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Man and Woman

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It is a mistake to consider man and woman two separate beings. They are no more than two halves of a single form, two converse hemispheres that fit tightly together to make a perfect whole. They are heaven and earth encapsulated in flesh and blood.

It is only that on its way to enter this world, this sphere was shattered apart. What was once the infinity of a perfect globe became two finite surfaces. What was once a duet of sublime harmony became two bizarre solos of unfinished motions, of unresolved discord.

So much so, that each one hears in itself only half a melody, and so too it hears in the other. Each sees the other and says, “That is broken.” Feigning wholeness, the two halves wander aimlessly in space alone.

Until each fragment allows itself to surrender, to admit that it too is broken. Only then can it search for the warmth it is missing. For the depth of its own self that was ripped away. For the harmony that will make sense of its song.

And in perfect union, two finite beings find in one another infinite beauty.

By Tzvi Freeman
From the wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory; words and condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman. Subscribe and get your dose daily. Or order Rabbi Freeman’s book, Bringing Heaven Down to Earth, click here.
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Ron G January 26, 2016

Sadness How can I reconcile this with my having two wonderful children with a woman who I am now divorced, and I am now in a relationship, marriage hopefully soon, with another woman? Reply

Alice Broudy Cupples San Diego, CA, USA January 26, 2016

Gratitude My husband and I are in our 28th year of marriage. He is 67, and I am 68. We got married at 40 & 41. Seven years ago It was necessary to not work anymore due to a painful medical condition. Over one year ago my husband had to retire due a painful medical condition. Now that we are together every day, I believe we both are in varying levels of distress and discordance. The Daily Dose truly "hit the spot" for me. It tells me we are average people, guided by Hashem. We are two beings temporarily disconnected but with a future of bonding into two bonded beings. This is as it should be. Reply

Derrick Gonsalves Markham November 20, 2015

Not only beautiful but very helpful esp.in these days.
Thank you very much. Reply

lucianna tx, usa March 15, 2015

love that is so beautifully explained. Reply

Scionofzion Far Rockaway, NY/USA September 19, 2011

Women outnumber men? The Torah has exactly the answer for this non-problem. And R' Gershon's g'zeira no longer overcomes it! Reply

Lesley Hubbard Laurel, MD USA December 30, 2009

Man and Woman This is absolutley beautiful and it describes so well the love my husband and I shared once we found one another. Reply

Anonymous UK April 5, 2009

That is beautiful. Shalom! Reply

sam castro valley, CA December 20, 2008

Man And Woman I am searching for my "rib" but this time in an inteligent manner. By that I mean core values have to be demonstrated and it is no longer the best looking woman but rather the best woman I can find. You have to shop around. Well, I hope this works but certainly it can't fail completely! Or can it? Reply

Anonymous December 11, 2008

Shidduchim Crisis at large I agree with the person who wrote two post up from me that there surely is a match-finding crisis especially so in the Religious world, and the Jewish leaders need to address this problem in a comprehensive way - like a major campaign. A new set of standards for men especially need to be made, and a support system to meet one another needs to be in place. Thanks for the article though. Its quite brilliant~ Reply

Roxanne Perri Delray Beach, Florida December 11, 2008

MAN AND WOMAN As a handwriting analyst who uses the tool of graphology to help couples recognize each other and understand better their differences, I find this article refreshing, succinct and well explained. I look forward to more of your wisdom. Mazel Tov! Reply

Anonymous Murfreesboro, TN/USA December 11, 2008

Man and Woman It's really beautiful what I just read...

Nevertheless, why does the number of single Jewish women in this world outnumber the men? why so many female souls, suffer from loneliness, unfulfilled dreams, and reach the mature age without ever finding the "right" one? where's the other half? Reply

Anonymous NY, NY December 11, 2008

Moving This was quite touching; I feel blessed anew to have the man I have. Reply

Milander February 24, 2008

man and woman Obviously YOU aren't married... Reply

Ab Yang St Paul, MN November 9, 2006

Man and Woman
What a beautiful way to describe this relationship between man and woman. Thanks. Reply

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