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Having a Baby in My Forties
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"You're going to be the grandma in the park," a distant aunt said when she heard I was pregnant again. "Oh, was it an accident?" a neighbor questioned, looking at the ground sadly. They didn't know. They didn't know about the three back-to-back miscarriages, about the rows and rows of fertility medications...
25 Comments Posted
A beautiful and inspiring article...you brought tears to my eyes.
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so I am 62 and he is 13 and half. SO he came premature on my 49 birthday. Not a day passed by that I don't thank G-d for my gfit. What a privilege. I take care of myself as I think of doing my part in being healthy. He is my number 4 kid and he keeps my heart open. I can be more than a grandma right. how about a great grandma.The illusion of who parents is always present in my mind. Its about care given. love given to your generation the love of judaism no matter how old you are. that was a beautiful story have a blessed life.
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G-d bless you and your family! What a lovely and moving essay. I was 42 when my son was born...people usually think I am his grandmother. You know what? In a special way, I am his grandmother, because it is GRAND to be his MOTHER! May your family ever be blessed.
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As I read the real life story about a woman having her daugther in her 40's. It warms my heart to see how fullfilling it was in spite of the complications. That is the kind of encouragement I need for what is in my heart. My life reflects mistakes towards single parenting and realistically speaking "I dislike it very much". Don't get me wrong, all three of my children have graduated or graduating this year from high school and my nephew I am raising should be graduating next school year. They are well mannered and the pride of my community. Not so bad for being a single mother. But the desire of my heart is to experience a complete family with someone who wants to live a life according to G-d's instructions so I can have a peace of mind knowing that the first and last word is His desire for us is to unit in every way in Him. I'm willing to start all over again and have a second set of children to fulfill the desire of my heart.
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We are blessed with a boy and girl who were also born later after alot of loss and effort and I thank Hashem every day for these precious gifts. Our lives are filled with the challenges and blessings of teens as we juggle other life stages. There is no greater gift in life or for a marriage than healthy "later life" babies.And what a motivation to take care of selves as we nurture generations....
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Wow! This brought tears to my eyes as well!
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I also had not one but 2 kids over forty. I love them and enjoy them more than i did the ones that I had when I was "younger"
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A beautiful story of a miracle with signs. Beshert! (Meant to be!) Mazel Tov. May your daughter be a blessing in your mother's merit.
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I wanted kids from a young age. It never happened until I got pregnant by "accident" at 39, my baby was born 2 months premature but thank G-D healthy with no major complications. I was told I couldn't get pregnant and I would have to go through fertility and bed rest for 9 months. I was in shock when I learned I was pregnant at my age and how am I going to hang out in a park when my career is keeping me so busy! I was still in shock when my little angel was born. Reading your article was very inspiring and I realize I am not alone, having a baby in my 40's and not the only grandma in the park I am loving coming home to my little baby to play and read books! Thanks, your article hit home.
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Such a beautiful story, I know your mom is with you still ,and loves your beautiful baby girl. you are so blessed, Both of my parents have passed away, I love them so much and miss them everyday and know that they are still watching over me, G-d Bless You,,, you are so blessed. Your story is an example that G-d is with us, and the miracle of life is so special and so are you and your family.
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beautifu articlel! a huge mazal tov to you and your family!
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Thank you for this story, which I read with many tears. I'm a mother of six, too and got the last one, son David, with forty. People don't know what they're talking about when saying accident, what in truth is tremendous gift of heaven. All the best to the whole family.
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Oh, congratualtions on such a beautiful baby! I too have known the sting of thoughtless comments by relatives who thought my greatest blessings started out as accidents or mistakes. And, like you, I've been blessed six times over - my last being a very difficult pregnancy with health problems that are yet unresolved, but I agree with you. Every precious smile and coo makes it so very "worth it." How could I complain about the small trouble that brought me such a beautiful blessing? Thank you for touching my heart with this wonderful story.
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I am in tears! What a beautiful baby! Don't your friends know women are having babies into their 50's! (and 60, here and there) I wish you all the best and health for your beautiful baby girl, and of course your other munchkins! :-)
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What a moving and beautiful article! I read it through tears! May you have much nachas (joy) from your daughter Sasha as well as from all of the others. I too had 6 c-sections, so I feel for you! I will tell you though, that it is an odd position to be the "grandmother in the park". I am the only mother in my young son's class who is a grandomther as well, and I do feel the age difference acutely. It is all good, but there are distinct challenges that we older Mom's face. I will say that despite it all, at this point I still yearn for another!!!! Mazal Tov and Hatzlacha (good luck!)!!!
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Think about if we all who have commented could sit together for a while with a cup of tea or coffee. My best wishes to all of you
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A beautifully written story by a very talented and beautiful woman.
Thank you -
"Grandpa in the Park"
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My third came at 40 a good 6 years after the others. She's had the blessing of a mom who's been trough the ropes and isn't uptight about everything like I was with the first two. She's the most well adjusted and the most mature.But I am still a little jealous of my friends my age who are becoming grandmas!
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My husband and I just found out that we are expecting our 6th baby! I will be 40 when this baby is born...Blessings,
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i don't get it- you have 6, what's the deal with fertility treatments- was the story about the first ? if not - well, what was going on?
dave, father of 5 whose wife carried 8 times
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Five days after my 8th and first successful IVF, my dear mother who was my best friend, passed away. Three weeks later I lost the baby. Why? Why would G-d do this to me? Four months later, I tried one more time. This time I will put it in G-d's hands. It will be my last attempt with IVF and I will accept what G-d brings my way. Nine month's later my beautiful daughter was born. Perfect in every way! We named her after my Mom, of course! Though she never met my Mom, she knows all about her and dreams of her often. She has used her expressons and we can't figure out how she would know them. She talks to her and feels her presence. I had just turned 40 when she was born. My Mom is still with us and always will be!
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Just a beautiful story and a ness (miracle)!
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I have four from a previous marriage and after 16 years, HaShem has brought me a wonderful husband. I am 47 yrs, and we are praying for a baby. My husband has never been married before and never had children. We were pregnant once, over a year ago but loss him. My age shouldn't matter to anyone, I know it doesn't to HaShem. He is the author and giver of LIFE! Blessed are we amoung women who continue to have life grow within us.
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So inspirational! I love rain in Forks Washington!
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what a beautiful story. How is Sasha Now? I would love to have an update.
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