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Dear Sara Esther,
I just wanted to let you know how much i enjoy reading your inspiring articles time after time and how brave you are in writing the current article. I am sure you will be a source of strength to many moms with your honest appraisal of life in the jewish lane.
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Such a powerful and important piece. Your words are going to make a difference in a lot of women's lives. Thank you for sharing your strength and wisdom. You should be blessed to go from strength to strength.
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I've been pregnant only once and miscarried after 2 months. Like you and so many other women, I continue to love - not a fetus, not some unformed 'it' - but a child.
My child.
Thank you, Sara Esther, for writing this. Thank you so very much. And if I could thank Rabbi Ginsburgh, I would do so. I've already done so mentally, and with my heart.
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Excellent article. Gave me chizuck just in the right time. Thank you
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I married at a later than usual age and got pregnant a year after. The happiness that my husband showed just added so much to my feeling of happiness. At 13 weeks I had to have a D&C. The reason, a blighted ovum. The nurse told me "Mourn this loss but not the loss of the future". After IVF and another 2 lost pregnancies I accepted that I would not have children, although I feel that my husband never did. I am glad to read your story and that this subject is being dealt with. The words of Rabbi Ginsburgh were truly inspiring to me even after all the years.
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I went through a similar experience, only my miscarriage was a little earlier. The concept of the empty sac was scary but strangely comforting to me at the time, because it allowed me to be sad for myself, but somehow I felt I didn't have to mourn for a baby. There had been no baby, only a sac. I found myself confused by the concept and slightly inadequate, but secretly relieved. I never wondered about the child that might have been; there was no child. Only cells.
Years later, when my daughter was born, the early loss made her birth more precious -- if that is even possible.
I feel for you. I remember so well the pain and the confusion. And like you, while I know that each of us experiences every pain in our own, personal way I am inspired and comforted by this amazing opportunity to share our experiences with other women all over the world. Thank you for this website.
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All I can say is WOW!!! What a story and so beautifully told. We have one daughter and after her birth 3 or 4 miscarriages. So we gave up. The heartache was just too much. And yes, as the male, I really did feel it too. If not in the physical sense, then definitely emotionally. Anyway, our daughter is now 14 going on 30. And Baruch Hashem, we have only had nachus and more nachus. So this story has a happy ending too.
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Dear Sara Esther,
Thank you for sharing this experience. I had a very similar experience as well, and 2 in a row before having a healthy baby. I felt all the things you're describing and it took months of healing emotionally. All this combined had forced me to delve into a very deep place inside me. I went far knowing that down there lay the answer to my pain and questions. The experiences gave me an unbelievable glimpse into my connection with G-d and among other things an appreciation and tremendous balance of trust and faith in Hashem. When I was pregnant with my beautiful baby son i took great care never to take it for granted.
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Sara Esther,
This is the 3rd time in just one week i'm writing to you to tell you how wonderful your site is!!
i am addicted... in the morning and then in the evening to open the site and just read. I learn lots, and I cry lots, and again learn to be strong.. it's gotten to be my safe place...
Thank you millions
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As a woman who miscarried after 10 weeks, I always wondered what the purpose of the pregnancy was, especially as by the time I found out I was pregnant ( I only took a pregancy after the second month when I didn't get my period ) the fetus was no longer alive.
Rabbi Ginsburg's words that there are the souls that need so little to complete their mission, that their soul only needs to come into a body long enough to beat its heart or simply create a pregnancy is very comforting and reassuring that everything has its purpose.
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Thank you for writting that. My wife and I just had our second loss in 5 months. thank you for that lil' bit of confort.
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Thank you for sharing your story. I recently suffered my 2nd miscarriage out of 3 pregnancies, in the same order as you. In this most recent one, we did see a heartbeat, but by the next week it was gone. The thoughts your Rabbi shared with you give me so much peace. To think that this soul was finished with it's work and ready to move on is so much easier to hold on to than any other "explanation". Thank you for sharing your pain to help relieve the pain of others at least a bit. Bless you.
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As I read your piece, I felt very sorry for your loss, but at the same time, with every word that I read, I felt a sense of calm that I haven't felt in a long time. I also had a blighted ovum with my first pregnancy. The word "empty" echoed through my head as well, as if I had failed in some way. I felt as if my insides were empty. I then suffered a tremendous amount of pain delievering the placenta and sac, and subsequently hemmorhaged and had to be rushed to the E.R. My family and friends, and my husband tried to be there for me as much as I needed them, but there were also those who thought they were comforting when they said it wasn't like I "lost a child". There was nothing there. But there was to me. The time I took off work as a result of my miscarriage, was not understood by my coworkers, and in fact was questioned and frowned upon. I never felt so alone. I thought what your rabbi said was beautiful, and I will hold those words with me as I try for another child...
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I have had 4 miscarriages in a row in a matter of 11 months. Thank G-d, I have one beautiful little girl. I am completely lost and feel like I will most likely not have any more children. Your article was very touching and has definitely made me feel like I am not alone. This suffering is unbearable and I am trying very hard to see things in other perspectives. Thank you for sharing your story. I now feel that what i am going through is serving a bigger purpose. I only pray that G-d will bless me and my husband with more children.
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I've been pregnant for the second time and after 3 months I found I have an empty sac, but I still thought I was carring a baby, my baby.
Thank you so much for your article. It is really sad and i'm so sorry.
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Having just had a miscarriage I found this article to be a source of comfort to me. Somehow, knowing that I am not the only one in the world who went through such an ordeal, eases the pain slightly. In particular the comment made by Rabbi Ginsburgh really helped me deal with some of my pain, and shed some light on the possible reason for my predicament. Thank you for your essay Mrs.Crispe and I hope and pray that we should all be blessed with beautiful and healthy children who give us nothing but joy!
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I am going through the same thing right now, I also just went through the same thing back in May and it is not any easier now than it was back then. I do have one healthy boy who just turned 2, and am more grateful for him now than ever. This article related to me and it did help me to feel a little better and know that I was not alone. Thank you for posting this story.
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Thank you Mrs Crispe for sharing your story. I just lost a baby late in the second trimester and am going through a very difficult time- especially since we were not able to bury the baby in the proper way due to negligence of the hospital. Rabbi Ginsburgh's words to you have been very comforting to me. Thank you again.
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I am going through a similar situation right now. I was just told today that my sac is empty. I was going for my monthly check-up at 11 weeks and was expecting to hear a heart beat for the first time.
I too feel empty inside. A piece of me died today and I am not sure how I will go on. Luckily, I am blessed with a 2 1/2 yr old son who will keep me strong.
While I am not Jewish, Rabbi Ginsburgh's words struck a chord in my heart and have been the only conselation that I have had since being told that my baby is gone. Bless you and your family and Thank you for sharing your stroy.
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Wow, I can't believe what I am reading, it is exactly what I am thinking. It is great to know that I am not alone. I suffered a molar pregnancy in April. Everyone said I would get pregnant right away but now I am having all of these health problems and won't be able to even try for three more months. Then, it is not up to me when I will even get pregnant, not counting the fear of another molar pregnancy. This really helps me wait and heal both physically and emotionally.
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What an amazing article. I have miscarried 9 days ago. My husband and I had been married for 5 months when we were told that we might have problems conceiving. I was so shocked since it had never even occured to me that this might be a possibility. However, three weeks after that we found out we actually were pregnant. We were so happy and overwhelmed. It seemed like a miracle. 5 days later the cramping and bleeding started.
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I read this just days after my miscarriage at 11 weeks and I cannot tell you what comfort it gave me. I sat here at my computer reading your story that I related to all to well and sobbed--this story was so healing to me. I have been doing so well and I really felt that I had put the miscarriage behind me, but as I near what was supposed to be my due date--these terrible feelings of sadness and loss are beginning to surface. So here I sit at my computer sobbing, but I know that this will once again comfort my heart. The rabbi was such a wise man and what a wonderful reminder it is that my baby needed only a heart beat to complete his purpose in life. Thank you so much for sharing this.
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Like everyone else, your story has moved me to tears. I suffered a traumatic unexpected miscarriage a few days ago after three, Thank G-d, easy text book pregnacies. I thought this one was just like the rest, plain sailing and easy. It came as a tremendous shock to me when my body just could not hold on to the little person within. Though I have been grieving enormously, I have also gained tremendous insight and sensitivity into the miracle of pregnancy and childbirth. I have always tried to be sensitive towards friends who are struggling or have miscarried, now that sensitivity has been taken to a new dimension. While I will miss that little person all my life, I thank him or her for teaching me so much in his/her short time and do belive that this was indeed a Tsadik (righteous person) who's one and only mission was to bring me to this understanding. Life is so precious, children are so precious. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!! Thank you Sara Esther for sharing your story.
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I went for an ultrasound yesterday at 11 weeks also assuming all was fine as I had had no indication otherwise. But, the ultrasound showed no fetus, just a growth of cells. I had also experience all the symptoms and questioned so much but after reading the article have found some comfort - thank you! I am on my way now for a D&C but am so grateful for this article which has put so much into perspective for me!!!
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You have made me realize that I am not completely alone in this.
My baby never developed but I still feel as if it had died in my arms...
I thank you from the bottom of my heart because now I know that there are others and that it is possible for me to bring love into this world.
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It is good to have others who know what it feels like to lose a pregnancy. I have a healthy 2 year old, but have lost 3 pregnancies in the span of 1 year. It is impossible to describe the pain I feel about these losses and the envy and anger I have toward others who can and do keep and birth their children. You have captured much of what I feel and I do believe that we who have gone through this can learn from each other and grieve together.
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I just found out several hours ago that my daughter is now going through a miscarriage...she had another one approximately a year ago. This one was called am 'empty sac' pregnancy...although something had once been there.
Your story, Sara, is so comforting. In time, my daughter will read it and it will comfort her, too. She does have other children, but each loss is the Loss of A Dream. I loved what your rabbi said SO MUCH... I am not Jewish but it goes along perfectly with what my family and I believe, too. Drew and Lori prayed and asked a little soul who wanted to be born to them and their family to come to them...and we all thought that had been fulfilled. This will probably be the hardest part for Lori to go through wondering WHY...and yet the story from your rabbi helps a lot. We are still only human & at this level and cannot understand fully what its all about ...but someday we will. I believe that. Thank you, precious Sara, for your story. May G-d bless you and your family.
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I had an IVF on October, I am 38 years old and finding out I was pregnant felt just like a miracle. I thanked G-d every day for the best gift ever. I had an U/S at 7 weeks and could not see or hear the baby but my doctor explained it was still early b/c it was really 5 weeks ince the embryo transfer. I was so sure everything was fine, I was blessed with no nausea or bad symptoms. Then a day after my birthday I was bleeding, I could only beg G-d that this was nothing. The doctor did an U/S and told us I had an empty sac. I did not even know what that was. He send me home with little hope, but some. The next day I had to go to the ER, my body was ending the pregnancy in the worst pain I have ever felt. All of this just happened this weekend and the sadness is killing me. I have found absolutely no comfort in anything, until I read your story. Somehow I feel that what you say it's true and that just makes me feel just a little bit better. Thank you.
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I am so sorry to hear of this loss and you will move on, really. No one can feel exactly what you do, but the sun really does come up every day, so you can count on that. Do one thing for sure. Grieve. It's so important and when you keep it in and remain too stoic, you won't ever really get through it. Take good care of yourself, okay?
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I feel so sad for you as I went through 7 miscarriages myself and know exactly how you feel. The unbearable pain is something that nobody can take it away. The doctor finally performed a blood test on me for MTHFR and found that I have it and so it may be my problem as to why I am miscarrying. G-d bless you and good luck.
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Your story was very comforting to hear that I too am not alone. It has been exactly 1 year ago this month that I was told it was I had an empty sac when I went for my ultra sound,excited and then saddened. Your story has given me courage and hope as we keep trying to conceive our miracle. Take care of yourself -Thanks so much for making me see this situation in a new perspective.
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Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am currently undergoing a miscarriage and the truth is that I shared many of the thoughs you had before, and "during" the process..... Therefore, your story provided me with hope, since one of my biggest fears is to not be able to have more children, and with comfort, since I can see that I am not alone, and that my thoughts are not plain crazy.... I hope tonight I get to sleep better.....thanks!!!
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It is good to know I am not alone. I felt the same way after finding out my sac was empty. I thought I was all alone. I didn't leave my house for a long time. Thanks for telling your story because I thought something was wrong because we haven't gotten pregnant yet and it has been over 4 months since our lost.
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My daughter in law has lost 2 pregnancies half way through and I have mourned both for a long time and still do. I do however believe that their nashomas, souls, did not need to come to birth and that has been a great comfort to me althought the pain is still there even today. Baruch Hashem, Thank G-d, we have 2 beautiful grandchildren and we thank Him daily for them. May Hashem continue to bless you and your family.
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What a beautiful point of view. I am leaving my house in a few minutes to pick up the cremated remains of my 16 week old fetus. My baby died when I was 16 1/2 weeks pregnant. I had to have surgery and was so happy to have the option to have my baby's remains returned to me. I was searching for prayers this morning and found this site and am truly touched by your sharing this story with us. We are not alone - there is comfort in knowing that - and time will make the wound hurt less. I will always miss this baby that never got a chance at life - I wish the best for all of us going through this difficult time
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Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have 5 beautiful children. I have also suffered the loss of a twin (blighted ovum) and am currently suffering the 2nd of 2 miscarriages. The hormone dip is really hard to get thru. But each time, my walk with G-d is closer and He continues to work in our family. May G-d bless you and keep you...
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You word everything so perfect!!!
I went through the same situation at twenty. today was suppose to be my "due date" and it's killing me! I loved how you said that your husband could sympathize but couldn't empathize. I'm not married but I am still dating the guy who was supposed to be the father of my child. I wish he could understand how empty and ummm upset I feel.
I'm twenty-one years old and not ready for a baby, but I wish i had someone who could hear me out! twenty-one sure but its eating me inside! Why couldn't i have this baby! I'd love to talk about this with someone but my parents never found out about this and my sister kind of just ignores it and my boyfriend asked me to drop it. So I did... Till today!
I read your article and wanted to let you know that it was BRILLIANT! Every sentence was worded perfectly! I just wanted to say thank you i guess. I'll mourn it for today, but will have to move on for my own sake. I will have my baby when it's meant to be! :)
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my wife just got the same thing said to her and i dont know what to say or do to make her feel better i am truly sorry for women going through this in there life
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i have 2 girls and 7 miscarriages, i have come to accept that. the girls are lovely and we are blessed to live with them. more painful are comments of people that assume we have only 2 by choice or as one someone told my husband, pity you have no real kids( meaning boys).in some way much good has come of it, we are able to offer a home to children in need of foster care, i can work, travel and feel less tired then if i had those 8. sometime i think maybe this is the most kids i can deal with. i am now 45 and the deep longing for a child is a thing of the past. all of you going true those pain and loss, remenber that you are a lot more then the mother of children. womenhood had many facets. sorry for the poor english
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Your words bring comfort to me and only confirm how grateful I am to G-d that I am able to conceive. I have 5 beautiful children ages 11-1. I had a miscarriage during my third pregnancy. Miscarried a twin during my previous pregnancy and just discovered an empty sac along with my current pregnancy. My husband and I really feel that conceiving a child is a miracle and a blessing. Not every pregnancy can be successful. So we thank G-d all the time for every baby that we had even though some people try to tell us that the age gaps are too close. I still feel the grieve of all my miscarriages and I'm secretly hoping that I will see a baby in the 2nd sac that's empty during my next ultrasound. It pains me and my husband to know that we've miscarried again. But we are grateful for the surviving twin who's healthy.
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Thank you for sharing your emotional story of loss and pain. It puts into perspective what I went through last month, a terrible experience similar to yours, only with my empty sac pregnancy, I bled for 3 weeks until I "delivered" everything at home...I was in labor for two days for a "non-baby." Can you imagine? I went through the pain of labor and pushing and seeing things come out of my body, only I didn't reep the benefits of holding a baby in the end. This was my second pregnancy, I had a beautiful, healthy boy first, so I was stunned that this happened to me. Yes my husband and I cried for days, but our strength made us determined to move on, believing this had happened through no fault of our own. We put it behind us and will try again when the time is right. I love my family for supporting me and helping me get through this difficult time.
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I was glad to see this article I myself had a pregnancy where they told me there was no fetus inside and most people I knew said they had never heard of such a thing and it was hard to be comforted by a Dr. telling that it doesn't matter because no baby died since ther was no fetus to begin with.
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This is such an honest and important article!
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This post really hit home for me. My husband and 1 have one child, we have had 2 miscarriages, a blighted ovum, and lost our other son a week after he was born. 4 losses in total.
I feel a bit better knowing I'm not the only one this has happened to and it gives me hope that someday we will be able to add to our family.
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In a strange way this article was helpfull to me. 3 years ago I had a blighted ovum, I had heard of it happening but never thought it would happen to me. None of my friends have experienced anything like this, so it's very hard to talk about with any of them, they don't understand. Hearing stories from people who do understand, all too well, was actually comforting to me.
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THank you for sharing your wonderful story with me. You give me hope and faith in believing. I wouldn't give up on concieving even though i just lost mine two days ago.. i'm very sad as you. I'll always treasure your last three paragraph in my heart... THank you so much.. may the lord bless you
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I cry as I read your story. I cry for you and I cry for me. It never gets easy. I have been blessed with healthy children. I have also just had my fifth, and most painful, miscarriage. It too, was an empty sac. Thank you for being able to so beautifullly put into words all I am feeling.
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this article is soo exactly like mines rite now i have a empty sac an is bleeding a couple of days now an i'm so worried but i feel a little better now dat i've heard it from some one elses view tank u
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I can't even begin to tell you how unbelievably comforting it feels to read your article. I'm 23 and have been struggling to get pregnant again for a year since my miscarriage. Every emotion that you've described about your loss I've felt at various points over the past year. Mostly, I've felt very alone because I haven't wanted to tell my friends about my miscarriage. It helps to know that so many other people have gone through the exact same thing and managed to move on and have children. Thank you for writing this.
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Thank you so much for putting this uncomfortable subject in a beautiful light. I had a miscarriage 3 months after i got married.They had to preform a D&C. We were very much lookoing forward to bring that child into the world however, it just wasn't meant to be. Our obgyn told us that it is indeed common in our vastly religious community. It caused us a lot of pain physically and emotionally and we are still waiting many monts later..Thank you to all those who posted they're inspirational comments.
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As I sit here with tears in my eyes and pain in my heart, I was led to you story. Just Google searched what was just told to me 4 hours ago when my 9 week vaginal ultrasound showed an empty sac! After a miscarriage in my 6th week last year, I was so excited about this pregnancy. As I sit here in my pity, my husband can only constantly reassure me everything will be alright! Your story gives my assurance that I am not alone and having our 1st child is still possible.. Thank You!
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I had my third miscarriage 3 months ago. I'm still a little distraught. My husband is afraid to try again. I'm just scared. I've never felt this type of pain and loneliness in my life. My ob/gyn told me that since I'm 33 and y husbande is 37, we are running out of time. I'm just praying for 1 child before 35.
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Don't give up hope. I had 7 miscarriages in my life. My 5th pregnancy was a success. I was 36 at that time and had a girl. She is now 11. I wanted more than 1 child. So we kept trying. I had 3 more miscarriages. My 9th pregnancy was a success again. I had another baby girl.. She was born August 26, 2010 and I was 48 years old. She is healthy in every way and very adorable. Hope kept me going. I prayed very hard and G-d answered my prayer. I was 47 when I got pregnant and everybody around me thought I lost my mind. Pray and don't give up. I am a living proof.
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I read al lthe stories. i just had my uterus evacuated yesterday. I am going through pain in the heart and i am so lonely since my boyfriend, does not know how to comfort since he is so quiet. In 2007 i had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. and in 2008 I had a beautiful baby boy who passed away after a week and was a premature. So recently i felt pregnant but after four months i was told the sac is empty it was new in my ears. I could not even tell anyone coz i felt shame. I went to different drs and it was the same. until when i accepted to be cleaned. i feel so alone, no one is there for me aprt from phone calls coz in a foreign land all people are busy. But i know G-d is in control. my worry is the years iam already 34. and no child. but thanks to all the stories i have seen in this google search. who ever is going through the same, G-d is in control.
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after a year and half of trying to conceive my wife finally became pregnant and today we found out there was no baby...just false hopes and dreams. you said your husband couldnt understand your pain, and maybe thats true. but the pain of finding out for me was like losing a loved one. after so long trying, to just have it taken away like that...im sure time will heal the wounds...but right now, it just hurts...
but now its my job to help my wife get though this. so i have to be stronger than i am and make it better...somehow
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Doctor said that i should be about 9 weeks pregnant. Did ultrasound but he told me that the sac was empty. I have to go back in 2 weeks. As i am sitting here i am feeling so stressed out about this having to back every 2 weeks. But i pray and i have a lot of faith in the G-d. So in the 12th of November i will know what i have to do. I need to know if it is possible that the sac would show full.
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It is definitely possible that you could go back in two weeks and everything could be fine. Most likely your doctor is having you wait because you are so early on in the pregnancy and dates can be off that if it is too soon it is simply too early to see the baby on an ultrasound. I pray for your sake that this is your situation! Just try to remain positive and take care of yourself and hopefully you will have very good news the next time you go back to the doctor!
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My wife and me just had the same experience and yesterday we had to take away what we supposed was our baby - how nature can play with us like this
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I am so confused!!! I am going through this now. I am going nuts because the ultrasound showed an empty sac. This was on 10/31/10......... My stomach is growing but my hormone levels are showing not pregnant!!!! I have had 3 children and I know what it feels like to be pregnant. I just not getting any answers. I am scared lonely confused and in shock!! What is going on and what do I do????? Someone please help.
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The ultrasound didn't see my baby till 10 weeks...My HCG levels were very high and there was no visual sign of the baby.Because of this my doctor had to assume the worst and scheduled a d&c and told me my sac was empty and although I'm pregnant there is no baby... I decided to wait even tho this is horribly difficult and at 10 weeks we finally saw a big healthy baby in the monitor. Please wait your baby is so tiny and so many women have lost babies because of advise from a doctor, they have to go by test and what they see. You have to use your own judgment and blind faith It was worth the wait for us. If my sac continued to show no baby at 11 weeks at lest i could know I did all I could. I expected the worst and hoped for the best and I am now 22 weeks pregnant with a boy.I also found out that if yolk is present then baby is as well and probably hiding behind the yolk. Alot of Doctors wont even do an ultrasound till after 8 weeks because of this.
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I had 4 sonograms for for 4 consecutive weeks and each one showed an empty sac. I didnt want to believe it. My doctor told me to come back the following saturday for another sono and I was a mess all week. He told me that this was not a viable pregnancy and I had a blighted ovum. I was about 7/8 weeks pregnant and prayed and cried and prayed some more for something to appear. In search of knowledge, I stumbled upon this webpage and my heart almost burst the Friday before the sonogram I had the next day. After reading Esthers story and so many of your comments, I felt a sense of peace and I began to pray for Hashem's comfort and guidance. A few hours later I began to bleed and the decision had been made for me. I no longer cried. Hashem was with me and the neshama (soul) that formed within me for the few seconds, minutes, days that it did, served its purpose. My heart aches but am hopeful for a healthy beautiful baby in the near future. My husband has been an angel through this pain.
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This article brought me a sense of peace after eleven years of mourning in my heart for my lost pregnancy. Thank you so much!
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I had a stillborn 30 years ago & have still not resolved the emotions. I was 44 weeks without signs of labor & suddenly there was no heart beat. She was fine on ultrasound that very day. I have tortured myself with guilt over every possible thing, weight gain, too many vitamins, too little vitamins, caffeine... The drs said nothing to comfort me, friends said nothing, one stayed away for two years not knowing what to say later apologizing, my mother had died the year before, & I am an only child. It was treated like it never happened, but the pain & the uncertainty are still with me. My husband was able to work it through--but I still have trouble. I have been blessed with 3 healthy children all by scheduled C sections, since my subsequent preg did not respond to an induction. Just wondered if you had words of comfort that might resonate & help me to move forward.
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I am sitting all alone in my kids bedroom. I have three children. Two boys and one girl. Thank G-d. Today I went for the second time to do my sonogram to see the baby, but here was no baby, there was nothing inside my uterus. I had no bleeding, no pain nothing, just my body adjusting for the pregnancy. When the doctor said there were nothing there, what ever I had there is deteriorating by itself . I felt so confused, overwhelmed and not to mentioned my husband is not that supported person the two time I had to go to do the sonogram I went on my own. The doctor said I had a miscarriage This happen today, I have been so sad and confused. I don't think I want to have another baby, I'm scared now and worry if it could happen again. When I mentioned to one of my family member what had happen she just said maybe it was a psychological pregnancy and I felt so bad because the blood test result and the doctor says yes I was pregnant. Thank you for sharing your study it gave a little peace.
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My first child would be 41 years old. At that time...talking about miscarriage was a societal no-no. The hospital staff kept it secretive, and so did neighbors, friends and family. Mom's -sometimes with understanding dad's......suffered in silence.
From time to time I would mention the death of my infant - but, other than a brief and succint "Oh, I am sorry", there was no outlet for discussion, lamenting, details or comfort.
I am moved to tears that women today have a venue, a support group - both in person and on-line, to express their heartache and that hospitals are more supportive, and the topic is no longer hush hush...
My heart goes out to every mom who must endure an empty crib....but, I feel so blessed to have lived long enough to see that the women have prevailed...:we" - "society" - have opened our arms and hearts to the women who have suffered a great monumental loss. B'H. I have lived to see it!
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I had a scan at 6 weeks strong heartbeat the nurse said. I was so excited.. I went for my nex scan 11 weeks 3 days no heartbeat .Im heartbroken my little Angel where are you gone. Im finding it very hard to accept . why could this happen I say the heartbeat at 6 weeks.
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Give some time. Don't do the D&C. Sometimes the baby could be in a position that makes it hard to detect the heartbeat. I had 7 miscarriages out of 9 pregnancies. It is extremely difficult to be in this stage. I understand how you feel. I cried so much over my losses, that almost ended up in a hospital. Do not despair, I gave birth to my second daughter in my late 40s, everything is possible w/ G-d.
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