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My Grandma's Selective Memory


My grandmother came to America -- from Russia with a four-year stopover in Israel -- around 1930. She, her husband and two infant boys settled in a Jewish neighborhood in New Jersey. The older boys in the neighborhood welcomed them by snatching their yarmulkes off their heads.

Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak (the sixth Lubavitcher Rebbe) was visiting America around that time. His Soviet-imposed death sentence had only recently been commuted to life in internal exile, and shortly thereafter he was released/deported from Workers' Paradise. In America Jews lined up to seek his counsel, his blessing.

My grandmother came into his room: her two-year old on her arm, her three-year old holding her other hand. She saw the Rebbe's face and burst into tears: how will I raise children in such a hard land.

The Rebbe smiled so wide he began laughing; she thought at her and was insulted. It is a hard land, he conceded, growing serious, but in this land you will raise gutte yiddisher chassidishe kinder.

My grandmother lived long enough that her mind was no longer encumbered by recent memory: she told this story with its full emotion and ten minutes later she told it again, not missing the slightest detail, not missing the slightest emotion.

She would end each telling with: But I did not let that blessing sit, I put it to full work!

I don't think she ever lost her initial enthusiasm. I think if she had she would never have been the person she was. (When she joined her Americanized family for picnics she brought along sandwiches to adhere to the kosher laws. They nicknamed her Mrs. Sandviches. She told them she works hard to understand them, why don't they work to understand her? The teasing stopped.)

For two Parshiot the Torah told us the details of the Tabernacle, the first synagogue: the sockets of the walls, the decorative cups of the menorah, the seams of the clothing. Now for two Parshiot the Torah tells us that it was all fulfilled. The exhaustive repetition begs explanation; until we notice two words, nediv libo describing the people who gave for the Tabernacle--"that their heart was full of giving."

The future is by definition daunting, your personal future and your people’s. How do you get from divine concept to empirical reality? For that you need passion, a heart full of giving. A passion that never wavers and burns bright as the first time it was lit. By a face smiling so wide it looked like he is laughing.

Maybe, just maybe he was. Maybe he saw something beyond the daunting future. Maybe it filled him with a satisfaction and vindication that he could not, would not, did not want to contain. If I knew for certain I would be a Rebbe.

This I know. My grandmother lived with whatever it was that he gave her. Without meaning to sound coarse, but realizing I do, I am grateful that her –- can I call it a selective memory? -- gave me a glimpse of something burning that was never extinguished, consuming but never consumed.

She built in America what architects of the land said could not be supported. But then, looking at blueprints, it can be hard to see passion.

We will read these portions for the next two weeks. We will think they are redundant. We will remember that moving from heaven to earth -- bringing heaven to earth -- demands a passion of the heart that allows for no redundancy. We will repeat it with a passion that has not abated.


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Rabbi Shimon Posner is the director of Chabad of Rancho Mirage, California.

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Posted: Mar 20, 2009
Raise gutte yiddisher chassidishe kinder
Was it G-d laughing behind the Rebbe’s face? Knowing that she came to a free country, free to practice her religion, free to express her feelings—freedom to mankind, like the Rebbe knew, being himself exiled and deported from another country where Jews were suppressed to practice their religion. I believe G-d was only smiling at her like a father would do to his children but certainly not laughing at her.
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Posted: Mar 18, 2009
Words of wisdom, thank you! This new land has great challenges, but if we can all draw upon the selective wisdom of our grandmothers, grandfathers, and ancestors before them, we will be able to build the dream that they first sowed into this new land.
Posted By josh f.

Posted: Mar 17, 2009
on memory
Rabbi,
After experiencing our mother's decline, we came to believe that that with the lost of the "stuff" of memory, people become more purely themselves. All the extras fade away, and what remains is the core. Your grandmother, like our mother, was a person of joy and gratitude. For all the sadness of dementia, it's nice to be able to see what matters most.
Posted By Anonymous



 


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