I Am Not Attracted to My Date

Not Attracted to Date Attraction isn't everything. Did this woman have ANY qualities you wanted for a future wife and mother to your children?

Wonderful women come in all kinds of packages Reply

package like at the store, a fancy package, is selling something,you would not normally get.. Reply

Well done Elka. Reply

physical beauty is only skin deep The idea Rachel wrote about in this article, is one that I have always believed, albeit not from the "Jewish" perspective. I have met many women, who at first glance, do not live up to social standards of beauty. However, after meeting them, learning about them in depth, the "attraction" grew. True beauty is not skin deep. It goes all the way to the soul, and encompasses everything about the individual - kindness, intelligence, interests and, in my opinion, the capacity to enrich someone else's life. If asked my advice for "Unattracted," I would tell him to continue to see this woman and see where it leads. He may find that love may not work, but he will have forged a strong friendship. Or he may find that as he learns about her, and she gets to know him, he will see her true and total beauty. Reply

Physical appearance The French have a saying:
A good looking man has a two week advantage over a plain looking man. Reply

Looks don't count ultimately I have been happily married for 3 years, and insanely in love with my husband. In fact, I am crazier about him now then I was the day I got married to him. To be sure, he is attractive, but what sparks my passion for him is his incredible soul and character. I've never met anyone so loving, compassionate and with so much self-awareness. Even as the years pass, and he loses more hair and starts showing more wrinkles on his face, he will never stop taking my breath away. I love him so dearly! True beauty lies within. Reply

thanks women and men may not realize what a man has to deal with here: when he signs that ketuba...he's promising to take care of, provide for,etc, this woman for the rest of his life.
this is very serious, especially if finances are a concern.
your article is very helpful, thank you for posting it. and the comments are helpful too. Reply

re: If you treat each other with respect and look past your respective egos, you will both become more physically attractive to each other and to everyone else around you. Knowledge from experience. Reply

"Not what I'm looking for" article Between college and marriage, I dated over 80 women. Many of them had wonderful qualities. However, when I met my future wife on a blind date, I found that she had many qualities. When we had dates, we spent many hours together learning about each other.. Over a year after our first meeting, we became married. We have been married for several decades. It is hard to believe we have been togther for so many years.
My suggestion to those who are looking for someone special, be patient and do not expect perfection. Reply

Meeting one's bashert I met my husband on a blind date. On first glance I thought "Never, he looks like a bear." We spent an afternoon together and quickly realized we were meant for each other.
Physical attraction is key but it can be ephemeral. If she is an absolute turnoff, don't see her again. If not, maybe it's worth a second look. Reply

you may be surprised My fiance and I met in a class. We both disliked each other in the beginning. We did not know anything about each other but the way he looked was "not my type" - in fact was quite the oppsosite, the type I did not like. He did not like the way I looked either. We both laugh today at how I thought he was a homeless musician, who did not eat for days and I was a stuck up snob in his eyes. But during the class we got to know each other and found a lot in common: goals, alues, interests. I also have learned that he had a kind heart and gentle soul. The miracle has happened to me and now when I look in his eyes, when I see his face, I cannot imagine a more handsome man. He also showers me with compliments, which make me feel like a queen and I see real attraction between us, the classic Hollywood "spark", which others also notice. But it is not superficial in our case. I think that our minds started looking for attraction to justfy our hearts' choices. Mind is flexible, it will adjust. Reply