One of the mysteries of life is that it is the ordinary, mundane things that are our undoing. The same person who is capable of the most noble thoughts and inspiring creations finds it so difficult to resist that extra cookie or that questionable dollar. Why is it easier to develop our spiritual potential than to gain mastery over our physical selves?
Chassidic teaching explains this phenomenon as a matter of chronology. A person's physical drives are his from the womb, while his spiritual faculties develop only later in life.1 The same is true on the cosmic level: the spiritual vitality of our world, as well as our own souls, hail from the world of Tikkun, which is the more "recent" phase of G-d's creation, while the physical substance of the universe is the residue of the primordial world of Tohu--the volatile world that self-destructed when its vitality proved too potent for its own defining parameters.2 So the effort to overpower one's
primordial physical drives can prove an extremely difficult task for the more "recent" spiritual powers of man.
Two Degrees of Relation
In the 30th chapter of Numbers, the Torah discusses the laws that pertain to the annulment of vows. One of the ways in which a vow can be annulled is through veto by a husband, who has the authority to declare his wife's vows null and void.
The Torah differentiates between two categories of husband: an arus, or betrothed, and a baal, or full husband. Under Torah law, marriage consists of two distinct stages. First comes the betrothal (erusin), by
which the bride becomes "forbidden to the rest of the world." 3 From this point on, for another man to have relations with her
is tantamount to adultery, and to dissolve the betrothal requires a get (writ of divorce), as for a full-fledged marriage. The betrothal, however, only establishes the prohibitive side of marriage (the exclusion of all other men
from the relationship), but not the substance of the relationship itself--the two still cannot live together as man and wife. This is achieved through the second stage of marriage, the nissu'in, which renders man and wife "one
flesh." 4 In Biblical and Talmudic times, the eirusin and the nissu'in were held on two separate occasions, so that for a certain period of time (usually a year) the bride and groom were bound by the prohibitions of marriage but had not yet begun their actual life together. In this period, the groom is called an arus; following the nissu'in, he assumes the status of baal.
Regarding the annulment of vows, the arus and the baal differ in two respects. The baal has the authority to annul his wife's vows on his own, while the arus can do so only in conjunction with his bride's
father. On the other hand, there is also an area in which the authority of the arus is greater than that of the baal: the baal can only annul vows made by his wife after their marriage (nissu'in), while the
arus can revoke earlier vows, including those made by his bride prior to their betrothal.
The Talmud explains that these two laws are interdependent. Because the baal's ability to annul his wife's vows derives solely from the relationship between them, he has no authority over vows made before this relationship came into being. And because the arus' authority is in partnership with the father, it extends as far back as that of the father. 5
The Negative Life
No two human beings live the same life. As the Talmud puts it, "just as their faces differ from each other, so, too, do their minds differ from each other." 6 Nevertheless, our sages describe two basic types of individual and state that every man falls under one of these two general categories. Maimonides refers to them as "the perfectly pious" and "the one who conquers his inclinations." 7 In his Tanya, Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi speaks of them as the tzaddik and the beinoni. We might call them the baal
personality and the arus personality.
The "arus personality" is one whose life is taken up with the struggle against evil. Because he is forever battling the negative in himself and the world, he has scant opportunity for cultivating the good. He is like the arus
and his bride, whose relationship is defined solely by what must be disavowed and resisted.
The "baal personality" is beyond all that. The dark side of human nature does not haunt him and the enticements of evil do not tempt him. Instead, he devotes his life to the development of the divine goodness and perfection implicit in G-d's creation. He is like the baal and his wife, whose marriage has progressed beyond merely excluding all that is deleterious to their relationship, to the realization of their union and the generation of progeny.
Morally and spiritually, the baal stands on his own two feet, secure in his station, all but immune to the forces that threaten the integrity of the arus. The arus, on the other hand, knows that he cannot do it on his own, that "were it not for G-d's helping him, he could not defeat the evil inclination."8 Everything he achieves is "in
conjunction with the father"--he is ever dependent upon his Father in Heaven for the strength to wage the battle of life.
But in the arus' limitation lies his strength. The baal might be sovereign in his spiritual world, but he lacks the capacity to deal with that which preceded him--his reach does not extend to the volatile world of Tohu. It the arus who, drawing his authority from the father, confronts the primordial font of raw energy trapped in the physical reality. He might never win the battle, but his very engagement of his adversary realizes a deeper and more potent stratum of the divine purpose in creation.9
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