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By Robyn Cuspin
| Six months ago I had a late-stage miscarriage, and gave birth to a baby that had passed away in the fifth month. I got out of the hospital, and began to write...
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I was not able to have any children myself. I think G-d provided me with the strength to go.I have other children from other people to fill the void. I thank G-d for these children.My friend who is a gentile has the most awesome children that I have met. They are filled with love and caring thanks to their mother(may she live and be well). You are doing the right thing writing because it is the best therapy for you. I just finished with radiation therapy and I thank G-d that I had the support from people that I did not know who cared.I also, have my crafts and other stuff that keep me going.
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Tragedy can be a blessing. I lost my parents this summer, very close together (my mother passed first). Also during that time, we were dealing with a potential move and job search for my husband to go to grad school. Two days after my father passed, my husband got accepted to grad school where we currently live.
I think that my parents gave us the last blessing from G-d that they could - being able to stay here and build a life. While I miss them greatly, their blessing will allow us to finally lay down roots and start a family after 2-4 years of being "nomadic".
G-d sends blessings in various ways, some of which we are not meant to understand .....
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After marrying at age 23 and trying to get pregnant for years, I had 2 inseminations and became pregnant. I miscarried after a couple months and we were devastated because we feared we would never be parents. A couple months later, we did 2 more inseminations and we were blessed with our first son, Jordan. A few years later, we tried again...18 inseminations (with shots, ultrasounds, bloodwork, etc.) and an in vitro. We had one miscarriage during this time...at almost 6 months. I understand the pain of this and every loss! Although we never forget the life we had, I believe G-d has a plan and a reason for everything. After suffering another miscarriage, we were blessed with 3 more sons! Our oldest is now 18 and graduating!! I lost my beloved Mother (age 57) 9 years ago and having younger children has been a blessing and helps me cope with her loss. I'll never forget the tragedy of our losses but it makes us really appreciate what we have! I hope for much happiness to ease your pain!
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Dear Robyn:
I am really sorry that you lost your child in the fifth month of pregnancy. I myself could not have any children.Due to too many ovarian cysts,I found out later. G-d blessed me with children from others they make my life fulfilled in other ways. I thank G-d for them.
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Dear Robyn,
I too have lost my child, there was an emergency during birth and she died. She was my first child and this was seven years ago, The year after i had my 2nd daughter who i thank G-d for every day, but, i learned that even though i REALLY cannot understand what the purpose was, i did learn to connect with G-d again.
I still have some feeling of anger, when i think about that G-d meant it this way, but i understand that this is because i don't understand it. This in a way a positive thing, as otherwise i would have never searched so much for my meaning in life. Anyway, the point of me writing this i guess, is just because i was very moved by your story, it reminded me of that i need to never stop searching, or else i will move away from G-d, as i was before :(.
I wish you all the best in you life, and peace in your heart.
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Robin Shalom! You write beautifully and in a touching way that brings tears to my eyes, and I'm certain others as well feel this. I am so sorry for your loss, but you will hold and see your baby again and you will go to her, just as King David wrote about his baby that died. We lost ours at 5 hours old to CDH. His yahrzeit is in January and I don't know how we'll make it through that day if we didn't have G-d with us. Definitely write your book! All the best to you, and May Ha-Shem give you sucess as a mother and wife.
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