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The Harmonic Relationship, Is It Really Attainable?





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Lazer Gurkow
Rabbi Gurkow is spiritual leader of congregation Beth Tefilah in London, Ontario. He has lectured extensively on a variety of Jewish topics, and his articles have appeared in many print and online publications. For more on Rabbi Gurkow and his wrtings and talks, please click here.



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Posted: Mar 18, 2009
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Posted By Randy Shoostine, Brookline, MA

Posted: Mar 18, 2009
Commitment
Dear Malka 66,
Your experience is indeed a horrible one. It takes two to form a commitment; one cannot go it alone.

I don't know what happened to turn your husband against himself or whether he was realy ever cured from himself in the first place. I do know that you are right for not taking the blame for his shortcomings.

There is no question that you were destined to be in this marriage for reasons that are known to G-d. Perhaps you can discern for yourself some of the blessings that have come to you through this marriage amidst all the angst and suffering.

Nevertheless I am sorry to hear that you continue to suffer from the negative rumors your ex is circulating. May your comfort come quickly and may you only know happiness all the days of your life.
Posted By Lazer Gurkow

Posted: Mar 18, 2009
Committment
I waited until I was 30 to marry. My husband was 10 years older with two children from a previous marriage. I know there was a degree of turmoil and fighting between him and his exwife. He never spoke a kind word about her ever. My marriage in the beginning was a fairytale we got custody of his two children, had a beautiful daughter, bought homes, renovated, built an office together, traveled and the list gets longer. We had goals dreams and many great hopes together. Then came the alcohol, verbal, mental, emotional & occasionally the physical abuse. His extramarital affairs were hidden well, always blaming me for all that went wrong. Acusing me constantly of our debts his drinking & lack of sexual fulfillment. I wanted to stay married for our children, our committment & all we had built together. After a violent physical incident I filed for divorce. I am now the black sheep of our community for all the horrible things he has told everyone about me. He blames me still is full of anger
Posted By Malka66, Tampa, FL
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