We all tak about it; but what is it? What is the science of attraction? What does a man truly find irresistible about a woman? Can attraction only be about the ... More
We all tak about it; but what is it? What is the science of attraction? What does a man truly find irresistible about a woman? Can attraction only be about the continuation of our species?
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The Rabbi speaks about how things should be.
I feel he doesn't address the spiritual "dynamics" of physical and sensual attraction.
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You said the person chooses to be single. This doesnt come from above. To be single or have someone. Im single and I dont choose to be this way. I dont want to be this way. But I cant get anyone. Please explain.
Your other half comes from Above?
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The Rabbi should be a keynote speaker at the state and federal level when it comes to the subject of marriage being only between a man and a woman. He is once again, right. The completeness can come because of the fact that the lock and key matches. Without the proper fit, without the unique qualities that each gender can give the other, the door will not open, happiness and fullfillment can never be achieved. When male loves and "marries" only a male, and female only female, the lock remains with a lock and the key with the key....incomplete and useless..forever seaching for meaning.
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Reading the comments of some regarding the message of Rabbi Friedman, i understand that some people considere themselves compleet in themselve, that is by and for only themselve, if this is to be compleet so be it, but how pretentious to think that the world start and finishes with you? For sure to be complete must surely includes something or someone else. In this unjewish way, one may even be completely jewish without any other jewish person, then there will be the synagogue and services of one, who needs 10 anymore? completness of one by itself is completly absurde,crazy and other qualifications that i do not write here...
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Rabbi Friedman is so very wise! It cannot be denied that men and women complete each other. A good marriage is beautiful but, oh, so rare. But what about those of us who choose to be single? Perhaps we are widows or widowers but we no longer desire a spouse. When there is completion in singleness, that is a very happy state indeed!
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I'd like to add that I am so envious of people, especially women, who know they belong in this particular little box, and drop everything to convert. They know where they belong, they feel comfortable with the biology they're given, and they feel comfortable potentially marrying someone SOLELY for the mitzvah of having physical children (which many believe and do, please don't say this isn't true.). I know it's a mitzvah for men to do this, and that's great, those aren't my rules...but to me it's so sadly shallow to spend 50+ years of your life knowing that this is THE reason you got married in the first place. I'm very envious of people who know where they belong. This is a very confusing and painful topic for me.
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I am very confused, because so many seem more married to their children than to their spouses. Birth control is not permitted in Orthodox Judaism, niddah is built around the female's fertile period, and isn't there a mitzvah to divorce your spouse after ten years of not producing physical children?? And it's even written about Michal that she died without children, as if that's the sum total of her life.
I ask this because though I love Judaism, I am struggling with the Jewish idea of marriage. I have been volutarily surgically sterilized at 27 (before I ever knew anything Judaic) but I do NOT regret it. To me it is more than offensive to have so many Torah teachers tell me on one hand, a woman is "unfulfilled" if she doesn't have physical children..and a man isn't really "amazed" until he sees how she takes care of the children....but remember, the point of marriage isn't children!
I don't disagree with R' Freidman at all, in fact, I do agree. I just don't see very much of it.
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Thank you. U r so well spoken and interesting. I enjoyed listening to u.
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If you marry young and than after 15yrs realize or shall I say have this urge within that their is something (spiritual) or someone (soul-mate) other than the one you married or had children with, out there for you. Thus, you both have grown apart and see everything in life so differently. Does that mean you are not meant to be married with that person anymore? If you were meant to be, married and had children, why after so many years would you grow apart? especially that the connection you talk about was there in the begining; at the age of 15 and now at the age of earily 30's I feel so empty..But yet, there is this Urge, this gravitational pull sort to say..
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