have to learn it. So how is it done?