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The Nineteen-Year Marriage


She's volatile and impulsive, her see-sawing emotions punctuated by bursts of inspired creativity. Occasionally, her luminous personality shines like the full moon; equally frequent, however, are periods of dysfunctional darkness. The rest of the time she vacillates between these extremes, so that one usually finds her in genteel decline or in the throes of painstaking recovery.

He's stolid, dependable, as regular as tomorrow's sunrise. He gets up every morning to catch the train and is always home on time for dinner. At work he's efficient, productive and a stalwart upholder of company policy. His steady gaze benignly looks upon the effervescent surface of his spouse's life.

As can be expected, theirs is not an easy marriage. Their lives do not turn in tandem. Often one sees him forging ahead, her wan figure trailing behind; other times it is he who lags behind as she's impelled forward by one of her bursts of momentum.

But they keep at it. Once every nineteen years their efforts are rewarded. Their disparate life-trajectories merge, and they enjoy a moment of harmony.


The first thing that the newly-born nation of Israel was told to do as they prepared to leave Egypt was not to circumcise themselves, proclaim a state or bake matzos. It was to formulate the Jewish calendar.

Time, after all, is our most precious resource; when it comes down to it, time is all we've got. More than anything else, the way that we quantify and experience time defines who and what we are.

And the Jew has what is probably the most complex calendar known to man.

What makes the Jewish calendar so complicated is its insistence upon reconciling the solar and lunar cycles into a single system. The 29.5 day lunar cycle is the source for the time unit we call "month"; the 365.25 day solar cycle produces the annual cycle of seasons we call "year." The problem is that these two cycles are not compatible with each other -- twelve lunar months add up to 354 days, more than 11 days short of a solar year.

So most calendars pick one of these systems and run with it. The lunar-based Moslem calendar, for example, completely ignores the solar cycle. And the solar-based Gregorian calendar (the "secular" calendar that has become a near-universal standard) is completely disassociated from lunar time.

But in the first mitzvah to be commanded to the people of Israel, G-d instructed Moses to base the Jewish calendar on the phases of the moon, yet to also make it consistent with the solar seasons. The only way to marry these two diverse time-trajectories (without compromising the integrity of either system) is to create a nineteen-year cycle that includes six different types of years: the Jewish year consists of either 12 or 13 months, and is either 353, 354, 355, 383, 384 or 385 days long.

On the third year of the 19-year cycle (by which time the lunar "year" has fallen 33 days behind the solar) an extra month is added, which almost, but not quite, closes the gap. On the 6th year, the process is repeated. On the 8th year, a 13th month actually set the lunar year a few days ahead. But not for long. Soon it once more lags behind. Only at the close of the nineteenth year do the two time-cycles converge.


Why make things so complicated? Because Jewish life is driven by the determination to effect a marriage between these two unlikely spouses.

Jewish time is basically lunar, linked to the moon's monthly rise and fall. Like the moon, we experience times of decline, even moments of obliterating darkness, only to rise again to luminescent fullness. We live our lives with the moon because we wish to harness the distinct qualities of lunar energy: its courage and creativity, its capacity for renaissance and rebirth.

But we are equally determined to incorporate into our lives the surety and continuity of the sun. Life must be creative, but it must also be grounded in unequivocal truths; life is about perpetual self reinvention, but also about faithfulness and consistency.

Trying to ride both time-streams simultaneously is no simple task. The easiest thing to do would be to get a divorce and follow one path through life. But Jews are notorious for their refusal to accept the easier solution.

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Based on the talks and writings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem M. Schneerson; rendered by Yanki Tauber.
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Posted: Jan 28, 2012
Jewish Calendar
Thank you for the reminder that life is perpetual reconciling with our creator. I did not know that "Moslem ignores" such a solar cycle. That information is helpful to me because I have the pleasure of a mixed household. Guess I should read up more about "calendars".
Posted By Naomi Garbo, SLC, UT/USA
via jewishutah.com

Posted: Aug 1, 2011
The Nineteen Year Marriage
Wow! This is exactly what I needed at the tine that i need it most.
Posted By Mrs. lisa huntsman

Posted: Feb 24, 2010
RE: 19 year marriage
We are now in the 13th year of the 304th cycle since creation. The next 19-year cycle will begin in the year 5777, which corresponds to the secular year 2017.
Posted By Menachem Posner for Chabad.org

Posted: Feb 23, 2010
19 year marriage
Does anyone know when the next 19 year marriage is? this was fascinating.
Posted By Anonymous, Alpharetta, ga

Posted: Nov 6, 2009
THE NINETEEN YEAR MARRIAGE
Thanks for sharing the short tale... and the explanations about the Jewish Calendar... Is the best one I have got so far... Congratulations.
Posted By Anonymous, Guadalajara, jalisco

Posted: July 23, 2009
Beautiful Writing!!
Posted By Ana Rose, Eugene

Posted: Oct 30, 2008
THE NINETEEN YEAR MARRIAGE
This article is genius in its creativity
grounded in its research
knowledgeable and
a pleasure to read
Posted By Anonymous, Perth, Australia

Posted: Feb 7, 2008
SO the short answer is the the Sabbath is not a Gregorian creation but is the true Jewish Calendar.
Posted By The Energizer Benny

Posted: Feb 7, 2008
The answer to that is that the Jews were the ones who never let go of the 7 day calendar, which they got from The Big Guy on Mt. Sinai. Early groups liked the idea of a day off and "coppied" the Jews. People tried to change it at least twice. In Rome, and again following the French Revolution, hoping to really "shake things up" around the world. But the 7 day week prevailed
Posted By The Energizer Benny

Posted: Nov 19, 2007
Keeping Time
The Aztec Sunstone is another complex timepiece. In that system, 52 year cycles predominate many of their measurements and calculations.
Posted By Mark Cameron, Walsenburg, Colorado



 


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