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Facing Our Childhood Insecurities
 | My heart swelled. I empathized with her awkwardness, her inability to casually approach the group and join the activity-- having existed as an outsider myself on many an occasion...
This is an absolutely brilliant piece of writing.
I too can empathise with the kid who never quite fitted in, and like the writer i too had a daughter that i worried might have the same problem.
In an effort to avoid her going through the same i over protected her and didnt give her the chance to learn for herself. Then the school pointed it out to me and i changed, and let her find her own way. And whats more she has found her own way- very nicely and very well.
So, i know its so hard because we dont want our kids to suffer if we did, but it is simply because of that inyan that we have most likely edicted them differently, and we have to trust ourselves that by making the difference it has worked and had a good effect on the child, and let them go.
And then stand back and be proud.
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your piece on childhood insecurities projected onto our own children also resonated in my heart. thank you! it's comforting to know that I am not the only one out there who had a difficult and lonely childhood... an observer, who always stood back watching, wishing and waiting for my chance to fit in.
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how i loved/hated this piece!! i have just gone through something similar with my only child in kindergarten this year...the pains that 'I' went through when she wasn't invited to some of the outings or birthday parties with her peers! What was most interesting was,SHE showed ME, it didn't ruin her world...the next day she played with those same kids whose parents had left her out, and the children thought nothing of it..some kids were invited, some kids weren't..which is life! But did MY old wounds rise to the occasion? You bet they did! I was hurt, appalled, angry at both the kids and the parents! I would never leave a kid out I told my husband and friends, who seemed to think I'd finally really lost it, letting this insignificant event have such an impact on my sanity. But it did..I've been a bookworm all my life, much more comfortable with my own company and a few carefully chosen close friends over the years. I wanted her life to be fuller, but she IS very happy and GETS it!
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Having stumbled accross this today I felt I had to say how lovely it was to read.
I have been a nursery teacher for 11 years
now and still love every minute of it!
I started this career after having a child who
clearly was not impressed with nursery life
and would not join in but sit on a chair in the corner of the hall week after week .He is now 14 and still finds sociallising hard.
You just have to be there to listen not judge and not expect too much too soon.
Every one has a gift to offer it just needs unwrapping with a good early years education in a loving environment.
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