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Insights of a Senior Citizen

Insights of a Senior Citizen

As interpreted by someone halfway there...

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Let me talk about the past; I may not always remember what happened yesterday but treasured moments of years gone by bring a smile to my face.

Don't treat me like a baby; the only time I need to feel like a child is when I receive much needed cuddles and hugs.

Please don't laugh at the way I look; one day, if you're lucky, you too will have white hair, many earned wrinkles and a pouch where your toned muscles used to be.

Be proud of me as we walk arm in arm down the street

I would appreciate it if you wouldn't rush me; I hurried all my life and need to slow down now.

If we're going on an outing, please allow me lots of time to get ready.

Yes, ingestion and elimination are important issues to me at this time in my life; so if you take me somewhere, it would be so nice if you brought along a snack and ensure that a bathroom is nearby.

I enjoy being at the table with you for a meal; if I don't talk much, don't worry about it as I'm benefiting just by not being alone.

Ask me for advice or my opinion once in a while; I still enjoy feeling needed.

I know I am in the twilight of my life; I don't wish to be constantly reminded.

My world, like my height, is shrinking. I have lost many of my peers and now need as much human contact as possible.

Laugh with me now and then; humor is a remarkable elixir.


To my children:

I may repeat myself often, but I cherish the times I listened to your stories about school or friends over and over again; please be patient with me.

Take me with you once in a while on an errand; I realize that it is a big effort for you but seeing people is good for me.

Please don't be embarrassed by my appearance; now, more than ever, my clothes need to be functional and comfortable. Be proud of me as we walk arm in arm down the street.

The wisdom I have acquired along the way may be useful to some of you

Try to forgive the mistakes I made as a parent; remember that we are all imperfect and in case I forget to tell you – please know that I will love you forever, my precious child.


My journey has often been marked by sharp, uneven pebbles, other times lined with blooming flowers; the wisdom I have acquired along the way may be useful to some of you.

Our outside covering simply shelters what is within; take a moment to look at me, really look at me and see the beauty inside my soul.

I can still enjoy life

My heart sings when I am surrounded by friends and loved ones

And, by the way, dignity is never overrated.

Catherine Roozman Weigensberg, a married mother of four and proud new grandmother of two, resides in Montreal, Quebec. She worked as a geriatric social worker for several years prior to taking on the full-time role of primary caregiver for her aged mother in her home. In recent months her mother has moved to a nearby nursing facility, where Catherine volunteers as vice-president of the Residents Committee.
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Tina W Whitehead Charleston, SC June 14, 2009

I can see it too My mother is 81 and her life and memory are deteriorated. Thank you for this poem as it has really hit a soft spot in my heart,

I only wish I could make her happy Reply

Dottie Otto, NC December 10, 2008

Very moving This brought tears to my eyes and a big lump in my heart. I'm in this situation now and look back at the times I shared with my Mom and know she felt a lot of these emotions. Too bad we have to experience grief before we can understand how much little things mean so much.
Thank you for this blessing Reply

Catherine Roozman Weigensberg Montreal, Canada November 23, 2007

Thanks to All For Your Comments I sit here with tears in my eyes as I read your stories. The piece I wrote emerged from years of working with the elderly as well as my caregiving experience with my mother. It is straight from the heart so your words, dear readers, touch me deeply as I imagine you with your own loved ones. To 'Anonymous': G-d bless you; have a wonderful visit with your mom. And may G-d grant us all the health and strength we need to look after those we hold so dear. Reply

Rochel Roth Chicago, Illinois November 22, 2007

Brought tears Catherine, I not only forwarded this story to my mother, but also my daughter. I have heard my mother make some of the same comments that you wrote. It brought tears to my eyes. This was beautifully written and really touched my heart. I know it will touch my mom's heart also, and my daughter too, if she has the time to read it. I don't live near my mother, but we speak at least 1/2 dozen times a day, It makes me happy to hear her voice, and you confirmed it in your writing. Blessings to you and your mother Reply

devora wagner joburg, south africa November 21, 2007

So beautifully written... and how right you are!! Blessed are the people who receive your care, and insight. Reply

Ruth (Katherine) Rosenberg Far Rockaway, NY November 21, 2007

Insights of a Senior Citizen What a lovely tribute to your mother. You have written so eloquently about a subject that needs more exposure in a country where wealth and a youthful appearance seem to be the most important things to strive for. May your mother live to 120 years in good health and may G-d continue to bless you. Reply

Anonymous November 20, 2007

reminder as a result of your article i made reservations on a flt to visit my mother in israel thanks for bringing it to my attention Reply

Rita Brown Mission, Kansas November 20, 2007

insights of a senior citizen This was a beautiful piece of writing that should remind all of us that senior citizens need to feel wanted and should always be treated with dignity. My 93-year old mother can sometimes be very trying. /she still lives alone and takes care of her finances. I am very thankful that I can talk to her daily. and share the family news with her. This article reminds me that seniors have special needs that we younger people should be awarw of and try to meet. Reply

Rhonda Levy Dollard Des Ormeaux, Quebec November 19, 2007

Insights of a Senior Citizen Dear Catherine,
Once again I must say that your ability to express your deepest feelings into words hits home in so many ways. It really makes one not feel so alone. Please Catherine please keep on writing ! Reply