Contact Us

My Tantrum With G-d

My Tantrum With G-d


Having four kids, I’m no stranger to temper tantrums—those of my kids, I mean. I’ve had my share of 2-year-old (and older) kids kicking and screaming in frustration on my kitchen floor.

Somehow, I can keep preparing dinner while looking objectively at the situation escalating right by my feet.

I can think to myself, “I know you’re angry because I’m not letting you hold whatever dangerous object you want this second. But I also know that I love you and that you love me, and it is because I love you that I’m not letting you hold that object. So this tantrum is a reflection of how strong our relationship really is. It does not alter the relationship. The relationship is there, and nothing can change that.

“When the storm passes (i.e., you’re able to live with the fact that you will not get that dangerous object from me), our relationship will revert back to the loving one that it has always been and will always be.

“As a loving parent, I can handle your tantrum because I know three things with absolute certainty: 1) the anger and the pain will pass; 2) what I did is for your own good; and 3) it’s a pure expression of our loving relationship. In fact, I can thank you, my screaming child, for reminding me at this heated moment exactly where we’re holding. I love you.”

Truth be told, sometimes I’m not in that objective position. Sometimes, I feel like I am the child having a tantrum. I want to yell and scream in frustration and anger to G‑d.

“I do not like what You did. I really do not like it, and I can’t stand the fact that You did that to me/those I love. I do not like You very much right now. I want You to feel my pain! It hurts and You are responsible for the pain. Actually, I tried as hard as I could to change your will about this, but You didn’t. And it makes me mad!”

And as I wipe the tears on my face, I remember what it’s like when I’m the parent. I could kick and scream at You all day, but somehow I stop. Exhausted from a futile attempt at kicking and screaming, and with a heart shattered in pieces, I feel once more that ours is a loving relationship. And even though I’m not grateful for the tears, I am still grateful for the love. I know where You and I are holding. Thank You.

Do you ever feel like you’re having a tantrum with G‑d?

Yael Trusch is a mother, and author of the lifestyle blog, Jewish Latin Princess, where Jewish femininity takes a Latin twist. On her bi-lingual blog, Yael creatively inspires women to combine the physical and spiritual in everything they do. She holds women’s classes in Spanish and teaches brides and bat mitzvah girls.
© Copyright, all rights reserved. If you enjoyed this article, we encourage you to distribute it further, provided that you comply with's copyright policy.
Join the Discussion
Sort By:
1000 characters remaining
Anonymous April 10, 2015

Great analogy. Thanks for posting this! Reply

John O'Neal Battle Creek, Michigan March 21, 2015

I saw on another thread, someone speaking of taking a written stress test, and the different values assigned different stresses, generally a score of one hundred is
considered very stressed.
Times of stress like that can be occasion for this kind of reaction, and the reassurance that there is love in the end can be very soothing indeed.
Something I know myself, as I have had such a life that it has been rare for me to have a stress score as as one hundred, My friends have been amazed , tempted to find some error on my part that would explain it. But knowing me, they know how I conduct myself , so ...?
There is a crucible, and the heat of it drives off the dross, leaving only the precious as it's remnant. When I realized that,I asked to be placed firmly in it, because I also know, like a father with his favored son, The L-rd chastises most, the son who pleases Him best, and this way, I carry always the assurance of His love, without the tantrum.

Anonymous via March 20, 2015

Would that you had been my mother...but, you know, maybe you were...I was too young to know! Reply

Don Salem March 20, 2015

Even in the Psalms While they may no be temper tantrums toward HaShem, the cry of "How long oh Lord" as well as "Hey are you listening?"sometimes shows our level of frustration with G-d. Especially when we forget He loves us and has only the best for us ,that things take place in G-d's time and according to His plan and not ours. What you wrote was truly inspiring especially for those times when I question where G-d has gone to in my life. Reply

Anonymous Fair Lawn March 18, 2015

It's not easy I'd been suddenly made aware that someone I care about is not doing so well. I thought I was dealing with it. But everyone around me saw my hidden anger, although I thought it was just humor. It took a friend to help me realize that I was angry. I said "Yes, I am angry with HaShem." It feels as if my emunah and bitachon are being tested. Your words are so well-timed. It's not an easy situation, but we don't always understand HaShem's ways. Reply

Mrs. Chana Weisberg via March 18, 2015

dear sherry I'm so sorry to hear. Wishing you strength and wishing you son a complete healing. Reply

Sherry Houston March 18, 2015

This week I definitely wanted to have a temper tantrum towards G-d.
My son has a brain tumor and is undergoing horrendous chemo and the medicines to counteract the nausea and vomiting were not working. My son asked me "what did I do to deserve this?". I tried to reassure him "it doesn't work that way". Bad things happen, we don't know why, and it's okay to be angry. Reply

Anonymous 19702 October 23, 2017
in response to Sherry:

Reply to Sherry march 18, 2015 Dear Sherry, Your message about your son's brain tumor , I had to respond. A friend of mine, her son was in a car accident 2 weeks after his high school graduation.. He had a bright future and college to look forward to, but now he is in a coma, with severe brain injury and the medical team give him very little chance of recovery. He is non-responsive and is being tube-fed, only a young man 17-18 years old. His mother goes to work every day, she has two other children at home to care for, and she goes to visit her son in the hospital , play music for him, hold his hand, talk to him. PLEASE tell your son, "he did not do anything to deserve what happened to him, because your son wants an answer that would satisfy his need for a logical reasonable explanation. but perhaps your son's life will be the catalyst and purpose to save himself and others from brain injuries. Reply

Jackie Wedelich March 17, 2015

Wonderful article! I guess just as our children we don't always understand G-ds reasons. Reply

Diane March 16, 2015

Thank you for the analogy! I thought I was being unreasonable when I have had a temper tantrum towards G-d. Your reassuring words have really helped me. I have been dealing with my own disabilities as well as watching my mom's dementia get worse. I was feeling bad that I was getting angry at G-d for these situations. Now, your reminder that G-d can take it and still love me. I needed to hear this. Thank you. Reply

Lu March 16, 2015

yeah thought I was the only one, Reply

Rivka Texas March 16, 2015

So well put! Thanks 'Jewish Latin Princess'!! Your words always hit home :) Reply

mom of 9 Independence, MO March 16, 2015

yes I went to see my dad one day after having a very bad month. He could tell something was wrong and ask me what was going on. I told him what was wrong and also that I yelled at G-d I was so upset. This seem to upset my dad and he ask why I did that. I said I figured G-d was the only one that would understand my fit. He laughed and said ooook. Reply

hindy rosenberg miami March 16, 2015

love this Reply