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Widow and Mother of Toulouse Victims Issues Heartfelt Call for Light

Widow and Mother of Toulouse Victims Issues Heartfelt Call for Light

Miriam Monsonego, left, Aryeh Sandler, Gavriel Sandler, and Rabbi Jonathan Sandler perished in the attack on the Ozar Hatorah high school in Toulouse, France.
Miriam Monsonego, left, Aryeh Sandler, Gavriel Sandler, and Rabbi Jonathan Sandler perished in the attack on the Ozar Hatorah high school in Toulouse, France.

Eva Sandler, the French widow and mother who lost her husband and two of their children in the Monday’s attack outside the Ozar Hatorah high school in Toulouse, implored people around the world to carry on the victims’ memories by doing good deeds and recommitting themselves to Torah study.

Of particular value to Sandler, she said, and to the souls of Rabbi Jonathan Sandler, Aryeh Sandler and Gavriel Sandler, was the lighting of this week’s Sabbath candles.

“There are no ways for me to be able to express the great and all-consuming pain resulting from the murder of my dear husband and sons,” Sandler announced Thursday night in a statement released by Judaism website But “because so many of you, my cherished brothers and sisters in France and around the world, are asking what you can do on my behalf, on behalf of my daughter Liora, and on behalf of the souls of my dear husband and children, I feel that, difficult though it may be, it is incumbent upon me to answer your entreaties.

“Please bring more light into the world by kindling the Sabbath candles this and every Friday night,” she continued. “Please do so a bit earlier than the published times as a way to add holiness to our world.”

Thankful for the short time she was granted to spend with her family on this physical Earth, she asked parents everywhere to kiss their children.

“Tell them how much you love them,” she requested, “and how dear it is to your heart that they be living examples of our Torah, imbued with the fear of Heaven and with love of their fellow man.”

Sandler, who extended condolences to the family of seven-year-old Miriam Monsonego, also asked that individuals increase their study of Torah, and that they help others who find such study difficult. Turning to the approaching holiday of Passover, she implored households to invite one other person to their Seders.

“No man can extinguish the spirit of the Jewish people or destroy its connection with Torah and its commandments,” she said. “May it be G‑d’s will that from this moment on, we will all only know happiness.”

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March 29, 2012
I am sorry
I am so very sorry you and all of the jewish community, world wide, have to live with what happened to your loved ones. I do see that this is bringing us all closer together. May Hashem bless you excessingly, pressed down, shaken together and overflowing.
Kidron del Oeste
San Jose, San Jose/Costa Rica/ America Central
March 29, 2012
Dear Mrs. Sandler,
You are Amazing.
I hope never to be in your painful situation but i hope that one day I can be as great as you are.

You are my Role Model.

Your strength guides me through every day life.

Carry on, for you, for the lost ones and for the rest of us.

You are Light to The World.
Brooklyn, New York [NY]
March 26, 2012
Widow & Mother of Toulouse Victims
Moschiach now about sums up my feelings and reaffirms my belief that the protection of Israel as a place of physical and spiritual refuge is a priority for Jewry.

May the Sandler family find some peace and refuge in Hashem.
Howard Crawford
Sydney, Australia
March 26, 2012
With a mother's heart
I cannot imagine the abyss of pain that has befallen you, Mrs. Sandler, but please know that my mother's heart cries with yours...
I will light early, and hold your dear ones in my prayers while I do.
Cleveland, OH
March 26, 2012
I feel so sad
I feel so sad. I am French and I am not affiliated to any religion, but many French people that I know, and especially me and my wife wanted to express our solidarity even if it is nothing compared to such an incommensurate pain.
Philippe Blaise
Grenoble, France
March 25, 2012
light Shabbos Candles
By doing a simple act of lighting Shabbos Candles we all can do and to bring coming of redemption soon.
May we have all good for Jewiish people everywere.
March 24, 2012
Hashem's will
Like others, I was horrified at the Toulouse tragedy and moved to tears by the heartfelt message of the bereaved widower Chava (Eva) Sandler following the loss of her husband and two small children--zichronam li’vrakha.

I am left questioning though whether the memory of those killed are being served as Hashem would want when we precede their names with "Hashem Yikom Damo" (“may G-d avenge his blood”), as the photographs in Chabad’s newsletter did.

Ms. Sandler pleaded in her message that we teach our children to be living examples of the Torah. She also shared that her beloved departed husband, zikhrono li’vrakha, was "always searching for ways to reveal the goodness in others."

Though it may not (and should not!) be realistic to find forgiveness within our hearts for those who commit such heinous crimes, I cannot believe that it is Hashem’s will that we honor the memories of those killed by hoping for revenge.
Tova Reznicek
Boston, MA
March 24, 2012
A Woman of Valor
My heart goes out to Rebbetzen Eva Sandler, who while struck by the worst tragedy imaginable is able to reach out to comfort us,as we all grieve.
boca, USA
March 24, 2012
What they did to you, they did to me.
My heart weeps.
Gisborne, NZ
March 23, 2012
the Sandler children
I lit candles 23 minutes before the published time (to bring more light into the world). I prayed for the souls of Aryeh, Gabriel and Miriam. I prayed for the soul of Rabbi Sandler, and for his courageous wife Eva.I wish I could do more. As I write this, my eyes are filled with tears. G-d bless this family.
Micah Glover
Dallas, Texas
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