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Mama


"Ma-ma."

It's the first word a baby learns to speak. It's the kindest word in any language. It bespeaks an unconditional, unbreakable bond of love and acceptance.

It is the picture-perfect scene of a young child nestled in her mother's arms; their breathing rising in unison, in utter surrender to the peacefulness and serenity of the moment.

It is a promise of eternal commitment and devotion.


"Mamma."

A short word that describes an outstretched guiding hand, no matter how bleak the circumstances. A hand that applauds all achievements, big or miniscule, just as it uplifts and gives strength.

She is the heart so overflowing with pride, so bursting with love, so attached to yours that she is one with you, as if you share a single soul.


"Mamma!"

A child's demanding, insistent word that, in her own vocabulary says: I know you will care for me. I know you will take care of my needs. I know you will help me. I know you will be here for me. Always. Forever!


"Mommy..."

A set of eyes locked into yours. Eyes full of wisdom, boring into your essence. Eyes full of kindness and giving. Eyes that see more than you will ever fathom. Eyes that understand more than you will ever appreciate.

Eyes that smile, even as they cry.


"Mom?"

The poignancy of a heartrending parting. Her heart that is shred into a million-and-one pieces as she lets you make your own mistakes and suffer your own falls, allowing you to traverse your own chosen path.

G-d as Mother is the Shechinah, the feminine presence of G-d

She is the one who sends you on your way, celebrating your decisions even when in disagreement, knowing that your life experiences and choices will form you and make you into the special, independent you.


"Mother!"

In the darkest period of our history, as a holocaust descended on our people, she wouldn't abandon her child, descending into the deepest abyss with him. Never leaving him. Finding some faith or hope to encourage her child to live on, to choose life--despite its harshest reality and ruthless cruelty.


"Shechinah."

When the Kabbalists refer to G-d as infinite and beyond, they call G-d, "He". "He" is our Father in Heaven, directing our world. G-d as Father is the transcendent force in our lives, the voice compelling and empowering us to go beyond the here and now.

But when the Kabbalists refer to G-d as immanently here, now, in a nurturing, inner way, they say "She." G-d as Mother is the Shechinah, the feminine presence of G-d. She accompanies her children along their difficult trek through exile, experiencing our pain and our tears, all the while comforting us, and never abandoning us, despite our flaws or our faults.

Ultimately, of course, G-d is absolute unity, beyond gender and categorization. "He" and "She" are but reflections of G-d's essence. But it is only through our contemplating the analogy of this feminine, motherly aspect of G-d--the Shechinah--that our mortal brains can begin to appreciate any yearning or pain on the part of the infinite, transcendent G-d.

It is the Shechinah who cries bitterly for the exile of Her children. It is She who feels the immensity of their pain.

She beckons to us, too, to experience Her pain. To feel Her intense suffering of being separated from the unity, open love and oneness with Her people.

And She awakens within us a yearning for that time when we will once again be comforted, embraced and enveloped in the nurturing arms of our Mamma.

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Chana Weisberg is the Director of Editorial Management at Chabad.org. She authored several books, including her latest, Tending the Garden: The Unique Gifts of the Jewish Woman. She has served as the dean of several women’s educational institutes, and lectures internationally on issues relating to women, faith, relationships and the Jewish soul.

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Posted: Oct 20, 2010
Mama
Thank you for bringing Momma's tears to my eyes... We fight so hard with all our might for our children to stand up tall, straight, and strong just so that when they do walk on past us, we will know that their legs are strong. Thank you for this article, which gives us Mommas acknowledgment.
Posted By Sarah the Chalupta, Los Angeles, CA

Posted: July 6, 2010
Mama
Wow!! I love what you wrote although I don't have a real relationship with my mother. Yes, she is there when I need help but no more. I hope and pray to be a 'better' mommy for my children.
Posted By Anonymous, vienna

Posted: Mar 16, 2006
mother as feminine aspect of G-d
Your prose moved me to tears, as it resonated with my own pain and experience (the eyes of the child). Yes, my 7 yr old son sees right into my aching heart, he comforts me even before I cry, silenty, with big eyes and warm hugs, he doesnt move until I recover, which I do almost immediately, my tears cease, ,just as he would stop crying, instantly, as a colicy infant, as a just-circumcised newborn, only at my embrace. My son and I communicate on a profound level, our emotions are exchanged, love expressed, without too many words, and the depth of this connection sometimes frightens me. - I keep wiishing I were a better mother, with supernatural abilities to protect, nurture, and raise my two kids (Shira 11 and Ben 7). in guaranteed security, health, competence, self-reliance, empathy, stimulation, love, and happiness.
Posted By Shoshana, montreal, canad

Posted: Aug 23, 2005
Mama
To Thomas,

Women were blessed with an inherent ability to "make aliyah" to Torah, and thus do not need to go up to the bimah. The Torah does not require us to do that which is unnecessary; there is absolutely no waste of energy. So, while I understand your question, it is not a "lack" that keeps us women from going to the bimah. Our ascent is merely of a different nature, much as men and women are different creatures.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Aug 22, 2005
To David Kopp
A good response, David: I think the 'key' to the problem can be resolved by reassessing Bamidbar 36: Was the inheritance to be left to the daughters of Zelophehad to be forever limited to just land? Some might say it was because the land is the only thing that's mentioned; but on the other hand, to say that it was limited to land consigns this portion of Torah strictly to the mundane, rather than to the elevated, and implies that it is an anachronism. But you make an important point, David: The other 'branches' of Judaism, and specifically 'reform', have pursued womens' rights in such a way as to not keep the inheritance within the family, and many have abandoned their Jewish roots. But is it a 'gimme' that it's making aliyah to Torah for women that is the problem, rather then other faults that have led the other 'branches' astray? Is it Torah correct for her only to inherit the mundane, and not to be elevated further? It's not a 'challenge' so much, as it is a call for unity.
Posted By Thomas Karp

Posted: Aug 21, 2005
Women, Through the Classical Jewish Lense
Thomas, I appreciate your challenge! But do not forget that these other branches have only been around for 200 years; Judaism has survived more than 3,000! It seems only fair to aknowledge the possibility that it was the ancient social construct that allows you to make your point about matralinial decent, and the powerful role of the Jewish mother. This ancient construct was one where women were prohibited to make aliyah.

But it's important to consider the lense through which you are looking at the "prohibition."

On an individual level, it's important to see it as a commandment that speaks directly to women, not a "performative" commandment to men, that THEY should keep women from making aliya. This proves that in the eyes of Torah law, you are correct: a woman is more than worthy of making aliyah to Torah.

But on a social, more systematic level, we can see how this "prohibition" makes it absolutely incumbant on men to fulfill this act, where they might otherwise not!
Posted By David Kopp, Pasadena, CA

Posted: Aug 21, 2005
Not too long ago, I attended a lecture at the local Chabad, and the speaker gave out a tract written by Mark Twain, 'Considering the Jews'. Mr. Clemens (his real name) raised the question: What is the secret of Jewish immortality? The speaker then asked our opinion. I ventured that it was the Jewish mother, and in particular that the Jewish birthright is decided matrilineally. I then pointed out that history has shown that ever other society, all of whom were patriarchs, have come and gone, and primarily because they all succumb eventually to the worst of male traits: Violence and sexual licentiousness, which are more prevalent amongst those who have the majority of the testosterone. In order for the yetzer hara not to reign over the yetzer hatov, the chochma has to be subverted at some point to the binah. But Sarah, at Chabad, should those with the binah not be allowed to bimah to make aliyah to Torah; are the other Jewish 'branches' so amiss for allowing thus?
Posted By Thomas Karp



 


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