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Finding a Healthy Outlet

Finding a Healthy Outlet


We love our children to pieces, really. And we love taking care of them, all night and all day, no doubt. Yet spending most of our waking hours dealing with tiny humans and mundane tasks also presents a challenge. There are so many aspects of our personalities that are not tapped into, and we can feel a real void, which we desperately want to fill.

In a letter written to a woman blessed with many talents and an exceptional amount of energy, the Rebbe wrote that her primary responsibility was taking care of her family. However, he also encouraged her to find a part-time job or outlet so that she could exercise her own abilities. In this way, she could both devote herself to her family, as well as curb, in the Rebbe’s words, her “self-pity.”

If her surplus of spiritedness was not channeled, then, the Rebbe wrote, it was likely to “explode” or find negative forms of expression.

Sometimes, in order to continue being the best mothers we can be, we need to find time to nurture that inner spark of passion. And only we can look inside and figure out what really makes us tick.

Thoughtstream: Today, I will find a healthy outlet for my creative side.

(Adapted from Or Habayit, vol. 1, p. 168, cited from Mei’Otzar Hamelech, p. 320.)

Sara Blau is a teacher and extracurricular director at Beth Rivkah High School. She is a wife, mother, and author of several children“s books.
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Sara November 8, 2017

I like this... good reminder if something so basic! Reply

Diane Little May 9, 2016

Thanks for this: now no more guilt when I quilt I know Hashem gave us talents and creativity that we are supposed to be using to beautify and better our world. I have put my quilting, which is more like fabric art on the back burner thinking of everything else I have to do at home and care for my husband. At our ages, we retired and my son is grown, married, and has given me 3 lovely grandchildren. But, I don't get to see them as they a in Israel, and we are in the US.

I have been feeling worthless and empty inside, and due to being unable to drive myself to do bikur cholim and not living in a Jewish area, I have been at a loss. You have reminded me that it's time I went back into my sewing room, and begin using the creative talents Hashem gave me. This is what will give me a purpose and outlet for my frustrations and to care for myself in a healthy way.
Thanks for the reminder. Reply