Finding a Mate

All you need to know about the quest for a soulmate. The Jewish perspective on the selection process, dating, and the need to marry in the first place!

The natural compulsion to marry expresses a deep soul-ambition: its desire to reconnect with its other half. Body and soul reach completion when they are reunited with their other half.

The Biblical story of Eliezer and Rebecca as a guide to what to look for in seeking a marriage partner

I am in a serious relationship with a great guy. We have been together for a while now and I have very strong feelings for him. He is ready to get married, and is getting a bit impatient with me.

My friends say the main thing is that you are in love, and everything else will fall into place. Should I believe them?

I know what you are going to say: I am too fussy. But I can't just settle on something half good. Where is the woman of my dreams?

My friends' spouses are all such wonderful people, but the guys I meet all seem to be missing something. What am I doing wrong?

My girlfriend isn't Jewish, but she is in the process of converting. In your Kabbalah class you said that everyone has a soul-mate, the missing part of our soul. Could she be my soul-mate?

It seems that the more determined I am to marry a Jew, the more fantastic non-Jewish girls walk into my life. Maybe G-d is trying to tell me something?

I am happy in my relationship and things are getting quite serious. But there is one nagging doubt at the back of my mind. I have nothing to compare her to, because I have never been in this type of relationship before. I feel that perhaps, before I ...