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Weekly Sermonette
Moral is Normal


If anyone was bent on convincing us that Torah was old-fashioned, the Yom Kippur afternoon reading would be a good way to prove it. Leviticus, Chapter 18, contains the Bible's Immorality Act. Our moral code, the forbidden relationships, who may marry whom and who may not--all come from this week's reading.

Every year in every synagogue around the world someone asks the very same question. "Why on Yom Kippur, Rabbi? Was there no other section of the Torah to choose besides the one about illicit sex? Is this an appropriate choice to read in Shul on the holiest day of the year?"

Fair question. So the Rabbis explain that this is, in fact, the ultimate test of our holiness. The most challenging arena of human conduct, the one really tests the mettle of our morality, is not how we behave in the synagogue but how we behave in our bedrooms. To conduct ourselves appropriately in public is far easier than to be morally consistent in our intimate lives.

Old-fashioned? You bet. In a world of ever-changing, relative morality where gay marriages and starving people to death have become acceptable, the Torah does indeed seem rather antiquated.

Man-made laws are forever being amended to suit changing times and circumstances. When a new super-highway is built, traffic officials may decide that it is safe to raise the speed limit. Should there be a fuel shortage, these same officials may decide to lower the speed limit in order to conserve the energy supply. Human legislation is constantly adapting to fluctuating realities. But G-d's laws are constant, consistent and eternal. Divine legislation governs moral issues. Values, ethics, right and wrong, these are eternal, never-changing issues. Humankind has been confronting these problems since time immemorial. From cavemen to Attilla the Hun to nuclear superpowers, the essential issues really have not changed very much. Questions of moral principle, good and evil, have been there from the very beginning. Life choices are made by each of us in every generation. These questions are timeless.

So we read that adultery was forbidden in Moses' day and it still is in ours. So is incest. But it wouldn't shock me at all if the same forces motivating for new sexual freedoms soon began campaigning for incestuous relationships to become legal. And why not? If it's all about consenting adults, why deny siblings? Given the slippery slope of our moral mountains, nothing is unthinkable any more.

Ultimately, morality cannot be decided by referendum. We desperately need a higher authority to guide us in the often confusing dilemmas of life. In Egypt and Canaan lots of degenerate behavior was acceptable, even popular. In this week's Parshah, G-d tells His people that He expects us to march to a different beat. We are called upon to be a holy nation, distinctively different in this, the most challenging test of our morality. It doesn't matter what is legal or trendy in Egypt, Canaan, America or Scandinavia. We have our own moral guide, our own book of books which requires no editing or revised editions for the new age. Because right is right and wrong is wrong and so it will always be.

A wise rabbi once wrote that we mustn't confuse "normal" with "average." Since there are people out there who, tragically, may have lost a leg, this would mean that the "average" person has something like 1.97 legs. But that isn't quite "normal." A normal person has two legs. When Torah teaches us to be holy and distinctive, it is reminding us to be normal, not average. Average can be rather mediocre. Just be normal and retain your Jewish uniqueness. It may not be easy. It may not be politically correct. You probably will not win any popularity contests. But you will be faithful to the eternal truths of life. And in the long run, you will be right.

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Rabbi Yossy Goldman was born in Brooklyn, New York, to a distinguished Chabad family. In 1976 he was sent by the Lubavitcher Rebbe, of righteous memory, as a Chabad-Lubavitch emissary to serve the Jewish community of Johannesburg, South Africa. He is Senior Rabbi of the Sydenham Highlands North Shul since 1986, president of the South African Rabbinical Association, and a frequent contributor to Chabad.org.

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Posted: Oct 6, 2011
No one should Judge one another, that G_D will do. We are to love each other with a Godly love regardless, but we don't have to accept each others lifestyles. Rabbi, the article is good and true according to Torah, those that do not agree, take it up with G_D, we will not judge you, we are merely stating facts of Torah.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Apr 15, 2011
Question in regards to the Euthanasia comment
I believe and trust in Hashem but you mentioned something about Euthanasia and how it is accepted when it should not be.

A woman who had a rare tumor wanted euthanasia because the tumor caused her entire face to look like a monster. Her actual eye popped out, she was in excruciating pain and her sinuses were extremely swollen. She was physically and mentally suffering - maybe it was a tikkun of hers but how can you expect her to live life looking like a monster and feeling horrible pain every day? There was no cure for her tumor, and she was stuck like that forever until time of death - she requested euthanasia and she passed because of that. But since euthanasia is not acceptable by the torah - how would this be applied to now-a-days or specifically to this woman's situation. Chas Veshalom this should ever happen to anyone but our enemies, but how can someone go through life like that,
Posted By Mor, sunny isles, Florida

Posted: Jan 21, 2010
Gayness
This is controversial, in our current day. I mean no harm, and bless all of the misguided. Once, the word gay meant happy and merry. Now the word itself is ruined. Torah demands that man not lie with a man as he would a woman. All the excuses, like some animals are gay, gayness is normal, no one is getting hurt, are anti Jewish. As Jews, we are not permitted gayness. Look what happened to Sodom and Gemorrah. For non Jews who do not treasure Torah, let them do what they please, but true Jews follow Torah. So what does a man do if he loves a man in a romantic way? One of my brothers went through this with a best friend but did not act on it. The man is still his platonic friend. But my brother met a Jewish woman and loved her instead and has a better life.
Posted By Dee Lee

Posted: Oct 19, 2009
not misreading anything
i for one have not misread yossy's article. what the supreme court upheld was a husband's right to let a woman die naturally and in peace. to my mind there was nothing more godless or inhumane than her being kept artificially alive when clearly she was dead. as for your dismissive and insulting attitude, denoted by your use of quotation marks around the words "progressive" and "intellectuals," quit your moralizing and try being more empathetic. nobody died and made you g-d.
Posted By Anonymous, Brooklyn, NY

Posted: Oct 19, 2009
You're misreading the author's point
I think that the significance of Rabbi Goldman's reference to "starving people to death" is being been overlooked here. This article was written in April 2005, shortly after the infamous Terri Schiavo case in which the "right" of a husband to starve his brain-damaged wife to death was enforced by the US justice system (for those who don't remember the sordid details, Google the name). The comparison with gay "marriage" is simply in the degree of ludicrousness that can be reached when morality is defined by the prevailing populist sentiment or--worse yet--by the bully pulpits of self-styled "progressives" and "intellectuals."
Posted By YYW

Posted: Oct 17, 2009
My gayness connects me to G-d!
differently from what you suggest... and you, Yossy Goldman, should be VERY ashamed of writing such articles. If we never meet in this life, we will certainly do in Gan Eden (if you get there) and I will certainly remind you about this article, these spreaded thoughts and the immense negative effects such writings have on the lifes of Jewish people around the world!
Ciao ciao!
Posted By Avi

Posted: July 27, 2009
"......where gay marriages and starving people to death have become acceptable....." Oy vey zmir! For anyone in the LGBT and progressive thinking community reading this dreck, please take heart that the ones who write these hurtful and harmful things, have absolutely no knowledge of what it is to be, grow up, come out, and to fully become what G-d created them us to be. They have no gay friends (out anyway) that can educate them or show them the many gifts that belong to us and that we share with the world. In their isolated ignorance they believe that being gay is associated with incest and murder. It always amazes me that we come from a tradition of very deep analytical thinking and reasoning and yet on this subject.....it always seems like 5 year olds talking from their very limited experience. To Rabbi Yossy, I say to please go forth and educate thyself, before you cause any more damage to another soul.
Posted By Dov, Jerusalem, Israel

Posted: Oct 10, 2008
thanks RH, from the original poster
yashir koakh. you made my day. :)
Posted By robbie, brooklyn, ny

Posted: Oct 9, 2008
Yeah man, kind of a bull-headed and uninspiring column today on this holiest of days. I haven't heard anybody praise the glorious merit of normalcy in a long time. Can't imagine being president of the South African Rabbinical Association puts you in the normal category. Perhaps wanting to love another man is as natural/normal/even more normal a calling as wanting to live your life as an important and judgmental rabbi. It's also old-fashioned to make animal sacrifices, but these days we let that commandment slide, and it's mentioned a heck of a lot more times than monogamous homosexuality (if homosexual monogamy is truly referred to at all). By denying a homosexual Jew your consent to consider himself a mensch, you take it upon yourself to invalidate a G-d-given instinct that you yourself (?) do not struggle with. You encourage a life of denial and suffering rather than a life of joy in the rightness of G'd's creation. Sorry if that was harsh, but I haven't eaten all day.
Posted By RH

Posted: July 18, 2008
hardly equitable
your comment that "in a world where gay marriages and starving people to death are acceptable" is offensive.

like it or not, when two people of the same sex want to marry, it's because they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. just like straight people.

juxtaposing gay marriage with murder appears to put the two on the same level of atrocity. how can you compare the two, that, even implicitly?

it reminds me that homosexuals were persecuted and murdered en masse along with jews during the third reich, for no other reason than being who they were. no one chooses to be gay any more than anyone chooses to be born jewish.

it seems to me that jews, having suffered thousands of years of intolerance, persecution, discrimination and annihilation, should have learned to be more accepting by now. sadly, we only seem to be becoming more and more factionalized and judgmental.
Posted By Anonymous, Brooklyn, NY



 


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