The Two Worst Characteristics to Avoid at All Costs

The Kabbalah of Behavior

Autoplay Next

The Two Worst Characteristics to Avoid at All Costs: The Kabbalah of Behavior

Using our natural characteristics to become better individuals, while learning how to ask ourselves will this action propel me closer to doing what G-d wants of me.

Handouts:	Kabbalah of Behavior 2
Audio:	Listen to Audio \| Download this MP3
Topics:	Self Improvement, Anger, Ego & Selfhood

By Shifra Sharfstein

Shifra Sharfstein is co-director of Chabad of Downtown Universities in Atlanta, Georgia.

Join the Discussion

Sort By:

NewestOldest

10 Comments

Joan Johnson April 12, 2021

I love this series. It is so practical and honest. Reply

Benjamin Toronto October 5, 2020

38:34 Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them. (To not lie in that situation, one must be honest with one's self. There are many things children and teenagers can do that naturally make you dislike them. This is why you might be better to consider: don't let them do things that make you feel like this if at all possible. If other people dislike your kids overall, that may mean they don't get played with. Socialization is very important.) Reply

Anonymous August 31, 2020

The lady that spoke at around minute 50-52, all I gotta say is...Amen!

Toda Raba for a great class! Really easy to absorb and understand! Reply

Anonymous August 31, 2020

Thank you so much! I would love to add that I often imagine it as G-d created the whole world for us, to enjoy and be nourished from, and be in wonder of, and find beautiful, like a parent creating a beautiful home and environment for their kids, and we are to play and grow and learn here, so that we can do positive in the world. Aba, as our parent, set up the entire world to see us blossom. To do all the good things!
Toda Raba! Reply

susan london February 28, 2019

I meant a friend who directed me to spell caster called Papa Egbe online who help people to solve their relationship and marriage problems. I was really skeptical before i wrote to him and he told me not to worry about anything, that i should give him a day for him to cast a spell for me and after 2 days i was really surprised my ex called me and started begging for me to take her back . That is how my ex came back to me and she no longer think of other people, but me and me alone and am happy my money was not wasted.
Write Papa Egbe on [email protected] or
whatsapp +(234) 8134959928
I'M a testimony believe it of not. I HAVE DONE MY PART BY PASSING OUT THIS INFO To people outside having love issues and marital problems. Reply

Chaia February 17, 2016

Anger Yes I get angry. People who betray trust or brag or make you feel lesser than you are. I don't like wanting to get revenge or hating them or thinking they are so horrible that they deserve what ills they have. Wish I was stronger and could turn the other cheek. But sometimes I can't. I hope for G-D to help me become a better human. Reply

Anonymous February 15, 2016

Beautiful words and well intended speech! However I have to disagree with "pretending to be angry." Perhaps we can compose ourselves in a moment of anger but how are we to lead by example if others "see us angry"? Even if our "reaction" is more moderate. How would others see us? How can our children learn from faking? They are constantly learning from us. I fully agree with changing ourselves and leading by example and showing our patience, understanding, reasoning and integrity with love. There should not be a reason to pretend :) In Hashem's wisdom, anger can be a useful motivating force that can even elevate our G-dly side! Reply

Bea WNY January 21, 2016

Anger avoided, simkah retained! Oh I so much agree with you. Thank you for caring as deeply as you do. To think that the rebbe kept anger at bay and his joy rose so high, let's me remember after I stop my anger from bubbling forth, I also must sing and dance to Aliyah! B"H Reply

Anonymous January 20, 2016

Well.... Jews do get angry. That's just part of reality. And some Jews are even abusive to their families-another part of reality. G-d was quite angry with Egypt-I don't think He was pretending when He brought those 10 plagues....We try to learn and work on ourselves and think before we act or react....yes....but I guess I am just saying it must be easy to talk about how anger is "not ours" when it B"H hasn't been gifted to you. But when its one's inheritance, it's a bit of a different story. It is still my responsibility to change but hard to undo damage done I guess that's my point. Reply

Anonymous Mesa, AZ January 19, 2016

Characteristics to Avoid in our Personalities I agree very much with this wonderful, young, teacher. Every head is a world, and thatbis what makes it so difficult to understand others. It is not only in marriage, but in mother and child, siblings, friends, etc.. The purpose of each one of us is the most difficult to find. Helping others in any ways is not the only purpose, I feel that there is a greater purpose for each one of us, and "that" especial purpose for each one of us the difficult one to accomplish. How to figure out that one is the question Reply

The Two Worst Characteristics to Avoid at All Costs: The Kabbalah of Behavior

More in this section

You may also be interested in...

Join the Discussion