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Widow and Mother of Toulouse Victims Issues Heartfelt Call for Light

Widow and Mother of Toulouse Victims Issues Heartfelt Call for Light

Miriam Monsonego, left, Aryeh Sandler, Gavriel Sandler, and Rabbi Jonathan Sandler perished in the attack on the Ozar Hatorah high school in Toulouse, France.
Miriam Monsonego, left, Aryeh Sandler, Gavriel Sandler, and Rabbi Jonathan Sandler perished in the attack on the Ozar Hatorah high school in Toulouse, France.

Eva Sandler, the French widow and mother who lost her husband and two of their children in the Monday’s attack outside the Ozar Hatorah high school in Toulouse, implored people around the world to carry on the victims’ memories by doing good deeds and recommitting themselves to Torah study.

Of particular value to Sandler, she said, and to the souls of Rabbi Jonathan Sandler, Aryeh Sandler and Gavriel Sandler, was the lighting of this week’s Sabbath candles.

“There are no ways for me to be able to express the great and all-consuming pain resulting from the murder of my dear husband and sons,” Sandler announced Thursday night in a statement released by Judaism website But “because so many of you, my cherished brothers and sisters in France and around the world, are asking what you can do on my behalf, on behalf of my daughter Liora, and on behalf of the souls of my dear husband and children, I feel that, difficult though it may be, it is incumbent upon me to answer your entreaties.

“Please bring more light into the world by kindling the Sabbath candles this and every Friday night,” she continued. “Please do so a bit earlier than the published times as a way to add holiness to our world.”

Thankful for the short time she was granted to spend with her family on this physical Earth, she asked parents everywhere to kiss their children.

“Tell them how much you love them,” she requested, “and how dear it is to your heart that they be living examples of our Torah, imbued with the fear of Heaven and with love of their fellow man.”

Sandler, who extended condolences to the family of seven-year-old Miriam Monsonego, also asked that individuals increase their study of Torah, and that they help others who find such study difficult. Turning to the approaching holiday of Passover, she implored households to invite one other person to their Seders.

“No man can extinguish the spirit of the Jewish people or destroy its connection with Torah and its commandments,” she said. “May it be G‑d’s will that from this moment on, we will all only know happiness.”

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Kidron del Oeste San Jose, San Jose/Costa Rica/ America Central March 29, 2012

I am sorry I am so very sorry you and all of the jewish community, world wide, have to live with what happened to your loved ones. I do see that this is bringing us all closer together. May Hashem bless you excessingly, pressed down, shaken together and overflowing. Reply

Inspired. Brooklyn, New York [NY] March 29, 2012

Dear Mrs. Sandler, You are Amazing.
I hope never to be in your painful situation but i hope that one day I can be as great as you are.

You are my Role Model.

Your strength guides me through every day life.

Carry on, for you, for the lost ones and for the rest of us.

You are Light to The World. Reply

Howard Crawford Sydney, Australia March 26, 2012

Widow & Mother of Toulouse Victims Moschiach now about sums up my feelings and reaffirms my belief that the protection of Israel as a place of physical and spiritual refuge is a priority for Jewry.

May the Sandler family find some peace and refuge in Hashem. Reply

Chavi Cleveland, OH March 26, 2012

With a mother's heart I cannot imagine the abyss of pain that has befallen you, Mrs. Sandler, but please know that my mother's heart cries with yours...
I will light early, and hold your dear ones in my prayers while I do. Reply

Philippe Blaise Grenoble, France March 26, 2012

I feel so sad I feel so sad. I am French and I am not affiliated to any religion, but many French people that I know, and especially me and my wife wanted to express our solidarity even if it is nothing compared to such an incommensurate pain. Reply

dina sf March 25, 2012

light Shabbos Candles By doing a simple act of lighting Shabbos Candles we all can do and to bring coming of redemption soon.
May we have all good for Jewiish people everywere. Reply

Tova Reznicek Boston, MA March 24, 2012

Hashem's will Like others, I was horrified at the Toulouse tragedy and moved to tears by the heartfelt message of the bereaved widower Chava (Eva) Sandler following the loss of her husband and two small children--zichronam li’vrakha.

I am left questioning though whether the memory of those killed are being served as Hashem would want when we precede their names with "Hashem Yikom Damo" (“may G-d avenge his blood”), as the photographs in Chabad’s newsletter did.

Ms. Sandler pleaded in her message that we teach our children to be living examples of the Torah. She also shared that her beloved departed husband, zikhrono li’vrakha, was "always searching for ways to reveal the goodness in others."

Though it may not (and should not!) be realistic to find forgiveness within our hearts for those who commit such heinous crimes, I cannot believe that it is Hashem’s will that we honor the memories of those killed by hoping for revenge. Reply

Aviva boca, USA via March 24, 2012

A Woman of Valor My heart goes out to Rebbetzen Eva Sandler, who while struck by the worst tragedy imaginable is able to reach out to comfort us,as we all grieve. Reply

Rachel Gisborne, NZ March 24, 2012

Eva What they did to you, they did to me.
My heart weeps. Reply

Micah Glover Dallas, Texas March 23, 2012

the Sandler children I lit candles 23 minutes before the published time (to bring more light into the world). I prayed for the souls of Aryeh, Gabriel and Miriam. I prayed for the soul of Rabbi Sandler, and for his courageous wife Eva.I wish I could do more. As I write this, my eyes are filled with tears. G-d bless this family. Reply

Rabbi Charna Klein Seattle, WA/USA via March 23, 2012

Your Pure Soul Brings Light to the World Mrs. Sandler,
May you and the family be comforted among the mourners of Zion. I am so sorry for your and our loss. You are an amazing light to the world. May you be blessed as you raise your daughter to chupah and maasim tovim. Reply

Silvia panitch Chicago, Usa via March 23, 2012

I don't have enough words to express my pain to see you suffering. I can feel your strenght and I pray you will continue mto have faith in a better world to come and you will reunite with your love ones. Reply

Evan Philadelphia, PA March 23, 2012

Grieving The Loss I truly don't know how to express the way I feel for miss Eva. Yes if it was a personal friend of mine I'd tear all my clothing (of course in the privacy & isolation of my bedroom). People who kill and commit heinous crimes should be brought to justice, but it seems like some good souls just turn the wrong direction and take another loved and respected individual's life. It's just so hard to comprehend. Here I am being fearful of the future, but today is truly what's important. My deepest sorrow goes out to Miss Eva Sandler and her friends and family. Reply

Penny Kanefield PBG, Fl March 23, 2012

G-d bless you and your precious family~You are all in my heart and prayers~

Shabbat Shalom~ Reply

Philippe Blaise Grenoble, France March 23, 2012

I feel so sad. I just want to say that I feel so sad. I'm French, I'm not affiliated to any religion, but, I would like to say that many people in France, and me and my wife in particular would like to express our solidarity even if it is nothing compared to such an incommensurate pain. Reply

Penny Kanefield Palm Beach, Fl March 23, 2012

I am Jewish...My heart aches for you and your lovely family~My beautiful young woman, you are in my heart and prayers......If there is ever anything I can do, please call on me~May G-d bless you, my very brave new friend and family~
With Love,

Penny Kanefield~
Shabbat Shalom~ Reply

Tuovi Mannström Kronoby, Select State/Province March 23, 2012

tears I am not jewish but still i can feel sorry for your great most be very hard for you, but know this G-d will comfort and help you through this terrible times.

I know that many christian people have been veryawful against your people. there are still christian people who wants to support you.

Shabbat Shalom. Reply

Jae Farkas Santa Clarita, CA via March 23, 2012

May her loving spirit give her strength I cannot imagine the pain and anguish this woman is suffering. What a loving, life affirming message she is offering the world. I am humbled and blessed. I will think of her as I light shabbos candles. Reply

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