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Dear Rachel,

I have always had a passion for art but never pursued it because it wasn't the practical thing to do. Rather, I went and got my law degree and have been a practicing lawyer for a number of years now. However, I hate my job and would love to do something creative. I know that in this economy leaving a well-paying job would be ridiculous, but should I stay in something I can't stand just for the money?

Miserable

Dear Miserable,

Firstly, as I am sure you know, you are quite fortunate to even have this dilemma. There are many people who would do anything right now to have a job they hated! There are so many people out of any kind of work, as well as others who are settling for things that do not interest them just for a paycheck. So, I would definitely say that now is not the time to jump ship on your job. However, that also doesn't mean that you need to remain miserable.

You have a wonderful opportunity Regarding your work as a lawyer, you have a wonderful opportunity to use it not only as a paycheck but as a means for helping others. Especially in this economy, if you could volunteer your services or do some kind of program for the disadvantaged then you would be doing something both beneficial and creative with your abilities. You can even use your artistic skills which have been sitting on the back burner to create some kind of flier or brochure and advertise that you are willing to help those in need. You can dedicate a set amount of hours for pro-bono work, or work with a certain amount of pro-bono clients per month. You could also try using your law skills to teach others and inform them of their rights or the legal process. Perhaps you will discover you have a passion for teaching or public speaking that you were not aware you had—and you will definitely be helping those less fortunate.

There is no question that when we give to others in need, we receive an incredible amount of satisfaction and reward in return. Now, more than ever, our generosity is needed, and it does not just need to be in terms of donating money (though that is always appreciated). I have a feeling that if you can use your law background as a means to easing the lives of others thaen it will turn from a job that you hate into a way of bettering both your life and theirs.

Regarding art, there is no question that it is something you should be pursuing. And being a lawyer in no way negates your ability to focus on developing your artistic talents. Perhaps you could even find an art teacher who would want to barter with you where you learn art in exchange for some legal advice or help. Alternatively, find out what kind of art classes are in your area and sign up for Sunday or evening classes. Possibly more than hating your job you are feeling that you have this creative ability that has not been used or accessed. And there is a reason you are feeling stuck because we were created to be creative and when we are not, it is a depressing feeling.

Each one of our souls is a unique creation There is a beautiful explanation for the commandment not to use G‑d's name in vain. On a very simple level this means that we are not allowed to just say G‑d's name inappropriately or unnecessarily. However, Chassidic philosophy teaches us something much deeper. The Talmud explains that each and every one of our souls is a unique creation, and, just like an original piece of artwork, signed by the Creator. We were all given specific talents and abilities that we are not only able to use but obligated to use. And when we don't, when we are not using the potential that our soul has, then we are "using G‑d's name in vain" as we are not doing what we were created to do. If you love art, if you have a passion for art, you must explore this talent and use it to enrich your life and the lives of others. That does not mean that art needs to be the focus of your life, but rather it should be a part of you that enhances everything else you do, including your work as a lawyer.

So I hope you are able to both explore your artistic abilities and also explore the various ways you can use your professional life to help others. Much luck in all that you do and I look forward to hearing of your amazing creations in all aspects of your life.

Rachel

Answered by Sara Esther Crispe

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December 28, 2012
How do I find that talent or ability G- d gave me to do?
I so understand where she is coming from and I have searched throughout my life for what I am supposed to be doing. I am almost 62 and still don't feel like I know what I am here to accomplish.Can you give me some guidance to help me figure it out?
Anonymous
UK
November 15, 2011
i hate my job
i always say quitting is under-rated. you might be way happier in a year having quit. just throw in the towel!
job hater
new york, ny
January 7, 2011
I Hate My Job
Miserable, even though you need money to live on, there's no reason why you should stay at a job you don't like. Many people give up well-paying jobs to pursue their dreams.

Would you consider art as a hobby outside of work?
Lisa
Providence, RI
September 1, 2010
Great Post
Great post! Finding a job you like and don't find unbearable is really difficult. Not to mention trying to balance it with everything else in life. Thanks for the post.

Id love to see more like it. Thanks!
Pete
March 16, 2010
Easier said than done
When one is the sole breadwinner in the home, "What I Want to Do" cannot come before "What I have to do"--can it? (In my case the two are mutually exclusive). Also: any tips on how to deal with a toxic (emotionally and SPIRITUALLY) workplace? Sadly, not all of us have the chance to do good in our jobs--perhaps even this lawyer isn't able to do pro-bono work or take on needy cases due to the law office she works in. And how can we find time to "follow our bliss" when our time is no longer our own (thanks to 24/6 connectivity--Thank G-d for Shabbat, but the emails still keep coming in and are waiting after Shabbat)?
Anonymous
Miami Beach, FL
September 13, 2009
great advice!
I, myself, am an artist and art teacher for frum women in Yerushalayim. I honestly relate to this predicament. So many of my students are struggling with the same feelings at all stages in their lives. We tend to think that it's all or nothing. You have explained a very thorough and mature approach to this solution, i.e. balancing the two activities. Lately, since the economy is down, there have been much fewer art students. After all, food is more urgent! I searched all summer for some part-time job. In the end, I decided to continue trying to get more students and help bring joy into their lives as well as do what HaShem has given me the talent to do best. Even though I was trying to be "responsible" an get a normal job, I couldn't find one! Working independently is better for creative people, even though it seems to be less "dependable." We need to depend on HaShem. I would be very happy to hear from other women who are interested in developing their artistic talents.
Sarah Levinson
Yerushalayim, Israel
September 8, 2009
Wonderful Advice
Thank you for the balanced, wonderful advice. I have been a teacher (preschool through college) for 20+ years (after my parents begged me not to teach) and sincerely believe that a person will always have "enough" if they go into the field to which they have been "CALLED."

I have a dear friend who became a medical doctor due to pressure from her family and 10-15 years later she was still miserable, in spite of working in many different settings, including at a local community college. Although they were not wealthy (her husband is a butcher), she, with support from her husband, finally decided to pursue her dream. Ten years later, she is still teaching kindergarten at the small inner-city school where she did her student teaching.

The principal of this school is a wonderful, man of faith, the turn-over at the school is close to 0%, and she and those beautiful teachers continue to be a "light" to the community.

Don't give up; your dreams are there for a reason.
Anonymous
NC
September 8, 2009
Musical Talent never payed bills
My husband was a janitor among other things for years, but is a gifted musician. He was just laid off and at the same time was offered a chance to teach music lessons at a local music store. No students have signed yet, but the owner believes in him. So we pray this open door will bring our provision.
Dee Stover
Hiawatha, Iowa
September 8, 2009
Miserable Job
To the woman who hates your job... I agree with you, and Miss Sara that you should not leave your current means of employment. But I can definitely relate.
Growing up and in High School, I noticed G-d given talents of art, and a love for plants & animals. After high school, I chose the easiest, quickest path to support myself, in office administrative support. Good $, and I enjoy learning and doing the work. But it was quite the opposite from what my heart truly enjoyed. Drawing and arts & crafts sat on the back burner, haunting me from time to time.
Now, seems to be the time, as I am unemployed, and a new homeowner. The "if you don't lose it, you will lose it" rule keeps haunting me - granted it won't pay the bills, but I have the opportunity to get creative now, with little excuse to start "skilling" my talent, hopefully it is still there.
Renah
Oroville, WA
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