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When and How to Give Criticism: The Kabbalah of Behavior

If you don't like getting criticism from other people, you don't want to be the person who criticizes wrongly. Is there a way to give criticism in a way that will be appreciated by others?

Topics:

Self Improvement, Criticism; Rebuke

By Shifra Sharfstein

Shifra Sharfstein is co-director of Chabad of Downtown Universities in Atlanta, Georgia.

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Anonymous United States March 19, 2016

So do you really think that only fellow Jews are the only ones that count as God's people according to Hashem! What happened to Joseph due to Jacob's favouritism? It seems we can all learn a lesson or two from that ancient story, but it seems very easy to manipulate it around the right to be chosen. What about the responsibility to Hashem toward the ones outside the chosen. Chosen to be put on a pedestal, or chosen to bring unity which is the central meaning of Shalom! If all humans go back to Adam the first man, then there is a common link amonst us and wouldn't you be rejecting, or mistreating one of Adam's (Hashem's) children if you reject a so called non Jew? What about the Jews who intermarried and stopped practicing their Judaism and have now descendants that have no clue about their jewish ancestry? Reply

rivka ozersky Kew Garden Hills February 25, 2016

Do you believe that you should rebuke someone for the negative traits that you have yourself?
Or at least before rebuking shouldn't we introspect to make sure we do not own that negative trait?
Otherwise what gives me the permission to rebuke others about my own shortcomings? Reply

rivka ozersky Kew Garden Hills February 25, 2016

Doesn't the Baal Shem Tov taught that when we see something negative in someone else that we criticize in them, it is a refection of our own negativity or defect, since we cannot see our own "panim" face, inner face, then Hashem Sends us those that can reflect us that to us. Reply