Yehudis Karbal

When difficulties arise, it is only human nature to focus on what's not working, what's not perfect, rather than what could possibly be workable. Because the pain and darkness are so pervasive – it feels as if "it's all wrong" or "there's nothing good ...

In any relationship – husband/wife, teacher/student, parent/child – one of the best ways to diffuse a tense or difficult situation is simply to think in terms of asking a question rather than preaching, nagging, begging, ordering, threatening, shaming, ...

A wise parent or teacher who will learn to focus on questions as the key to helping a child develop his "brain power." Here are examples of non-productive questions versus thought-provoking ones...

In the pre-marital phase we are focused on "what am I getting." In the post-marital state our focus shifts from to "what am I giving."

The most stable unions are among couples who have found ways to air differences without escalating into personal attacks or retreating into stony silence. They have mastered these eight elements...

Although there are cultural reasons for our differences in emotions and behavior, recent breakthrough research reveals that the root of many puzzling gender differences may lie in our brains. How are couples to deal with these natural differences?

Time and time again, I have heard from women regarding what they need most in the relationship: "If only he would be more patient, if only he would speak carefully with me, if only he wouldn't get so angry all the time."

Yael and Yosef had a "good enough" marriage, but their marriage felt boring, and on automatic. Whenever they did find time to be together, the talk usually drifted to problems and negativity. As a result of their disconnection, they were both feeling ...

Sara was very much like her mother, dynamic, outspoken, and definitely more comfortable in the "driver's seat." She saw how frustrated her mother was with her father's quiet, more passive way. And she was now reliving that anger in her own marriage.

Instead of getting into a power struggle with a person who constantly blames, shames and labels, try a refreshing approach that I call "the Pareve Response."