Don't be judgmental. Unless, of course you happen to be a judge. Then it's your job.
This week's parshah, Shoftim (Deuteronomy 16:18-21:9) , lists the
Biblical command for judges to be appointed in every city and town to adjudicate
and maintain a just, ordered, civil society. Interestingly, it occurs in the
first week of Elul, the month in which we are to prepare in earnest for the Days
of Judgment ahead, Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.
There are, however, some significant differences between earthly judges of
flesh and blood and the Heavenly Judge. In the earthly court, if, after a fair
trial, a defendant is found guilty, then there's really not much room for
clemency on the part of the judge. The law is the law and must take its course.
The accused may shed rivers of tears, but no human judge can be certain if his
remorse is genuine. His feelings of regret are touching but of limited legal
consequence. After all, a human judge may only make a decision based on "what
the eye can see." The misdeed was seen to have been committed. The remorse, who
knows? Perhaps he's a good actor and is only acting contrite. The Supreme Judge,
however, does know whether the accused genuinely regrets his actions or
is merely putting on an act. Therefore, He alone is able to forgive. That is why
in heavenly judgments, teshuvah (repentance) is effective.
The Maharal of Prague gave another reason. Only G‑d is able to judge the
whole person. Every one of us has good and bad to some extent. Even those who
have sinned may have many other good deeds that outweigh the bad ones. Perhaps
even one good deed was of such major significance that it alone could serve as a
weighty counterbalance. The point is, only G‑d knows. Only He can judge the
individual in the context of his whole life and all his deeds, good and bad.
Our goal is to emulate the Heavenly Court. We should try to look at the
totality of the person. You think he is bad, but is he all bad? Does he have no
redeeming virtues? Surely, he must have some good in him as well. Look at the
whole person.
A teacher once conducted an experiment. He held up a white plate and showed
it to the class. In the center of the plate was a small black spot. He then
asked the class to describe what they saw. One student said he saw a black spot.
Another said it must be a target for shooting practice. A third suggested that
the plate was dirty or damaged. Whereupon the teacher asked, "Doesn't anyone see
a white plate?"
There may have been a small black spot but, essentially, it was a white
plate. Why do we only see the dirt? Let us learn to find the good in others.
Nobody is perfect, not even ourselves. Let's not be so judgmental and critical.
Let's try to see the good in others.